| PUA Forum https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| Losing attraction https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=25&t=66316 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | Felon [ Mon Apr 26, 2010 3:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Losing attraction |
Hi guys. recently i have been talking to this girl on the phone a lot. she has always been the one calling but i realized that our conversations have been running out of substance. I'm afraid that she'll lose attraction if it gets too boring. what should i do or what should i say? |
|
| Author: | ShadowSketched [ Mon Apr 26, 2010 10:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
The problem is that you're too boring. Get an interesting hobby, like urban exploration, bungee jumping, or Magic the Gathering. More importantly, have passion in these hobbies. That way, she can see why you're into them--they're supposed to be for you, not as a way to get into a girl's pants. |
|
| Author: | Jav [ Mon Apr 26, 2010 11:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Be unpredictable |
|
| Author: | Felon [ Mon Apr 26, 2010 11:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
any tips as to what i could do to show some unpredictability? i've literally ran out of options. we talk so often that its all like routine now |
|
| Author: | casthenova [ Mon Apr 26, 2010 11:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Don't set up a routine and become into a set form or else she will be conditioned to respond which will make you act on obligation instead of through your self. If you always answer, then it is harder to do this. I learned to keep my availability completely random. I modeled it after a conditioning study, which basically found if you do things at random, unexpected intervals (such as winning at slot machines) our minds become conditioned and addicted to the response. If we don't always get the result, and don't know when its coming, we become addicted to the process. If we knew we were going to win every 10,000th time we played slots, it might not be as addictive. If your girl knows every time she beckons you are right there, regardless of what you are talking about, this is not going to produce the desired affect. I'll do something as simple as saying to myself, we talked monday, so today I am going to ignore for an hour and go read a book, then call her back. The next day I will answer, the next day I won't answer and won't call back. Change it up every single time, but repeat the answering right away in there. Even better, try to reward her when she behaves well by answering right away, and distance yourself a little bit if she behaves unfavorably. If she acts aloof, comfortable and not energetic, don't answer the next day. If she calls and is positive, fun, puts herself into the conversation, answer. Mix up calling her sometimes too. Vary your communication and be creative. Do anything and everything but never get in a set pattern of just BORING PREDICTABLE BEHAVIOR. |
|
| Author: | ataraxia_88 [ Tue Apr 27, 2010 3:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
talk on the phone less, talk in person more. exceptional body language can make any lame-ass conversation seem fascinating. This doesn't get monotonous. |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|