Hey guys,
My issues with girls have always been related to my Inner game (false beliefs,..)
But that doesn't mean I can't make Outer Game changes as well, I think work on both ends can help.
One change that I really want to make is to smile all the time (or almost), and I'm not talking about the hugest smile you can make like if you won millions at the lottery, but more like a confident smirk-smile that expresses confidence and positive feelings.
Think about it, who looks the most approachable: someone with a smile or someone with a depressed look on his face?
When I take the subway I see all those depressed faces.
I remember there was an interesting social psychology study:
1 group of people had a pencil between their teeth, this activates the muscles you use to smile.
The other group of people had a pencil between their lips, this doesn't activate the muscles you use to smile
Both groups were asked to watch the same Cartoon, the group with the pencil between their teeth rated the cartoon as being more amusing than the group with the pencil between their lips.
Here's a wikipedia link that I found about it http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facial_feedback_hypothesis,
The main idea is: "an individual who is forced to smile during a social event will actually come to find the event more of an enjoyable experience"
When I see people in the subway I see depressed faces, I feel like I live in a really poor country where there has been a war going on or something like that and that doesn't make me want to approach them.
I don't think it will be easy to train myself having a smile on my face most of the time, but I'm focusing on that for the moment, and if that doesn't work I'll walk al day long with a pencil between my teeth....
