Once you start to get regular lays, you may realise, as I did, two things (among many other things):
1) The lay is not the end (in terms of what you want - you may want to convert to fb/LTR/friend)
2) The lay is not the end (in terms of pickup - her coming back to you, and even recommending her friends will depend upon your performance)
The upshot? Your performance in bed is important. And your first few times, you ARE going to suck (excuse the pun).
There's an abdunance of great literature on this which you'll have to try out to get a real grasp of, but I want to talk about...
"Making noise" during sex; something a lot of guys feel uncomfortable about. Aight. Skip to the chase:
- You want her to be making noise; moaning/groaning/talking
- To help her do that, 'you go first'; try and let yourself verbalise your pleasure
- Talk to her. You want to bring her up to orgasm. I've spent a fair amount of time analysing home-made lesbian porn movies
and talking to lesbians, and what they do well is bring each other up to orgasm through talking.
If you are using techniques such as those in NLP, you may want to be more structured; but there's no real need.
Some of my favourite ones are (and this is one situation where most porn movies aren't completely useless & fake):
"How does that feel?"
"You like that?"
"SAY I LIKE THAT GAMBLE"
"SAY IT"
"Hold that feeling"
"Don't orgasm yet"
"Hold it..."
"You horny fucking slut" (calling her names is a good one, but be careful you don't hit a chord)
(lol, this sounds hilarious...).
Be aggressive.
So yeah. Make noise. Talk to her. Bring her to orgasm. Keep her coming back (if that's what you want). Girls find it hard
to find guys who provide good sex. Once they find one they won't be losing you in a hurry
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