As the name implies, this is a ramble. A good one though.
Couple of nights ago I was in the club with a couple of friends and things were NOT going good. It got me thinking about the conflicting terms of laying back and enjoying the moment and pushing yourself to get the most.
At the time the two seemed in perfect conflict, and being in the club it was rather pressuring trying to figure out what approach to take.
It's obvious that if you push yourself to the max you are going to score something, even if you walk around the club asking every girl if she wants to have sex with you. But why is it that so many of us find that when you push ourselves like that we end up feeling like running on a treadmill? Why do we end up standing there fighting back exasperation and mustering up the energy to make one more approach?
On the other hand, when you kick back, relax, and enjoy yourself you find exasperation is gone. You end up sitting with a couple friends having fun. Not worrying too much and not caring what happens next. It's a zen-like state. If you have no where to go you having nothing to be in a hurry for.
Yet when you kick back and relax, you may be having fun, you might even be the coolest person in the club or bar. You might be in the center of attention and you might be admired by everyone around you. But you still are not getting laid.
To start off, when you are entering a club, or entering a venue, or entering a new day, or entering PUA or entering life, you must ask yourself first and foremost what do I want?
What are my goals and what am I working for?
Most of us have no idea. Some people want to get laid, some people want a GF. Some people just want to improve themselves. But we all need a goal and too few of us actually bother to define what we want out of life.
Now I'll give you a moment here as an opportunity to look at your own life and come to realize what your goals are.
Now, with your goals in mind, it would be nice if you can add some motivation.
Now what is motivation? Motivation is an engine that pushes you to do things. What kind of motivation do you want? Let me add a small analogy of you walking in the forest and you come to a small rock that you decide to flip over and UNDER that rock is a fucking bug, and insect! It's fucking trying to get out of the light and away from you. It's going CRAZY! It will do anything to try to get away, get to safety.
Well, safety lies beyond your goals. That is the only safe place you have. Set your goals far, cause people tend to undershoot. Make your goals big cause you may surprise yourself. But where ever your goals are, that is safety and you need to RUN to those goals to find them, and you know what your goals are, and you know where to find them and you know that achieving your goals is the only way you can find comfort and peace of mind. There is no other way.
Now that we've cleared up some of the subconscious issues, you can relax. You've told your subconscious mind what your goals are and how bad you want them done, and your subconscious mind is a damn smart fellow, he can make them happen.
Now you need to get your stupid conscious mind out of the way. Relax it and let it enjoy the moment. It is only after you've told your subconscious mind what to do that you can let your conscious mind rest and be set at ease.
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