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| Author: | V1V [ Mon Feb 08, 2010 10:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Spontaneous. |
We ALL have moments when we are gaming a girl whilst she is not actually in our presence, for example over facebook or text and we think - fuck. What do I say now. It happens to PUA's more than people think. I've noticed a lot of guys (Like all my lectures, I have fucked up in the past and learnt from it) decide to fill this blank space with constructing future plans with themselves and the girl. Example - A girl gives you her number. You text game quite a bit, you've got a lot of things to say and a lot of theories to apply. You arrange a first date two weeks later (you cant do before then because your free and busy spaces clash). In that space of two weeks, you use all your material and still have a week left before the date. She can really imagine herself hitting it off with you, you seem so fun in your texts. She carries on texting you. You got nothing. So you decide to arrange plans for the date. Nothing wrong with that. BUT there is a trap, that your mind and game can trip you in. There is a difference between planning a date, and arranging a date. A while back I got a day two which involved going to her place, and painting her room a new colour. My mind was boggling with sweet little mini routines involving paint. One of them was making hand and footprins on her wall to really connect with the child within her. I had loads of these things planned. Loads. I decided to fix these in place and ensure i could pull off all the routines I had planned, I decided to fill the awkward not knowing what to say texts with things that kept reffering to painting her room. Nothing wrong with that right? I told her things like "I hope you know that we're making handprints all around your room" and stuff that I had already planned out. And I did it. I executed all of my sick routines. Yet they lacked a flair. When you arrange to do something, it feels like plan. It feels organised and slightly boring. Fun in paint in the world that surrounds her bed should be fun and passionate, improvised and SPONTANEOUSLY rising a spiritual connectivity, the results of which can only be reached by forced facerape. Being spontaneous is unpredictible. What kind of party girl wants predictible? Because I want party girl after party girl. I didn't get that lay. What I'm saying is, a week before even the date occurs, you plan things out to yourself. Little things that you can do, peripherral to the date itself. Keep it to yourself, and let the passion bloom in the moment rather than making her expect something amazing, and then get dissapointed when it isn't as amazing as she was expecting it to be. Even if it was every bit as amazing as she was expecting it to be, there will still be a little dissapointment voice in her head. She wants unexpected. She desired the unfantasised. Every girl is looking for that little bit extra. To get that little bit extra, she can't be waiting for it - or its the same. |
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| Author: | magnum45 [ Tue Feb 09, 2010 1:15 pm ] |
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What happens after you have started dating her. When are you allowed to just say whatever you want? |
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| Author: | ATM16 [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 1:43 am ] |
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I agree with this a lot now as I found that to much planning does take away from the fun of not knowing. I don't hate planning things with a girl but I found out this weekend that being spontaneous and fun and showing a girl you are ready and up for doing anything is what sets you apart from everyone else. Last week I was talking to a girl I had number closed at the casino online and we had this conversation HB: I think I'm going to London this weekend to get away from everything Me: I've always wanted to go to London, it looks awesome HB: Are you asking? Me: Would you like me to come with you? HB: If you want This conversation took place last wednesday at 04:00am and we booked train tickets to london at that time to. She asked where will we stay and I said who cares we'll find somewhere when we go down. She wasn't used to this and I told her that she should just trust me and it'll work out. She asked another of her guy friends to come as well but he didn't like the idea of it not being planned. She'd just gotten out of a 2 year relationship and I genuinely wasn't bothered about gaming her at this time even though I wanted to sleep with her when I first met her. I told her that going as mates would be fine. We got the train down to London Saturday morning with nothing planned and had an amazing weekend, she ended up kissing me making it somewhat awkward at the time and we ended up sleeping in the same bed acting kind of like a couple but didnt have sex (She had her reasons and I didn't force the issue) but now we're going out again this weekend and we have no idea where we'll end up as I asked her if she'd like to go to the train station pick a destination and just go, again something that she's not used to but is looking forward to. If all that ends up happening is that we're friends and she just wanted some company for the weekend after breaking up with her boyfriend then nothing lost, if something more happens then all the better, but yeah never plan to much cause that leads to greater expectation and when expectations are not met disappointment ensues. |
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