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Author:  JR* [ Sat Jan 02, 2010 1:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Compatibility vs Creating an 'Emotional Connection'
This is a topic that i've been thinking about recently mainly due to the end of a relationship that I was just in;

For an emotional connection, is compatibility required? And is your emotional connection with someone limited by your compatibility?

So, what I mean by compatibility is the people that will like you for you, beyond routines, beyond gimmicks, beyond DHV stories and strategies, they are the people that (if you were in a relationship before entering into the community) would have liked you and entered into a relationship with you. According to a post that Bonsai made (Available here: http://www.asiandatingcoach.com/2009/11 ... chemistry/ ), there's always a percentage of people that will like you for you, and that what we are doing by learning this skill set and going out more and more is increasing the number of people that like us and increasing our chance of meeting them, respectively.

So, my take on it is that while we are increasing the percentage of people that are compatible with us, there are still going to be people that are more compatible and there are going to be people that are only just compatible. The challenge is obviously in finding someone that you're HIGHLY compatible with. The compatibility of a person leads on to how deep and quickly an emotional connection is made, and whether or not it's just a Superficial bond created through rapport, or something that connects us at a core value through beliefs, values, and other things relating to our context.

This, I suppose, has resulted in a belief that I have that if a relationship doesn't sustain the same level, or grow in the depth of an emotional connection then it's not going to work out.

What are your takes on it?
Author:  trixsta [ Sat Jan 02, 2010 1:54 pm ]
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I was thinking about this laid in bed last night!

Will reply later, got to go shower
Author:  Truncheon [ Sat Jan 02, 2010 2:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Compatibility vs Creating an 'Emotional Connection'
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For an emotional connection, is compatibility required? And is your emotional connection with someone limited by your compatibility?
I believe for a emotional connection you need to have some for of compatability, comfort. Since if there's no comfort you will not allow yourself to reach out of your own comfort zone and show emotions.
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So, what I mean by compatibility is the people that will like you for you, beyond routines, beyond gimmicks, beyond DHV stories and strategies, they are the people that (if you were in a relationship before entering into the community) would have liked you and entered into a relationship with you. According to a post that Bonsai made (Available here: http://www.asiandatingcoach.com/2009/11 ... chemistry/ ), there's always a percentage of people that will like you for you, and that what we are doing by learning this skill set and going out more and more is increasing the number of people that like us and increasing our chance of meeting them, respectively.
People liking you for you already have reached the form of "comfort" on the unaware part of there brain. It can be something you wear, some act you've performed natural ones none of the ones in the 'books'.
Things like helping (providing help to persons needy of help) gives you instant comfort at loads of females.

This is just my $0,02's.
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