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| Author: | Tom_"Maybe" [ Tue Nov 17, 2009 11:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Finding Your Self-Esteem And Dwarfing Your Ego. |
Ego, where does it come from, how does it form and how can we look past it all? Here is a quote from Maynard James Keenan that has always stuck with me: "So crucify the ego, before it's far too late...and you will come to find that we are all one mind." No truer words have ever been written. I was at the store today with a friend of mine, and we were standing there listening to music. She's got the headphones on and we're just enjoying the evening. While this is happening, I notice a little boy walking near us bobbing his head up and down, as if he was listening to music. So he walks up to her, taps her on the leg... pulls on the cord for the headphones. They slip off her head and he grabs the headphones, puts them on his head and proceeds to jammin'. My friend and I just look at each other and almost telepathically, through our facial expressions, say "What is this?", and laugh our asses off. We look at the kid and he's just like "Yeah!", so we just laugh and move on. It was so cute and so right on point to this post I'm going to write. This really got me thinking that as a kid we all had self-esteem. We never had this grand image of ourselves, like "I'm a pimp" or "I'm a loser". We all felt good at all times. That is why people look back at their childhood and wonder what all went downhill sense then? Can't we all remember back to a time where we could approach anybody at any point in time and not have an issue? A time where we could ask "You want to be my friend?" and we'd all just assume the best. This child like theory looked past all races and any other supposed human imperfection. At some point we all had that, but at another point we lost it. We become wounded. And the wounding could of happened for any number of reasons. It could of happened when someone you trusted completely totally screwed you over. It could of happened when your parents told you not to talk to strangers, or that children should be seen and not to be heard, which is so 1800's, yet was still and is to this day taught. And it especially happens through Hollywood's grip on humanity. We can also look back at a time when ALL of our role-models are telling us how great they are. They are saying "This is the lifestyle", or "This is the way to happiness". All these social advertisements are being soaked into our brains at an early age. So that's when we get into our heads that we have to live up to become this new grand character. All this happens, and suddenly we feel sad. We feel like our confidence has left us and we shouldn't just feel confident for ourselves anymore. We feel disconnected from one another and not part of the tribe anymore. So what does your brain do? Your mind says "NO!"... lets look for logical reasons for how we can feel good. So now here comes all the comparisons, and the judgements. Here comes looking at our fellow man and looking at the differences. Self-Esteem is based about common humanity, and ego is about being set apart from each other and differences. So you say to yourself, "Compared to Tommy I have this and this and this. And compared to Joey I may not be quite as good, but this is where I stand." The ego begins to develop. So now you can approach these sets of people, why? and draw confidence from these people, why? Simple...because of all those little differences. So why is the ego false? What is wrong, by nature, about the ego? Well let me ask you this. Most of the time when you ask people about their memories... how accurate are they? Do you have a perfectly recorded memory of your own life? Don't you believe that at some point in your life you've twisted something in your favor to make a bigger identity out of it for yourself? Naturally your ego is false. It's never as accurate as you'd like for it to be, and when you at first face the ego it looks huge, when you try and conquer the ego. But the ego is really nothing more than just a little speck of sand, and you know when you've got a little bit of sand in your eye, how big it must look? How do we make it take it's true size? You've got to un-dilate your perception. When you're mind is dilated small, and your minds eye is right where that little grain of sand is... it looks huge. And that is the filter at which you see throughout the world. Just think about it on the largest scale that you can possibly imagine...for example: I'm in my room My room is in my house My house is in Celina Celina is in Mercer County Mercer County is in Ohio Ohio is in the United States The United States is in North America North America in on the Earth The Earth is in the Milky Way Galaxy The Milky Way Galaxy is in the Universe and so on, and so on, and so on... That is all logical thinking. But logically think of what happens to us when we die. We don't know, and are we truly alive past what we can possibly comprehend? We don't know. Life is all about the unknown. But what the ego does is shelters us away from what is the unknown, right? It says "I've got all these labels for things, and judgements, and comparisons; I know the truth about my own environment." It shelters us from the unknown. So what does this all mean? The way we see death is the exact way we see a situation where we have to approach another beautiful woman. Social conditioning say's this will happen to us after we die, but the facts behind it are no where to be found. If, In the Bible, Lazzarus would have came back to life and painted a picture for us about a beautiful heaven, or a fiery hell, then wouldn't he have done so? Wouldn't that have been the perfect opportunity to state that in the Bible? Same thing goes for us in the field. We have all these preconceived ideas of what may happen to us, but the facts are limited if at all there. And it's the ego that those thoughts are coming from. To become truly great men... We need to rekindle our self-esteem. Only then... will we finally become a family with one another and won't have to worry about boarders and separation, and even shit like greed and selfishness. "So crucify the ego, before it's far too late...and you will come to find that we are all one mind." No truer words have ever been written. And when you are able to look past the ego, and build your self-esteem... Your life as a pick-up artist changes drastically. |
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| Author: | Tom_"Maybe" [ Tue Nov 17, 2009 11:38 pm ] |
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To be honest with you the only experience I've had studying Sigmund Freud's Ego and his theory's on Super Ego and all that was when I was in high school. So I would say I am not using Freud's teachings. |
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