PUA Forum :: Be honest with me, am I just wasting my time?

For several months now, I just kind of gave up on PU techniques (except for basic principles) because I got paralyzed from the waist down and they just weren't working. So I tried just the typical approach but that hasn't worked either. I've seen all the Sean Stephenson videos and I've been told and have actually seen guys in my situation with bad ass girls. I'm at least as goodlooking as any of them but I just can't seem to attract anything. Am I wasting my time? It's been over 3 years since I've gotten laid. Should I just give up looking for someone?

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No you are not wasting your time. Yes your condition does hurt you unfortnately when it comes to getting girls. But that does not mean there are not girls that will over look your condition and will go out with you. As weeneedhelp said you need to work on your inner game. Yes you have more to overcome and deal with because of your condition. But that does not mean you can't get girls.

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Constatine's condition is irrelevant.

You can either work against it and pity yourself. Or accept your situation as is and make the best of it. Guess what makes you more attractive? Sobby wheelchair guy or having-the-time-of-his-life wheelchair guy.

I know Madal's on the forum has Sean's disease to a lesser degree, and it is not unlikely to see him hospitalized because a girl jumped on him or something.

You have to accept the way things are, and then go from there.

I've never been paralyzed before, but I'd be willing to be the 'typical approach' isn't how you need to be gaming.

The vast majority of the people who do not succeed are:
1. Not committed enough
2. They don't want success enough
3. Too scared to let go of their comfort zone
4. Too focused on short-term gains instead of long-term development
5. Never actually believed they could do it from the start
6. Or some other reason similar to the above shit

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For the most part that was what I was saying. There are girls out there that will not go out with a guy in a wheelchair that is life. To say otherwise is being naive. People judge others all the time and a lot of times a girl is more than likey going to put a guy in a wheelchair in the con area. Can he overcome such judgment? Yes. But he needs to work on his inner game and show that he accepts his condition and is okay with it. Because if he is not okay with it why would a girl be okay with it?

Author:	Constantine00 [ Sat Sep 26, 2009 4:36 pm ]
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For several months now, I just kind of gave up on PU techniques (except for basic principles) because I got paralyzed from the waist down and they just weren't working. So I tried just the typical approach but that hasn't worked either. I've seen all the Sean Stephenson videos and I've been told and have actually seen guys in my situation with bad ass girls. I'm at least as goodlooking as any of them but I just can't seem to attract anything. Am I wasting my time? It's been over 3 years since I've gotten laid. Should I just give up looking for someone?

Author:	Ravencroft [ Sat Sep 26, 2009 5:11 pm ]
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How often are you going out?

Author:	SirKonstantine [ Sat Sep 26, 2009 5:13 pm ]
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Fuck that. Your another Constantine--my name is constantinte too. We're not fucking chodes. We're Champs. First, you need INNER GAME help my friend. Girls dont like you, because you dont seem to like yourself. Checkout RSD Blueprints Decoded. Read Echart Tolle. And, Yes its worth it. I've been to a BC and I'm going to Vegas for the World Summit tomorrow and here's some pics to motivate you.

Author:	Jav [ Sat Sep 26, 2009 5:51 pm ]
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I completely stand behind weeneedhelp's advice. watch blueprint, read eckhart. Did the trick for me Also you are never too late to learn something new

Author:	jurupa [ Sun Sep 27, 2009 9:41 am ]
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Quote: For several months now, I just kind of gave up on PU techniques (except for basic principles) because I got paralyzed from the waist down and they just weren't working. So I tried just the typical approach but that hasn't worked either. I've seen all the Sean Stephenson videos and I've been told and have actually seen guys in my situation with bad ass girls. I'm at least as goodlooking as any of them but I just can't seem to attract anything. Am I wasting my time? It's been over 3 years since I've gotten laid. Should I just give up looking for someone? No you are not wasting your time. Yes your condition does hurt you unfortnately when it comes to getting girls. But that does not mean there are not girls that will over look your condition and will go out with you. As weeneedhelp said you need to work on your inner game. Yes you have more to overcome and deal with because of your condition. But that does not mean you can't get girls.

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Author:	Jav [ Sun Sep 27, 2009 11:21 am ]
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Quote: Quote: For several months now, I just kind of gave up on PU techniques (except for basic principles) because I got paralyzed from the waist down and they just weren't working. So I tried just the typical approach but that hasn't worked either. I've seen all the Sean Stephenson videos and I've been told and have actually seen guys in my situation with bad ass girls. I'm at least as goodlooking as any of them but I just can't seem to attract anything. Am I wasting my time? It's been over 3 years since I've gotten laid. Should I just give up looking for someone? No you are not wasting your time. Yes your condition does hurt you unfortnately when it comes to getting girls. But that does not mean there are not girls that will over look your condition and will go out with you. As weeneedhelp said you need to work on your inner game. Yes you have more to overcome and deal with because of your condition. But that does not mean you can't get girls. Constatine's condition is irrelevant. You can either work against it and pity yourself. Or accept your situation as is and make the best of it. Guess what makes you more attractive? Sobby wheelchair guy or having-the-time-of-his-life wheelchair guy.

Author:	Chief [ Sun Sep 27, 2009 12:01 pm ]
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Yes, you are probably wasting your time. The truth is, only a small percentage of people succeed in any field. The field of pickup is no different. The vast majority of the people who do not succeed are: 1. Not committed enough 2. They don't want success enough 3. Too scared to let go of their comfort zone 4. Too focused on short-term gains instead of long-term development 5. Never actually believed they could do it from the start 6. Or some other reason similar to the above shit Being crippled is not an actual reason people don't succeed. However, you're allowing yourself to have solid limiting beliefs that you refuse to let go of. Because you refuse to let go of your comfort zone of having such a CONVENIENT EXCUSE, you will not succeed. Because you never actually believed that you could be successful, you will not succeed. Because you cannot easily visualize yourself, as a paralyzed-from-the-waist-down man, being successful with an abundance of women in your life, you will not succeed. People like Sean Stephenson succeed because they make very difficult decisions that involve making themselves very uncomfortable. If you keep using your physical condition as a convenient excuse for the lack of your own success, you are just wasting your time. You might as well give up.

Author:	KristallNachte [ Sun Sep 27, 2009 7:00 pm ]
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listen to chief, he's a short, small-dicked asian and he can get any girl he wants!!!

Author:	jurupa [ Mon Sep 28, 2009 5:35 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: For several months now, I just kind of gave up on PU techniques (except for basic principles) because I got paralyzed from the waist down and they just weren't working. So I tried just the typical approach but that hasn't worked either. I've seen all the Sean Stephenson videos and I've been told and have actually seen guys in my situation with bad ass girls. I'm at least as goodlooking as any of them but I just can't seem to attract anything. Am I wasting my time? It's been over 3 years since I've gotten laid. Should I just give up looking for someone? No you are not wasting your time. Yes your condition does hurt you unfortnately when it comes to getting girls. But that does not mean there are not girls that will over look your condition and will go out with you. As weeneedhelp said you need to work on your inner game. Yes you have more to overcome and deal with because of your condition. But that does not mean you can't get girls. Constatine's condition is irrelevant. You can either work against it and pity yourself. Or accept your situation as is and make the best of it. Guess what makes you more attractive? Sobby wheelchair guy or having-the-time-of-his-life wheelchair guy. For the most part that was what I was saying. There are girls out there that will not go out with a guy in a wheelchair that is life. To say otherwise is being naive. People judge others all the time and a lot of times a girl is more than likey going to put a guy in a wheelchair in the con area. Can he overcome such judgment? Yes. But he needs to work on his inner game and show that he accepts his condition and is okay with it. Because if he is not okay with it why would a girl be okay with it?

Author:	madals [ Mon Sep 28, 2009 2:45 pm ]
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Chief's advice is fantastic. Quote: I know Madal's on the forum has Sean's disease to a lesser degree, and it is not unlikely to see him hospitalized because a girl jumped on him or something. This is true. Quote: You have to accept the way things are, and then go from there. This is so true, stop trying to be what your not and make people want what you are! Quote: I've never been paralyzed before, but I'd be willing to be the 'typical approach' isn't how you need to be gaming. There are some key difference, especially if you have a mobility aid such as a wheelchair. Unfortunately this is because so many people have a stereotype about people with a disability. There are many ways around this. What you do have to accept is there are some women who downright WONT get with you JUST because of it. But that is fine, cos there are some women who WONT get with you cos of your hair colour, the car your drive, your race, your gender or many other things. There are plenty of women who will not care about your paralysis. Quote: The vast majority of the people who do not succeed are: 1. Not committed enough 2. They don't want success enough 3. Too scared to let go of their comfort zone 4. Too focused on short-term gains instead of long-term development 5. Never actually believed they could do it from the start 6. Or some other reason similar to the above shit I feel you are in the number 5 here, just the way you word things make it sound like you think your disability is going to effect it. Therefore it will. I know I link this post of mine a lot, but seriously, read it. sarging-without-stairs-vt31690.html?sta ... ing+stairs Lastly, if you have msn, email or something, feel free to PM me for mine and I will give you some one to one for free. All I ask before you take this offer is that you consider this statement: I cannot make you good with women, nobody in the community can make you good with women. Only you can make you good at something, we can show you how, but you have to do. Whatever your decision, luck to you man. Madals

Author:	Jav [ Mon Sep 28, 2009 3:21 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: No you are not wasting your time. Yes your condition does hurt you unfortnately when it comes to getting girls. But that does not mean there are not girls that will over look your condition and will go out with you. As weeneedhelp said you need to work on your inner game. Yes you have more to overcome and deal with because of your condition. But that does not mean you can't get girls. Constatine's condition is irrelevant. You can either work against it and pity yourself. Or accept your situation as is and make the best of it. Guess what makes you more attractive? Sobby wheelchair guy or having-the-time-of-his-life wheelchair guy. For the most part that was what I was saying. There are girls out there that will not go out with a guy in a wheelchair that is life. To say otherwise is being naive. People judge others all the time and a lot of times a girl is more than likey going to put a guy in a wheelchair in the con area. Can he overcome such judgment? Yes. But he needs to work on his inner game and show that he accepts his condition and is okay with it. Because if he is not okay with it why would a girl be okay with it? I won't let that affect me. Go in without assuming anything but attraction.

Author:	Constantine00 [ Mon Sep 28, 2009 5:45 pm ]
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It's more of a quality of life issue. I'm not going to accept it because I've seen what happens to those who do. Contrary to the belief that once you are paralyzed you're paralyzed and there is nothing you can do to overcome it, there are ways. That was once thought to be the case. It has since been disproven, but as Chief said only a small percentage succeed and he gave the reasons for that. So I think the answer for me is to give up on this right now and focus entirely on the innovative therapy I'm currently doing as well as looking for other ways to succeed at that.

Author:	kasabi [ Mon Sep 28, 2009 10:10 pm ]
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This PU thing isn't like going off to a war or going to Medical school. You don't have to 100% do it or 100% not do it. All that primping and pumping to go out on a sarge as if you're about to engage in 5 rounds of MMA is just college stuff. (I still do it once in a while with my fogie friends but it's just a joke. . . .LOL) And what's so "wasteful" about chatting with somebody who crosses your path? (PU is basically a chat . . . that's about it) There is absolutely no waste in this and in fact, is a blessing. There is a Buddhist saying that goes something like, "If you cross paths with somebody, you've known him/her in your past life." It basically means that you've ALREADY had some sort of relationship with EVERYBODY you meet . . . even when you meet them for the first time. Whether you believe in this stuff or not, the idea is to "improve, progress, and better harmonize" with all those you meet. You will meet them again, again, and again . . . Whether you want to CHASE women all over the place is up to you . . . but when you go out tomorrow, try this: Just be observant with your surroundings. You will be amazed at how many WOMEN will just simply CROSS YOUR PATH. Women criss cross through you life all the time and they will continue to do this until the day you die. And when you see a particular woman around you, just breathe and enjoy it. No need to think any particular thoughts. No need to expect success or failure . . . just enjoy the moment: One of you WILL SAY HELLO. One of you will say hello because without all the mental clutter of expectations and its associated emotions, we all fall back to living out our karmic paths. We are social beings and when we cross paths with others, we are meant to befriend and harmonize. And these are things you don't need to even think about. It will just happen naturally: Breathe, smile, and enjoy . . . you will attract and befriend. Turning the sexuality on is just a tiny twist built on the foundation of harmonizing with others. When your observant enough, you'll know when to go for that twist . . .

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