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Author:  PUAdave [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 2:08 pm ]
Post subject:  DON'T remember the interactions, details, or even names
of the girls you meet as a general rule, especially if we are talking like 5-10 minute pick up in a bar or if it's been more than a couple days since you met.

I have asked about remembering shit like girls names in the community before but never got a straight answer. I guess because like most things there is never 1 correct answer, but after shooting myself in the foot I'm going to say it's just better as a general rule NOT to remember them or anything about them at all.

I'm sure there are times it's not bad to remember things days later seeing her again, like if she obviously remembers stuff about the interactions or knows your name and asked if you remember hers etc, but in the future I'm still going to play it off as not remembering details for the most part because I have even blown out 2 hour pick ups by remember to fine a details.

Some of these girls that got pulled away before I could try to # close, I actually thought it I would impress some girls I'd met by remember their names and stuff we talked about. i even told a girl when she asked me how the hell I remembered that, that I was a "good listener" (the chump still in me) NEVER do this guys unless you want to be the creepy man, because those were the looks I got. Creeped out. Show's you were to invested in that interaction, which for a couple of these I was way to much.

Anyway I got burned for the last time recently, promised myself that will never happen again, even if I go to far the otherway. Infact I tested this weekend on a girl I had opened tried to number close a month ago in a really ballsy pick up, but said she had a BF. She was checking me out & obviously remembered me so I just went up & opened her again as if I didn’t remember her at all, & I can tell you she was a LOT more interested in me this time, # closed. If I could read her mind I know she was thinking how can this guy not remember talking to me.
Author:  Exerio [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 2:56 pm ]
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I remember what I remember. If a girl ask me: how do you remember that? I tell them: Because I'm psychic.

Damn, I love that line. Ah well, remembering is not something you should focus on, why should you? If something is interesting I remember it most likely, if not I don't care if I don't remember.

- Exerio
Author:  Fin [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 3:05 pm ]
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Your overthinking, girl blows you off, chances are the name had nothing to do with it.
Author:  PUAdave [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 3:27 pm ]
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Yep, I used to feel the same way, not now.

For instance the last girl was the turning point I couldn't even remember her name, but I genuinely remembered the conversation because it was very interesting, not even to impress her. We talked about traveling to some cool places & she was giving me some advice & said she was leaving to going to europe for the summer.

Anyway my wing screwed it up with her friend & she got pulled away by the friend before I number closed, plus i didn't see the point in chasing her to get the # if she wasn't going to be around. This was like a month ago. I've seen her friend since point me out to another girl one night like "that's the guy" so I assumed I had made a very good impression & she'd remember me.

Anyway I see this girl, opened her like "hey I remember you, how was europe"? Instant I'm a creeper look , "how did you remember that" shock look, then total turn and ignore. Fin I don't think it was just a case of her blowing me off, when I said hey, she lit up like a christmas tree. I just seemed to invested in the interaction & creeped her out.

No more. I'll take my chances with just not remember jack now. I'd would rather them think why doesn't this guy remember me or certainly not seem invested at all.
Author:  Jav [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:40 pm ]
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What about pretending you forget her name and make some new name up for her because it suits her better.





PROBLEM SOLVED.
Author:  Fin [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 9:35 pm ]
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Yep, I used to feel the same way, not now.

For instance the last girl was the turning point I couldn't even remember her name, but I genuinely remembered the conversation because it was very interesting, not even to impress her. We talked about traveling to some cool places & she was giving me some advice & said she was leaving to going to europe for the summer.

Anyway my wing screwed it up with her friend & she got pulled away by the friend before I number closed, plus i didn't see the point in chasing her to get the # if she wasn't going to be around. This was like a month ago. I've seen her friend since point me out to another girl one night like "that's the guy" so I assumed I had made a very good impression & she'd remember me.

Anyway I see this girl, opened her like "hey I remember you, how was europe"? Instant I'm a creeper look , "how did you remember that" shock look, then total turn and ignore. Fin I don't think it was just a case of her blowing me off, when I said hey, she lit up like a christmas tree. I just seemed to invested in the interaction & creeped her out.

No more. I'll take my chances with just not remember jack now. I'd would rather them think why doesn't this guy remember me or certainly not seem invested at all.
Funny, I used to think like you, playing silly little games and pretending that she didn't matter or that I wasn't interested.

Then I grew some balls ;)
Author:  Visionxxxxxx [ Sat Sep 19, 2009 8:33 pm ]
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i even told a girl when she asked me how the hell I remembered that, that I was a "good listener" (the chump still in me) NEVER do this guys unless you want to be the creepy man, because those were the looks I got. Creeped out. Show's you were to invested in that interaction, which for a couple of these I was way to much.
If you made a great first impression and created strong attraction...I think a girl would be very happy to find that you remembered something special/unique about your previous conversation. If you know she really likes you, and you see her out for a second time, and all of a sudden you pretend that you dont remember anything about her, even her name...she will probably cross your name out in her good book. That shows that you didnt really give dam about her in the first place.

If you did NOT create much attraction initially, THEN maybe hold back a bit on remembering the intricate details of your previous conversation. But man when you have attraction and you KNOW shes into you....hell dont hold back, give IOI's (in moderation of course), she will LOVE em!

I think too many guys play the hard-to-get push/pull game way too long after attraction has been created. If you have attraction and it's staring you in the face, be a man, go in strong and give her what she wants.
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