Hey guys, I just realised it is about 1 year ago I started learning about pick-up and everything related to it. So here's a review about the things I have learned over the course of this year, things that still need developing and future goals...
I always have been quite bad with women. I look alright but I'm kind of a shy guy and I always got in the friends zone and always have been bummed out by it. But then it al started when I had nothing to do, sitting behind the computer at my parents house, surfing on youtube and just checking out some random music videos, some science videos (nerd alert!) and some funny videos and stuff.
But then on the so-called Related Bar (what a way to start in this community...) I saw 'David DeAngelo - Approaching Women'. My mind was triggered, eager to see what this mysterious DeAngelo bloke had in store for me about Approaching Women.
It happened to be a small section of the same titled seminar he used to give and I didn't really get what he was talking about really, since the vid started in the middle of a topic, but I got introduced to it and I was convince this David DeAngelo was THE guy when it comes to this topic (I was naive, I know
) and I downloaded the Approaching Women seminar.4 DVD's, 2 hours each, worth of material downloaded over the course of the next 3/4 days (don't get me started on how crappy my internet is) and I was soaking up that material about cocky/funny and sexual tension, things I had never thought about before and surely never thought it could be taught to somebody. While viewing I was beginning to imagine what my life would be like when I finished all of these DVD's (naive again to think that program covered everything of pick-up) and what my life would have been like now if I knew about this longer!
But then at the end, when I saw all of this new material I didn't really have a structured plan about what to do and not a lot of success followed. I was kinda bummed out, I watched 8 hours of stuff and I still couldn't do it. But determined that there is a way to get women, I started out to look for more information, always more information. Then I stumbled into this forum and I must say this has helped me a lot in the first few months of my development (Thanks guys!!). Tips about which material to study, how to clear my sticking points and just funny and interesting stories were really inspiring that this is something I can do aswell.
After reading a bit more about structure of game and inner game (Mystery Method, The Game, Vin DiCarlo) it was time to start putting this ocean of information to the test in the real world. Still taking care of my AA I did need the help of alcohol to come through, but I found out it worked, and it worked well.
So here's a couple of things I have learned thanks to the community over the last year:
- I started making more and more eye contact with people, which didn't only help me with the relationships I had with women, but also strengthened the friendships I had with both males and females.
- I changed my body language and the way I interact with people, women in particular. Being more cocky/funny, teasing around a lot more than I used to amped up my game tremendously
- I got more active on a social level, starting with meeting more friends of my own friends to meeting new people by myself at university and eventually in clubs and bars. My confidence is way better than it was before, and still rising with every small step I take in the positive direction.
- I went from my mom and dads house to an apartment in the city of my university (at 20 years old) and that made me more of a responsible guy with more knowledge about the world.
- I've gone from approximately 3-4 k-closes a year to about 12-15 a year. Still not a shockingly huge amount, I know, but steady progress is progress!
- I k-closed with several girls more than one night, something I haven't done before so that's all going steadily towards the positive end.
- Lastly, I have girls trying to get my attention, calling and texting me, instead of the other way around, like it was before.
Some sticking points still remain, and my goals for the coming year are that these are dealt with (or at least tried to) when I start writing my next annual report.
Firstly I'm still having difficulties with Kino, when is it appropriate where and I just set my mind to it, which is a bad thing. I want that to flow naturally and that would help me amp up my game a lot.
Secondly I'm still a virgin, the only thing I have done more than kissing is a bit of feeling up, down and around, but nothing more. That still needs working, but with the steady progress I have made the past year I think I'll just need to be patient.
Lastly I still have quite a bit of Approach Anxiety, or at least difficulty initiating the conversation with HB's. Still I depend quite a lot on alcohol for being spontaneous and I hope that won't be necessary in the future.
My closing comments would be thanks to you all for advice, reads and support, I'm wishing you guys best of luck. May the force be with us!
You'll be hearing from me, no doubt
Peace, by Feist
good luck