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| Author: | The Big Bad Wolf [ Mon Mar 16, 2009 2:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Rising Value problems? |
I'm experiencing a change in what kind of women I find attractive, and who find me attractive. Girls I've known from before I even read The Game almost 3 years ago, have now gone from being the pinnacle of what I wanted, to being just another girl, to becoming bothersome because of their attraction to me. How do you deal with this sort of thing, and how am I supposed to communicate this to them in a non-hurtful way, (I still don't want them to get shitty self-esteem and such because they now perceive me as above their league when I used to be a little below.) Should I simply let them keep the impression that they're only around because I choose to keep them ? (which is shit-luck for their self-esteem) or is there a known way around this predicament ? I also wonder, how many have experienced this sort of change in their world due to PUA-skills ? |
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| Author: | KristallNachte [ Mon Mar 16, 2009 3:09 pm ] |
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um...be honest? |
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| Author: | The Big Bad Wolf [ Mon Mar 16, 2009 3:25 pm ] |
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I got that far, but it's a difficult thing to explain  "Hey, You're a little below my league at this point, so your best hope is to grow more as a person if you want to get with me" ? hehe. Somehow I think it's better to cut the ties. And instead let them start fresh with my new persona. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Tue Mar 17, 2009 10:31 am ] |
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Your eyes have been further opened to see more of yourself and the world around you. It's not a matter of a "rising value" issue. It's just that some of the reasons you liked certain girls before were of misleading social conditioning that you are no longer susceptible to. You are now able to see past more "bullshit" to see girls for who they REALLY are behind their social masks of (insert quality you no longer find attractive here). This is a golden opportunity to observe and reflect on what you TRULY find attractive about women. Trust me, there is a constant. Its face is hidden from you right now. Find it. Pursue it. |
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| Author: | Jaybot [ Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:31 pm ] |
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I think if you have known them for years and nothing has happened nothing will happen so it doesn't matter unless you frequently chat about who is in whos league etc. Just don't mention it I am sure they are cool people so just hang with them as friends. Also I think like Chief said you should look at why you find them unattractive and why you did find them attractive. I have a feeling it will be through getting more physically attractive women you have made that a must have, because you can. Nothing wrong with this but unless you find the perfect girl I think you will be constantly disappointed when the gorgeous girls lack the qualities the less attractive girls have (sense of humor etc). |
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| Author: | The Big Bad Wolf [ Tue Mar 17, 2009 2:27 pm ] |
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Nice, Chief. I wasn't sure how to formulate it, but it seemed to be related with what I call perceived value. Which of course is just another bs title for how my standards have begun to climb, in tact with my self-esteem, attractiveness and confidence it seems. It still sucks to tell a girl who loves me that I don't find her attracted to me anymore. but, C'est la Vie, eh ? Jay, I've had the epiphany that physical beauty is not all, and I'm not the type for thinking in "leagues", or talking about it for that matter, but it seemed the only suiting metaphor for it. This case I was thinking about is one that has evolved beyond friendship and now I've sorta evolved beyond finding her that attractive anymore...  You see the predicament. But, hey, Thanks for advice, though. I'll do myself a favor and make a thorough list of qualities I want my woman to have, and do the whole job-interview thing.... well, partly. "You don't like Jazz?, ok, nice to meet you, there's a pretty woman behind you who probably does, Bye." Btw, Chief, the ideas of shedding the social conditioning is one of the things I've noticed myself doing the most the last 2 years. Breaking the norm and becoming more self-conscious, about who and what I want to be, instead of conforming to some unwritten "rules" about how one is supposed to find "happiness" with money and other bullshit ideas, that only lead to a wild goose chase to find the material possessions that "will give you happiness". No such thing as material wealth that brings happiness. Cheers. |
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