Good Day,
Today seems like a good day to bring to light a "LARGE" misconception within the dating community. This misconception is all about "canned material" and what it really is. I think this is an important point to bring up, because most guys out there have no idea what they are talking about.
Thanks mostly to Neil Strauss aka Style and Erik von Markovick aka Mystery and the popularity of their books and shows we have been bombarded with "canned material" and prepackaged lines. Most people feel that canned material are openers that we get from these guru's. Things like this come to mind:
WHO LIES MORE - "Let me get your opinion on something...who lies more guys or girls?"
ESP - "Do you believe in ESP? Really, tell you what pick a number between 1 and 4?"
Cheating Girlfriend - "Do you think it's cheating if a guys girlfriend goes out drinks, then makes out with some other guy?"
That is what most people think of as "canned material." They believe that it is just pre-packaged lines from various guru's that are commonly used by new people to the dating community. When in fact canned material is a little more broader than that. To quote the man who influenced most of this.
"Anything that you have practiced or used more than once is said to be "in the can.""~ Mystery
Well ladies and gentleman the preverbial "can" we're talking about is your brain. That's right that means if you have used the same line more than once on women, even if you made it up, you're using canned material.
All you naturals out there that say I have nothing to do with "canned material" in the other sense, are actually still using the same lines. You too are using "canned material." It's true it's not from someone else's head but it's from yours. And you've practiced it and used it multiple times thus, "it's in the can."
Why do I even bother to explain the difference. Well, one reason is that the man that started most of this for us, Mystery, is being bashed primarily. Now it's not up to me to defend him, and putting himself in public light he knew the criticisms he'd face. The other reason is that to those of us that understand this concept, you all sound ignorant, and worse you pass your ignorance like a disease to those that dont' know any better.
Now before you start bashing on old Jon for calling you ignorant. Remember I didn't call you "stupid" that implies you can't be taught. I called you "ignorant" because up to this point you truly may not have understood this. But now that you are educated you can help clear up the misconceptions that are passed along. Not because it puts Erik in a better light, but because it's the right thing to do. As we have a responsibility when giving back to the community, that we do it as accurately, and best we can.
Have a good one,
Jon
To each their own.
