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| Author: | Legendat24 [ Wed Mar 11, 2009 2:43 am ] |
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I think a lot of people in the seduction community preach that they are not judgmental. They say don’t judge, give value, and be an open person. I think its very positive but I also think that a lot of people preach it but don’t practice it. Everyone wants to aspire to a place where they are not judgmental and they certainly don’t want to be judged. Recently I was at an event where one particular thing stood out to me. He was going on and on about being non- judgmental and how it can greatly effect everyone game then the conversation got onto the topic of strippers and porn stars and he immediately started spitting out snap negative judgments about them. I think its extremely important to have core values such as being non-judgmental, but come on guys practice what you preach. There is nothing more un-attractive in a person regardless of anything else then if they are shifty in their core beliefs. I know that one of the biggest reasons a lot of people are in the community is that at some point a girl hurt them. Probably pretty bad. I know I really got into this after a bad break up. Our experience from our past have shaped our values and how we react to other people. Our experiences with women shape how we think and treat them now. This is all about self - improvement. If you really want a loving good relationship with a girl that you love and that she loves you then, to get to that place we are all going to have to let go of our past. Our past pains and our past presuppositions. I see it all to often that a lot community guys have deep seeded anger issues toward women. Guys some girls can smell it. Just like when you are hanging out with a person that is all negative in his life. It seeps into the conversation. It poisons it. We shouldn’t be learning game to fix emotional issue with a particular girl from our past. I want to develop my-self into the best possible person I can be. I think a lot of guys have that same vision but they hold on to bad feeling in their past. Sure I was hurt badly by one particular girl. Its her though not all of women. Even if you’ve had bad experiences with 100 woman that is such a small tiny fraction compared to the billions that are on the planet and at some point you might have to take a hard look at yourself and think if it is them or if it is you. This is kind of a rant but practice what you preach and everyone will see it. |
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| Author: | LeroyJose [ Wed Mar 11, 2009 4:29 am ] |
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Great post dude. I share the same sentiments. It even comes to a point that women are (no offense) merely treated as properties or toys (sorry for the word) **this is just my observation though. others maybe viewing it differently.** |
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| Author: | dwightl [ Thu Mar 12, 2009 4:01 am ] |
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Why curse women when we need them as they need us. Remember, we have our moms and sisters and girls in the family and this is just a circle of life and everyone is connected to one another in some ways. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Thu Mar 12, 2009 11:24 am ] |
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It is impossible to not be judgmental. To say other wise is to lie to your self. |
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| Author: | Fin [ Thu Mar 12, 2009 8:56 pm ] |
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Quote: It is impossible to not be judgmental. To say other wise is to lie to your self.
BANG ON!To make a judgement is natural, it's the very basis we use to decide what to do in the moring or whether to trust the stranger and give him your spare change etc etc If humanity wasn't judgemental then humanity would be dead =x Judgement is a key peice in the puzzle of cognitive thought. |
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| Author: | expat_of_love [ Thu Mar 12, 2009 9:42 pm ] |
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Judging is not necessary. Not in the way the original poster meant. Judging is what makes most on here so damn miserable. Always comparing themselves to others. Always allowing their thoughts to get in the way of actually living. See, the fact of the matter is, PUA gurus, your church leaders, your politicians, etc. all want you to feel like crap. That way you keep running to them for help. You are their slaves. They would be out of business if you quit judging every damn thing you come into contact with! I once judged non-stop. I was miserable. I was lonely. Finally, one day I realized how it was getting me nothing but grief, doubt, and misery. I started to just look and hear. If I saw somebody I didn't break them down and create a story in my mind about them. I just saw or heard them and let them fade away. In other words, I no longer hang onto every little thing. That includes people! All of a sudden you will feel SO much lighter. You no longer carry that burden of fighting the world. |
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| Author: | revolver [ Fri Mar 13, 2009 12:11 am ] |
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Quote: Judging is not necessary. Not in the way the original poster meant. Judging is what makes most on here so damn miserable.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA In the first two sentences you say that judgements are not necessary and in your third sentence you make a judgement. GROW UP!! 
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| Author: | tiemnao [ Fri Mar 13, 2009 12:21 am ] |
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Quote: I know that one of the biggest reasons a lot of people are in the community is that at some point a girl hurt them. Probably pretty bad. I know I really got into this after a bad break up. Our experience from our past have shaped our values and how we react to other people. Our experiences with women shape how we think and treat them now.
Is it so? I was never hurt by a girl. I was too afraid of rejection to go after girls unless I knew for sure they wanted me to. All of my breakups happened quite peacefully, when things stopped going well for whatever reason I just didn't want to continue at all costs.Is it very unusual? |
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