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Author:  Incubus69 [ Thu Dec 11, 2008 5:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Have you been Cheated on?
So, how many guys have been cheated on - tell your stories, how you overcame the relentless and savage woman that hurt you, how do you prevent it from happening again. If it is possible that is.

Also, why do you think they cheated on you? Did they give you some excuse? WHat were the warning signs you were seeing?

THanks for your feedback! Really appeciate it!
Author:  Dr1fter [ Thu Dec 11, 2008 7:36 pm ]
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yeah man i've been cheated on, and at first i felt like my whole life had just ended, i even blamed myself, was a very tough time. How did i overcome it?... with time, and realising it had nothing to do with me but it's the woman's problem, she will cheat on her next partner and the one after that, and usually its to validate her, my girlfriend was very self concious and i think other men wanting her made her feel validated.

Can you prevent it from happening again..... sorry no :( But NEVER let it affect your future relationships, still be as trusting as you were before this happened to you.

Warning signs: definitely seeing a change in their personality, they suddenly go out more and see their friends more often, and strangely enough because of the guilt they feel, seem to be more loving to you when u are around them.

Anyway this is just my experience, i could go into more depth but dont want to bore you all lol
Author:  Incubus69 [ Thu Dec 11, 2008 8:08 pm ]
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LOL! No, man you're not boring me! Thank you for your input! You are right - what I've read is that a woman's personality chances dramatically - they go out more often with friends, etc..

Also, a cheater is also due to having low self esteem and major insecurity. There are some things to prevent it from happening - like getting a girl that is secure about herself, as well is commited. There's ways of knowing if a person is commited - like for example work, education, activities. If the person is commited to something hard then it's a good sign she is committed through a relationship. It's possible, but maybe not. Also, there's probably a test you could do to see if she's committed. I'll think of a routine or some psychological game - unless, anyone else knows it.

Thanks for the input - if anyone else has a comment or story to tell and how they've over came it! It would be awesome! Women can share their stories as well.
Author:  Fair Rose [ Thu Dec 11, 2008 10:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Have you been Cheated on?
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So, how many guys have been cheated on - tell your stories, how you overcame the relentless and savage woman that hurt you, how do you prevent it from happening again. If it is possible that is.

Also, why do you think they cheated on you? Did they give you some excuse? WHat were the warning signs you were seeing?

THanks for your feedback! Really appeciate it!
Haven't been cheated on... yet. I'll try to create a frame to prepare for that, who knows how I'll react if it happens.
Author:  gyarados [ Sat Dec 13, 2008 8:31 am ]
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Also, there's probably a test you could do to see if she's committed. I'll think of a routine or some psychological game - unless, anyone else knows it.
yes there is, and its kinda evil playing those games, and can make you look stupid if it goes pear shaped. you just need to catch her out with her gaurd down.

and make her give the "I've just been caught out grin"

It's always good to drop in conversation earlier in the day "yeah this girl I could tell was definitley caught out cause she did this smile, but a real teeth bearing grin like this :D you know the one you cant control and cant hide it"
Author:  tipper21 [ Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:45 am ]
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When I was young, a good friend introduced me to his cousin... This girl was a 10 in anyones book. I was 22, and she was 16... We dated for 2 years, and when she was old enough, we got married...Soon after, she got pregnant (Don't know why it didn't happen before), and we had a son. When she turned 21, she started hanging at the bars.... I was too AFC to know what was going on, and was too in love to notice all the warning signs...But they were there.
long and short of it, after 7 years together, she left me with a 6 year old son to raise, because she had met a guy at work, that she just couldn't live without. ( He told me later that he just wanted some pussy, and had no intention of breaking up our home...Oh well, if it wasn't him' it'd been somone else)
It hurts. It felt like i had been ripped me right down the middle. No one can help. No one can take away the pain. If this has happened to you, or to someone you know, the only advice I can offer is this... In the future, don't give yourself completely. Hold something back...Just in case. You can do this easily be reminding yourself that it just MIGHT happen again... No matter how much you trust a person, you never know what they mightbe thinking... Hell...They just might meet one of the guys from this very forum...And what chance do you have then???
Author:  Mithos [ Sun Dec 14, 2008 6:22 am ]
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Damn this brings back bad memories. Especially that one time she did it with my friend. I felt so worthless and hurt and stupid. There's only one wayto completely prevent cheating, and that's by never going in to a serious relationship.
Author:  Incubus69 [ Sun Dec 14, 2008 12:11 pm ]
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Hey! Thanks for your guy's input! It's sad that so many men have fallen in Battle. They say that Love will bring the end of All War. It hasn't, right? If Love was powerful - everyone in Iraq would stop fighting and love each other, instead of running around with Bombs attached to themselves. Love is strong - however, it does create weakness in some.

It's not better to Hate, don't get me wrong! Hate is a strong emotion - Hate Kills, Love Creates.

However, the love that we've shared with these women - were we wrong for doing so? No! As we journey in our lifetimes - we find out the true meaning of love and what's not.

It angers to me so many men, suffer due to this. Women, on the other hand Cry about it then get over it. Us men - we're scared for almost life.

Now, let's get the good shit rolling now - shall we?

I want you to remember what changes took place, personality, emotional, etc.. Post them.

Also, I would like you to share what you've learned with you wayward lover cheating on you?

Why, I ask this - because in life, everything's a lesson. We grow through experiencing the essence of life - rather it be a love one cheating, a death of a love one, etc..

Have a good day guys!
Author:  Duddelmus [ Sun Dec 14, 2008 5:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Have you been Cheated on?
Quote:
So, how many guys have been cheated on - tell your stories, how you overcame the relentless and savage woman that hurt you, how do you prevent it from happening again. If it is possible that is.

Also, why do you think they cheated on you? Did they give you some excuse? WHat were the warning signs you were seeing?

THanks for your feedback! Really appeciate it!
Yes, I've been cheated on.
Had a LTR that started when I was 18 and she was 17. This was my first relationship, and the first girl I had sex with, so ofc I was the luckiest guy alive, and the biggest chode on earth..
After 3,5 years with what I thought was a good relationship, I discovered that she had cheated on me regulary with this guy for 1,5 years.
My world ended.. I blamed myself and got depressed.
Two weeks after the breakup, World of Warcraft was released, so I burried my sorrows in this game. It was amazing to be able to leave my crushed life behind, and be another man online. So I played A LOT.
I slept, I worked, and I played.. And the only time I was happy was when I were ingame.
It took over a year before I managed to function IRL and in social settings.. And still then I felt I couldnt even trust my own family.
When I finally became a social being again, I had some AMAZING friends to talk to about what happened, and they helped me a lot getting over it.
I still have troubles with trusting people, 4 years after things went bad, but this usually changes when I get to know them.

Oh, and the PUA community has helped me a lot with my self confidence and getting over that part where I blamed myself. :) So thanks everybody! :D

She never said why she cheated (never talked to her about it other than in the break-up moment, as I caugt her, and I've never talked to her since) but I think it was because I was too much of a nice-guy. Super-chode! :p
Didnt get much signs other than what posters over me has pointed out.
Author:  Incubus69 [ Sun Dec 14, 2008 10:47 pm ]
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Hey man, glad you got out of it okay. I bet it was rought! I can't recall of when I was chated on - but I have a feeling it's gonna happen. This is why I'm not engaging into serious relationships at the moment. Thus, I know I should sarge - but getting in a relationship is kinda hard at the moment. People say that you can't let fear hold you back - which I understand.

However, in every relationship I see that others have I feel it's not going to last or I take bet's on how long will it last. I could say that I can be afraid of being Cheated on. Possibly this is another reason why I'm so guarded. I'm learning more about why women cheat and what are the warning signs so I can catch them before hand.

Also, this PUA community is great for boosting your confidence, etc.. So, keep up the good work man! I'm sure you'll do fine! :)
Author:  Duddelmus [ Mon Dec 15, 2008 8:44 am ]
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Yeah, it was really rough, and I'm really glad im over that part of my life. However, now that it's over, I'm glad it happened. I learned a lot about myself in the experience. Things I would never figure out if it wasn't for that experience. :)

Things that don't kill you make you stronger!

And now I'm out in life, gaming like never before! Really living life! 8) And I would not be there if it wasn't for that girl who cheated on me ;)
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