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Author:  vitaminc [ Thu Dec 04, 2008 9:37 pm ]
Post subject:  where did i go wrong? (again)
i dont even know if this is the right place for this but yeah...
my head isnt on straight tonight, so please bear with me.

i met this girl a few days ago, #closed. we met up for drinks the next day and hit it off pretty well... she kissed me before i even thought of pulling in =) she also invited me in to meet her friends when i dropped her.

so later that night we had a little text session:

me: hey, hoped you enjoyed you water as much as i enjoyed my beer
her: i did, but i enjoyed the conversation more ;-) come to XY with us tonight?
me: nah, its a bit short notice. already have plans with other people. you have fun though, i have to go now.
***later***
her: the music here sucks
(i ignored)
her: the music is better now, you should convince your friends to come join us
me: we're actually pretty far away hey, plus i'm on a roll with the poker.. stealing everyone's money is fun! (i wasn't actually playing poker but i couldn't exactly tell her that i was on a date either, could i?)
her: you suck :( you sure you dont want to convince them? i have lots of hot friends...

***next day***
me: hey, whats happening in X tonight? its my one mate's last night here and i promised him an epic one (she's from X)
her: there's a big party at Y which we're going to
me: ok, i'll speak to him and maybe we'll see you there

we didnt go to Y.

thats all communication we've had since the drinks, we havent spoken since and it's been 3 days... so this afternoon i sent her this: "hey, you just popped into my head, so hi =) now stay out of there" (got this from the text message game thread)
it's been roughly 10 hours with no reply, which is weird because she replies immediately.

did i miss something or fuck up somewhere or is she just being difficult?
Author:  Patrick_Bateman [ Thu Dec 04, 2008 10:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: where did i go wrong? (again)
From what I read, this girl obviously liked you and you kept blowing her off.

I know you were trying to seem like you're not just some kind of follower, and after 2 times of blowing her off, she got tired of it. The first conversation, she was practically begging you to come which was a good sign. But you gave her all these cold answers like "nah" or just stuff that didnt make it seem like you wanted to be with her. You coulda blown her off but you coulda said, "i so want you right now but im far away with friends" to create some sexual tension or something.

Then the next time you ask her for party advice and you dont even take it. So, I hope you see this now from her perspective.
Author:  GATA [ Fri Dec 05, 2008 12:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: where did i go wrong? (again)
[quote="nickkkk"] You coulda blown her off but you coulda said, "i so want you right now but im far away with friends" to create some sexual tension or something.
quote]

This + making plans for the next night = money.

Shake it off, if she texts you back, great... if not, live and learn.
Author:  vitaminc [ Fri Dec 05, 2008 6:19 am ]
Post subject: 
ahhh. yes.
damn stupid of me... though i didn't purposely blow her off the 2nd time, my mate just felt like rather hitting a bar than a big crazy party.


oh well.
any ideas on recovery because i'm most probably not going to hear from her again if i dont make the effort (seeing as she's most likely quite annoyed with me)?

was thinking of calling her later this afternoon and telling her that i'm going shopping on saturday, that my "style consultant" is taking the day off and that i quite like her style so she should come help me out... and if she then blows me off then i'll call it quits.
Author:  suave.yourbestfriend [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 8:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Can't Blow Her Off
She was totally into you. Blowing a girl off can work sometimes if that's what you were going for but you had only gone on one date and she made the move on the kiss. From her perspective, she's put in all the effort and you clearly were not responding. She couldn't have had strong enough feelings for you after one date that she would stay interested after you continue to act as though you don't care. This is even more of a factor considering how you mentioned that she went in for the kiss. You had her at the moment and should have taken it another step. That being said, there's a good chance she still wants to see you but is holding out for a bit because of the way you've treated her.
Author:  suave.yourbestfriend [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 8:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Recovery
You can come on strong for sure. She will respond well to this considering that she came on strong at the beginning. She needs some sort of reassurance that you are into her. If she continues to ignore your texts give her a late night call. Late night implies that you're probably drunk so you've let your guard down. She'll think that you're really into her but with the booze excuse you wont come across as needy. Propose taking her out on a date, make sure you pick her up. This will allow you to see her friends again and make small talk. Make sure you impress them so when she gets home that night (or next morning) they'll have nothing but good things to say about you.
Author:  vitaminc [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 8:40 pm ]
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i called her... she seemed confused at first as to why i'm calling her.
invited her to hang out with me while im shopping and she said she was flying home for a wedding on saturday and then flying back on sunday and then staying til tuesday. couldn't tell whether she was bullshitting or not.

so yeah, burned out.

now plan B - stacy! :twisted:
Author:  suave.yourbestfriend [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 8:43 pm ]
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Hah, Said like a true PUA
Author:  vitaminc [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 8:52 pm ]
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Quote:
Hah, Said like a true PUA
pfft. i disagree.
said like someone who hasn't gotten any in a while :P
Author:  Chino Kapone [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 11:57 pm ]
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You missed your window of opportunity. Instead of making up some lame excuse as to why you can't make it... when girls offer hot friends to occupy your friends, it is a must go. She feels completely blown off at this point. You needed to say... something like,

"I am locked up with my friends tonight, but check this out.... You and I are on for tomorrow. Meet me at the mall, we will get some ice cream and Ill put on a fashion show for you. Make sure and wear something cute. ;).... HX"


Just work on continually building attraction while blowing them off..

CK
Author:  vitaminc [ Sun Dec 07, 2008 12:26 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
You missed your window of opportunity. Instead of making up some lame excuse as to why you can't make it... when girls offer hot friends to occupy your friends, it is a must go. She feels completely blown off at this point. You needed to say... something like,

"I am locked up with my friends tonight, but check this out.... You and I are on for tomorrow. Meet me at the mall, we will get some ice cream and Ill put on a fashion show for you. Make sure and wear something cute. ;).... HX"


Just work on continually building attraction while blowing them off..

CK
shot bud.
i'll keep that in mind next time, though i think it'll be a while before i purposely blow girls off again. ego took a blow here, need to focus on inner game.
Author:  Chino Kapone [ Sun Dec 07, 2008 12:44 am ]
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BTW, she gave you one last chance by saying there is a party @ "Y". That was pretty much your last opportunity. You would have showed up, she would have given you the cold shoulder as punishment for blowing her off, and then eventually would have loosened up and you would have prolly got some ass.

You just got caught up being a playa... its all good, happens to the best of us. Learn and move on. Don't dwell on missed opportunities. I have have been there, on both sides.

Good luck bro,

CK
Author:  SKY007 [ Sun Dec 07, 2008 4:39 am ]
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dont listen to all this shit here, and dont listen to your anxiety man.

let me explain whats wrong:

your text message might be from the book, but its try-hard because it smells fake

she already likes you, you are going 1 level backwards by injecting stupid games and plots

just call the damn chick.... if she doesnt pick up, call her 4 hours later, and if she still doenst pick up just text her "hey you goof ball, you should pick up your phone when it rings.... call me" and the just wait.... if she doesnt call: NEXT GIRL, if she does: "lets stop playing hide & seek and lets have coffee (or whatever)"
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