Hi guys
I've noticed a few threads on this forum relating to the idea of anxiety about whether or not a woman is into you, whether you're into her, should you put more effort in should you put in less effort etc etc.
As someone who is experienced in PUA and has gotten laid (I mean properly laid- dick into vagina if Im being blunt) one thing that strikes me is how little "control" we (both male and females) have over our interactions.
We look for certainty, we look for re-assurance, we look for logic we rationalise our interactions- but the truth is "attraction is not a choice".
It is only when we accept this fact that we start laying the girls we want.
For example I started a new temporary job to fund a course I'm doing in psychology. However a week later not one, not two, but THREE ideal women joined the same job and had heads immediately turning.
Experienced guyson the job would try and "help them" via AMOGING and supplication (saying out loud what the girls were doing wrong and giving out advice in a patronising way), by stating that the girls are "fit" but need helping, giving submissive smiles, offering rides etc.
I first tried to makes excuses NOT to like them, i.e. they're too young, they've got boyfriends, they're on a different career path. I did this as I couldn't bear the thought of NOT being with such attractive girls, who have a harem of attractive female friends.
But they weren't too young (aged 20), despite having boyfriends their respective relationships were on the rocks (would it matter if their relationships were "perfect" anyways?) and as far as immediate jobs go we were on the same path.
So I started just being myself, breaking rapport when I disagreed with them on genuine subjects, took "risks" in front of my work collegues, and got some jealousy games going on by strategically flirting, helping and making friends with them- all without outcome dependence (exactly how I did so with other girls I laid).
I then broke rapport (like a horse whisperer) but to my surprise, Im getting invites to parties, Im getting kino,ed, theres a lot of play wrestling, they help me out with my blind spots on the job.
Mystery (yes him again
) always said that a man should look to hit the girls "attraction switches", thats all he can do and it will only be a matter of time before she is "gaming you".I'll keep you guys updated on the situation but its proof that attraction indeed is not a choice.