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Author:  slyder2412 [ Thu Sep 25, 2008 5:39 am ]
Post subject:  Aspect of PUA that weirds me out
Hey what's up guys? I take PUA to be, in my terms "to have the confidence to be yourself in front of ANYONE". I never really thought of PUA to use to make everyone like me, if anything i'm more blunt in my personality and A LOT less of "walking on eggshells" or faking rapport/commonalities with people just so i appear likable.

I guess if your ultimate goal is to be able to BE LIKABLE BY ALL, then you're still looking for external validation and always becoming flexible in your personality and can then never find how WHO YOU ARE. I understand that we change SOOO much from a day to day...or JESUS...year to year basis...so i'm not saying make a checklist of personality traits and stick to it no matter what.

What i'm saying is you should always BE/DO as YOU are, and being flexible/non-challenging....simply NOT state your actual thoughts is not being HONEST/GENUINE/YOU. I believe that is turning into a social robot where you desire/want/can get along with EVERYONE, you have no standards, no real values.

If I have standards/values as myself as a person, i'd search for it also in other people of whom i'd want to associate with, not bypass a thought that may "break/terminate" rapport just so i can prove to myself of how flexible and socially intelligent i can be.

I really do think PUA is all about being a NATURAL at YOU, if you disagree with what someone says...SAY SO....if someone says something really ignorant, tell them....if someone is being a bitch, say so or better yet, don't bother speaking to them.

Basically what i'm trying to say, is trying to please everyone is fake and i can't see how one can be content while always looking to please/validate their flexibility by being able to pick up/be-friend ANYONE/ANYWHERE. You lose values/standards/individuality.

What are you thoughts? thanks for reading.
Author:  Stetson [ Thu Sep 25, 2008 5:53 am ]
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faking rapport/commonalities with people just so i appear likable
Doing something like that is a HUGE NO.

You don't do "Casanovas" and change yourself or your personality to match the girls personality and seduce her.

You learn PUA and then rebuild your personality with a special flavour called PUA.

This is pure social dynamics, when you know it you are a somekind of social robot anyway. You shouldn't worry about it as long as you are being yourself in a way or two.
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