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I thought pua would fill a void in my life, but it didn't
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Author:  trackjunkie [ Mon Jun 09, 2008 3:56 pm ]
Post subject:  I thought pua would fill a void in my life, but it didn't
I thought being able to get almost any girl I wanted would fulfill a void in my life. I just fill like something is missing, some sort of emptiness, has anyone felt this?

For awhile the pua scene had me feeling great, now something else is missing.
Author:  c_n12 [ Mon Jun 09, 2008 4:17 pm ]
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I had a similar experience years back; you wait and wait for a way to solve your problems then along comes this technique that feels like what you've been looking for and it seems like it's going to make everything perfect. Then it becomes your life because instead of having one persona you have to keep this second one which is not really you - it's like life becomes a computer where you click the icon and the same program executs everytime, same results with no unique results.

If you are going to make her first interaction with you a request for your opinion upon which you set the frame that you are looking to her and proceed to use manipulation tactics then there's going through all these "formalities" such as excusing, DHVs, hiding interest, false-this and that which keep things from being real; getting a girl becomes a routine day at the office whether than something fun, innovative and natural; you have to cater to her more than yourself using techniques just to get her to put out.

The whole point of learning Mystery Method techniques it to direct a woman's emotions. I believe I experienced something similar to you when I began getting tired of Mystery Method; the realization that you're nothing more than a robot who has given up his own personality in pursuit of an objective. I've had a lot of men tell me they felt like they have become more about this one giant techinque they have become than a human being.

It makes things really generic and feels after a while like a videogame with the GameShark on; you get the same result everytime and there's no varaiable, uniqueness, creativity or genuine expression.

- Chris 8)
Author:  supa [ Mon Jun 09, 2008 4:18 pm ]
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Get a hobby!
Author:  thugnificent [ Mon Jun 09, 2008 6:48 pm ]
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try reading the power of now or the new earth
Author:  Roads [ Mon Jun 09, 2008 7:33 pm ]
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You have problems, you search out answers. When you get those answers, they only pose more problems. So you keep searching. That's all life is. Have fun with it, or have a meltdown.
Author:  Fin [ Tue Jun 10, 2008 8:59 am ]
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I have to disagree with chris.

What's missing isn't the fact that your "fake", which you aren't (unless of course you've misinterpretted mystery). I think maybe you need to find a GF, or someone you can settle down with and develope a relationship of which you connect on more than just sex.

I think your mind wants a break from partying; and want's to spend a little while finding some substinance.
Author:  delta4ce [ Tue Jun 10, 2008 4:24 pm ]
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Being a PUA isn't for everyone!!!!
Author:  Fin [ Tue Jun 10, 2008 5:02 pm ]
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delta4ce.. ..please explain what you'd call a PUA.
Author:  Jay Wa [ Tue Jun 10, 2008 5:46 pm ]
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have to disagree with chris.

What's missing isn't the fact that your "fake", which you aren't (unless of course you've misinterpretted mystery). I think maybe you need to find a GF, or someone you can settle down with and develope a relationship of which you connect on more than just sex.

I think your mind wants a break from partying; and want's to spend a little while finding some substinance.
This is the credited response.

Most people who practice attraction/seduction techniques and are left unfulfilled are looking for something greater- like a relationship. Consider moving forward with one girl that you actually connect to on an emotional level. Eventually, the void goes away...
Author:  Fin [ Tue Jun 10, 2008 5:51 pm ]
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Most people who practice attraction/seduction techniques and are left unfulfilled are looking for something greater- like a relationship. Consider moving forward with one girl that you actually connect to on an emotional level. Eventually, the void goes away...

Exactly, to many people think being a PUA means that you walk around bars and clubs looking "savy", then hook up with some chick you'll never see again. And repeat.

PU is soooo much more than just a practised method to nail one night stands. It's about developing a social life. It's about developing a social circle that you desire.

It's about meeting people and building relationships that will make you (and this is the important word) happy!
Author:  Killians [ Tue Jun 10, 2008 6:54 pm ]
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Someone else mentioned this. I think a lot of people join the PUA community to fill an empty void.

I think the solution is to get involved and find a hobby. Get out into the world. Figure out your niche in life.

For example I like politics so I have been volunteering my time campaigning for someone local running for Congress. I run 5Ks 10K and half marathons. This is what I like to do and it keeps me busy.

However, you need to find what makes you happy...go shoot some pool or whatnot...
Author:  Chief [ Wed Jun 11, 2008 1:54 am ]
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Stop looking for something outside of yourself to "complete" you. You'll never find it. Look within.
Author:  Waffle [ Wed Jun 11, 2008 2:27 am ]
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Stop looking for something outside of yourself to "complete" you. You'll never find it. Look within.
Yay!!!! I get to disagree with Chief. :lol: I totally believe that there are materials and outside forces in this world that can bring some filling to the metaphorical hole. (not drugs) Seek out whatever it is that really makes you happy, whether it be a shinny new coin or a book. I picked up fitness and breakdancing... there's more breaking than dancing, but oh fucking well. If you don't find something to help, just force yourself into a happiness. It worked for me.
Author:  Chill84 [ Wed Jun 11, 2008 2:27 am ]
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"Sometimes what's missing isn't somebody else" - Kevin Brockmeier, "A Day in the Life of Half of Rumpelstiltskin"


Read more Juggler.
Author:  Senpai [ Wed Jun 11, 2008 3:09 am ]
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Go back to Mystery Method 101: 3 Keys to Life: Health, Wealth, Love.

You need all 3 and from all 3 stem everything else.

Beyond that, PUA should be used to solve your quest to gain women and to develop a social circle. But if other areas of your life are not fulfilling (such as work, activities) etc then you will still feel empty. PUA is a PART of life...you must work on all areas to be happy.

Furthermore, PUA is not about technique, it's about confidence and personal growth more than anything. The principles of PUA apply to all areas of life and social interaction. Having positive beliefs and self-confidence, having the ability to deal with anyone socially with confidence and control - these are general life abilities.

Ponder this.
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