oh im sorry I got caught up in writing about what a graet guy I am that I forgot about you and your specific case with this girl 
Last post still applies tho. As you said yourself the problem is with you being concious, so work on eliminating that ok?
OK so the question is, what do you think she liked about you, before you flaked? How were you being during the moments of attraction? Were you the obvious center of the group, or the guy who just stood out for her just because? And during the awkward parting, was it just harmlessly awkward or did you feel your value lesson?
Awkwardness doesn't have to be bad, in fact it can let her know you want her. Remember, she took interest first - good sign. Many women are willing to take a little initiative with a cute quiet guy with a crush, but you have to respond next time.
OK I see you have the whole "natural attraction" thing going - so don't force it and make it a formal attraction. If your gonna ask for her number, you can't be fromal and awkward about it, you need to be completely yourself the whole time.
OK, lets assume you go back there, and she isn't ignoring you. During class, look at her often and note it if she looks back. If you sit or stand next to her, sit/stand a little close, and if she touches you more than once with any body part and does not pull away, let all doubts vanish because there is no way it was an accident.
Now you know she takes a BIKE home, right? Ask her if she bikes everyday. Try (not too hard don't be obvious) to find out whether its because she likes biking or because she has no car. Now, if you have a car, offer to give her a ride to the class tomorrow (not today cuz she needs to take her bike home, unless it fits in your car). Now you will need her adress and phone number 
Or if you both take your bikes there (how old are you two btw? If this is after school or something you should mention it, that changes everything...and tell her stop smoking lol. From what you wrote I'm gonna guess your both in college) bike her home, and ask her if she wants to bike w. you next time, or bike race, or whatever depending on circumstances and distance and what kinda hood you live in. Number and address!
Now, it is also important to make freinds with the OTHER PEOPLE in your class. It will give you common freinds. At some point, AFTER you have driven/biked her home, or had some other freindly contact that seperates you and her from the others, suggest that you all go out to eat somewhere nearby. Then you get to walk there with her walking next to you! Preferably real close and rubbing shoulders. And as you have common freinds you have stuff to talk about. Because now, as stuff happens between you and some other person she knows when you aren't around, you can txt her about it! Little things like "me and david r @ stonecold, wana cum?" (I guess Biking = same hood right?) The advantage of texts are that since you can only have around 3 sentences at a time, the conversation lasts for days and can change naturally at the drop of a hat. After this, if your good on the phone (guessing you aren't) call and chat her up, otherwise send more personal text discussions. Have little get togethers and invite her. If you are relatively young then in 4-9 days or so you can just call and be like "im soo bored what r u doing can I come over" or "Wanna come over and watch ... with me?" every few days and see where it goes. Sit real close on sofa, start kissing maybe around 3rd visit, depending how u think she was raised or whatever is normal for your community, and you know what you want to do soon after...
K im gonna stop now because you need to tell me more about you and her before you get any useful advise. Look I've planned all that out for you on the basis of a bike, and it is probably all wrong because I know nothing about you. I don't understand why people here think generic advice works for people - anyway you get the takeaway message. Work on the shyness, but don't lose the natural approach.
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