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| Author: | DJ_Secret [ Sun Mar 23, 2008 12:41 pm ] |
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Hi there PUAs, i was extremely curious to know if its possible to impress a girl even before making eye contact through body language? i mean like impressions can be made through walking style etc. but like really making her fall for u totally. Is it possible? Any views or comments are most appreciated. Thanks |
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| Author: | butterfield [ Sun Mar 23, 2008 1:33 pm ] |
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Yes |
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| Author: | DJ_Secret [ Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:57 am ] |
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how is it possible, how can it be done? expand please. |
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| Author: | butterfield [ Mon Mar 24, 2008 4:59 pm ] |
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After getting so much experience in the game, Neil Strauss says he would walk into a bar and women would approach him. The reason for this being that you have an orah around you. I would recommend getting lots and lots of practise. Another thing is women like a guy who is unavaliable, so if you give off a sense that you are out to have fun with your friends and not hit on women then this should work in your favour. Dont walk into the club or bar and scan it for HBs!!! This gives off desperation. |
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| Author: | NerdPride [ Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:21 pm ] |
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Ya, its very difficult to emulate body language/aura that isnt naturally your own I think the way you move is a result of your daily life/activities/mood/personality/stress levels and probably many other things. Whats much easier and really more important is correcting potential body language thats working against you. |
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| Author: | yokezg63 [ Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:23 pm ] |
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Body language will actually signal women whether you're even a potential target; that's how powerful it is. Everyone is sensitive to body language. It says a lot about you. Just pick up any book on social skills, and they should have a pretty comprehensive guide on what you should do to appear confident. Here are some tips: 1. Stand straight and head held high. Imagine you're an acrobat, and you're about to swing off a bar with just your teeth. Clamp onto the bar (in your head) and visualize it pulling you up higher and higher. When you can't go up any higher then you've got good posture. 2. Have a confident smile on your face. Don't grin like you're going to take a picture. Just a confident smirk will do. Look in the mirror to see which one you feel represents you the best. This might sound silly, but I always see guys walking around with dopey expressions on their face. 3. Move slower. Slower movements give off the aura of confidence. You look relaxed and calm. If you tend to fidget - get rid of it. Small movements like that will make you appear nervous. Not only does it make you look insecure, but it generally makes everyone around you a bit uncomfortable. This can be a little hard, since some people naturally do things quickly (like me). Practice, practice, practice. 4. When people are saying something, make them come to you. You don't ever lean over to hear what they have to say. You're the leader, so they should come over to YOU to speak. 5. Speak slowly and clearly. Use your words like dynamite. Don't just toss them around to get attention. Make every sentence count. Think before you say anything. Don't worry if it causes you to pause - it'll just make what you have to say seem that much more important. 6. Don't ever seek validation from people. If you say something, then just stick by it. Don't feel like you have to explain yourself, unless someone specifically asks you. Don't ever get caught up in an argument. By doing this, you've basically lowered yourself to that person's status. Hope this helps. |
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| Author: | DJ_Secret [ Tue Mar 25, 2008 4:41 pm ] |
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thanks a lot guys m sure it will definitely help. |
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| Author: | VAtrackstar [ Wed Mar 26, 2008 11:44 pm ] |
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6. Don't ever seek validation from people. If you say something, then just stick by it. Don't feel like you have to explain yourself, unless someone specifically asks you. Don't ever get caught up in an argument. By doing this, you've basically lowered yourself to that person's status.
This is a problem ive been having lately. In my school, alpha guy will say something that disrespects me and then other people will do the same. This is really hurting my game cos often times, there are girls present. What do I do when 3-4 of my peers are all making fun of me/saying things that are hurtful. What are ways that i can diffuse the situ?
Hope this helps. |
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| Author: | Bedrock [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 12:45 am ] |
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adding onto blak000, walk like a tank. shoulders back and relaxed, walk slow (not real slow but just enough so moet people walk faster than you), sway your arms back and forth, and have a smirk on your face like blak000 described |
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| Author: | icebreaker [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 1:49 am ] |
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6. Don't ever seek validation from people. If you say something, then just stick by it. Don't feel like you have to explain yourself, unless someone specifically asks you. Don't ever get caught up in an argument. By doing this, you've basically lowered yourself to that person's status.
This is a problem ive been having lately. In my school, alpha guy will say something that disrespects me and then other people will do the same. This is really hurting my game cos often times, there are girls present. What do I do when 3-4 of my peers are all making fun of me/saying things that are hurtful. What are ways that i can diffuse the situ?Hope this helps. Take a Karate class. Then stand up for yourself. Neg down the guys. Game isnt just for women. It's a lifestyle. |
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| Author: | Impact [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:01 am ] |
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Body language is everything. I think when you first approach concentrate on getting a warm confident deep voice out first, that sets the mood for everything, because if that comes out and she responds to it.. your body language will automatically fall into place. Also if shes confident and your not you'll notice that, just be quick to calibrate to it and you'll be fine 
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| Author: | yokezg63 [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:34 am ] |
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This is a problem ive been having lately. In my school, alpha guy will say something that disrespects me and then other people will do the same. This is really hurting my game cos often times, there are girls present. What do I do when 3-4 of my peers are all making fun of me/saying things that are hurtful. What are ways that i can diffuse the situ?
trackstar, I went from being the biggest nerd in the beginning of sophomore year to one of the biggest alphas by the end of junior year. I went from being looked over by all the girls to having the hottest girls in school wanting me. You know how I did it? I started standing up for myself, and began to live by one motto: "Always be willing to take it farther than the other guy." It's that simple. Dominance is really just a game of chicken. Another guy will challenge you, so you call his bluff. You guys just keep upping the ante until the other guy backs down. Hate to say it, but that's really the only way you're going to change your situation. You can't talk your way into respect. This isn't just about dealing with some dicks at your school. This is about developing a mentality of self-respect. You have to become a guy who doesn't take crap from anybody, no matter how big they are. Over time, that mentality will become ingrained in your persona, and it'll translate through your movements and body signals. People will begin to sense it in you, and they'll show you respect without you having to do a damn thing. A lot of guys try to act like they're tough; be the one who reminds them why they aren't. |
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| Author: | Lucius [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 2:53 am ] |
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watch 007 or tom cruise and you'll be great |
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| Author: | VAtrackstar [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 3:10 am ] |
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thanks for the response blak but its more of teasing. It kinda bothers me, and to the girls, it looks like they are disrespecting me. I dont want to give the girls the image that i am the guy that get walked all over. In this situ, ive unaffectively tried to act like the jokes and teasing doesnt bother me. Apparently, what im doing isnt working so im thinkin about just getting in the alphas face and letting him know with a serious tone that the jokes arent okay with me. Good idea? or should i do a better job of acting like it doesnt bother me?(im not good at this). its kinda hard when a whole group of ppl are going along w/ his jokes. |
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| Author: | yokezg63 [ Thu Mar 27, 2008 3:31 am ] |
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Ah, my apologies. I thought these guys were picking on you. Other guys might give you better advice. If it was me, though, I'd just tell them in a normal tone, "Hey guys, knock it off. I'm getting a little tired of it." If they don't let up then repeat it again, but with a more aggressive tone. Make eye contact with the people doing it, but don't make a threatening face. Just let them know you're not kidding. Oftentimes, people simply don't know the negative impact they're having. Giving them a small warning will make they realize that maybe they're taking it a little far. I wouldn't suggest going straight into the guy's face, unless you're prepared to fight. Once you challenge him, he's going to have to meet your challenge or back down. If he's really an alpha, then he's probably going to do whatever he can to try and save face. Frankly, I don't think it's necessary to escalate to this point, especially if he's someone you're on good terms with. If you've let him know, and he STILL doesn't let up... then I feel like he really is just picking on you. Only way you're going to stop it then is by challenging his dominance. And take it from a former nerd: trying to ignore the problem does NOT make it go away. |
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