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Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Wed Jun 03, 2015 11:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the start
I have noticed that girls don't really care much about facts about yourself. They care more about feelings. Every girl I have dated, and this includes my best friend(she has been in my life for 5 years), don't know much about me. They would bring it up but I could always deflect and focus on the chick at hand. The girl would talk and talk and seduce herself. I would still remain a puzzle. Mysterious has always been my friend, even if it does make me look shady at times which I have to calibrate.


The less about me and the more about her= better success. This is especially true during texting, I don't say much about me but focus on her to build the comfort. I provide mostly feelings and she decides I am normal and safe and wala a meet up. I even asked a couple girls why they wanted to meet up with (a little insecure question but valuable feedback) they just said I seemed normal.


Just my two cents.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Jun 04, 2015 6:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the sta
People love the sound of their own voice. This is really no surprise. Guys who talk a lot about themselves do it because they feel the need to impress. Which is needy in it's own way.

I had a girl tell me once that "I really feel like I can talk to you. Like actually have a great conversation. You're a good conversationalist."
I barely said any words though. Instead, I listened. Most people think listening means shutting up while thinking what you're gonna say next and at the same time kinda catching a word of what she's saying every now and then. Listening actually means listening.
Author:  Zorro305 [ Fri Jun 05, 2015 4:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the sta
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I provide mostly feelings and she decides I am normal and safe and wala a meet up.
This is interesting, but what exactly do you mean when you say you provide feelings?.. I don't think I quite get that. Can you elaborate on it a bit more?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Fri Jun 05, 2015 12:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the sta
I don't care either to be honest.

I care about her being in this moment what it is I need her to be. But I can't say the same for the women I date. They all get to know me, my favorite foods, my habits ,my do's and don'ts. And they make adjustments based off of it. They buy my favorite foods, say the things I like, and do the things I like. This is all apart of getting to know me. I'm usually the one that doesn't much about them. I'm self absorbed. Some women would bring up them feeling like I don't want to listen to them, that they feel like I don't think anything they have to say is important. Its something I've improved, but its still present.

So I'd say I'm the polar opposite to this post.
Author:  Versalis [ Tue Jun 09, 2015 1:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the sta
Pretty much what I was just saying the other day.
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You know how when you were little and you'd cover your eyes to make yourself disappear? This was because you lacked a good grasp of outside actors beyond yourself. For all intents and purposes, women never really make it past this point. She really doesn't care about you(she can't). The only way she can care about you, is how you relate to her. How you make her feel. She doesn't give a shit about what you think or what you do, she only cares about the end result of how she feels with you. There is literally nothing about you that she cares about. Nothing. The only thing she cares about is how you can make her feel.
Only area I would disagree with is that it's only the start. Honestly, she never cares. What Eddie is describing isn't really her actually caring. It's her trying to figure out how to make you happy. Which is something she's prompted to do, based on how she feels around you.
She's not actually drawn to that stuff about you. She's drawn to you, because of how she feels around you.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Jun 11, 2015 12:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the sta
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I provide mostly feelings and she decides I am normal and safe and wala a meet up.
This is interesting, but what exactly do you mean when you say you provide feelings?.. I don't think I quite get that. Can you elaborate on it a bit more?

Seductions is not about saying what you want but it is about getting what you want. A woman wants to feel special, so I make sure I let her know that, how ? By telling her that she is better than the rest of the women out there. This is where you lie, if she isn't the best girl you've ever talked to, treat her still as she is... Pay her compliments, be real, and chit chat a bit before deciding, hell why don't we meet and take things further. She won't turn down a man who thinks she is different from the rest and makes her feel attractive ;).
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Jun 11, 2015 12:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Ever notice how little you say about yourself at the sta
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I don't care either to be honest.

I care about her being in this moment what it is I need her to be. But I can't say the same for the women I date. They all get to know me, my favorite foods, my habits ,my do's and don'ts. And they make adjustments based off of it. They buy my favorite foods, say the things I like, and do the things I like. This is all apart of getting to know me. I'm usually the one that doesn't much about them. I'm self absorbed. Some women would bring up them feeling like I don't want to listen to them, that they feel like I don't think anything they have to say is important. Its something I've improved, but its still present.

So I'd say I'm the polar opposite to this post.

I don't quite get this kind of thinking. I understand that you should always talk about things you like and whatnot, and if the women likes you, she will enjoy this...but you're right we probably work different ways. I don't say much, but I do make sure to be opinionated if I don't like something...but my overall approach is I make the woman the center of the conversation. This is how I flirt. Woman blab and blab and they love to talk about themselves. Weird.

I'd still like to explore more of this side of seduction.
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