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Author:  Playboi_ [ Thu May 28, 2015 2:33 pm ]
Post subject:  How To Regain Her Attraction
Although I see myself as a guy who can attract a lot of women and more often than not, act upon those instances, I am not immune to some "oneitis."

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To skip to my conclusion --> Have a "let her go" mentality. You had a PHENOMENAL date, sex or not and she is really digging you something fierce....say to yourself "cool, let her go."

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Where I drew my conclusion --> I got this girls # called her up a few hours later, eventually taking her out that same night. She was incredibly into me. Leading me through bars by grabbing and squeezing my hand, reacting perfectly when I go in for a kiss and even your little "I had a great time tonight, we should see each other again" text after I got back to my house after a make out session and sending her on her way.

I reached out to her for a dinner date a few days later and she was ecstatic to hear from me. Texted me back instantly and we got dinner a couple nights later. Met with friends afterwards for drinks and she was all sorts of touchy feely. Took her back to her place and we had sex until the late night, when I ended up going home.

She told me she was going away for a day or so for a mini-vaca and I let that be and did not contact her until the day she was to come home to see how it was. I was busy at the time of contact but told her we should get together that night. She was interested. After I left my place I headed to her and once I got there I fully planned on just kicking back and watching a movie, spending time with her but she couldn't keep her hands off of me. Ended up sleeping with her again.

Where I almost gave up my power was that I texted her the next afternoon saying something along the lines of "it was nice waking up to you." She responded positively but I could see the power switching. I texted her later that night to ask about some event we were talking about and she did not get back to me for a day or so. I never texted back, I just called her which I prefer to do.

I saw her again but cannot for the life of me receive a read on this girl. When I am with her, she literally cannot keep her hands off of me but when apart, her communication comes through as very aloof.

So, I left last night after we kissed a little and spent an hour or so watching some TV. I knew she had to be up early so I told her I was going to leave and head back to my place. Again, she made it feel like an aloof exit but I sent no text after that and do not plan to until she reaches out to me. We spoke of going out next week so if she really is into it, I will hear from her.

Now....you can have a great time/shitty time/mediocre time/magical time with a girl and then just let it play itself out by saying "cool, let her go" or you can mind f*ck yourself into a long ass entry like this on a forum.
Author:  masterm1ne [ Thu May 28, 2015 3:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
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Now....you can have a great time/shitty time/mediocre time/magical time with a girl and then just let it play itself out by saying "cool, let her go" or you can mind f*ck yourself into a long ass entry like this on a forum.
Yea man... your conclusion is correct and has been written about so much before. The more exp you get with women, which it sounds like you have, the more you will realize that every person is different and don't give too much to someone if they won't reciprocate (IE the whole going cold thing).

I had this 20 yr old texting me yesterday about how she wanted to jump on my cock and we met last night. Guess what? She didn't even want me to hold her hand. I'm not talking to that girl anymore. You need plans B, C, D, E, all the way to mother fucking Z! Sometimes even if you have a 'steady' relationship. Don't make someone special to you until they prove themselves to be. I have a 19 yo fit black girl that likes me and comes over almost anytime I want and will let me do anything to her, and I have another girl that will come fuck my brains out for a weekend. Even when my two freaks aren't available, I'll go walk around somewhere and look for a girl to talk to. I think you need to find something else to keep yourself busy, it doesn't necessarily have to be pussy, but if that's your aim, so be it. A girl is one void we are trying to fill in life, but after enough sex, you realize you just need to keep yourself busy with other things so you don't sit there and mindfuck yourself over any one person.

You know, I met a model chick recently, but she acted like a bitch. I tried speaking Spanish with her, and she wouldn't with me. Not only that, her body wasn't perfect, she had nice tits and a photogenic face but very disproportionately small hips. Not to mention, judging from her attitude she probably sucks in bed. The best sex I've had came from an average looking woman. Knowing this, which comes from exp will help you let go, and realize there is something better out there can you can find it.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu May 28, 2015 11:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
I don't see your question here bro..

And i think you know as well as I do that if you just pull back and stop poisoning yourself with these pedestal like thoughts of her that she will be crawling right back and throwing herself into your position. You're great at communicating your feelings without trying.. I can thoroughly see how into this girl you are. You painting a utopian picture of this story.

Had this happened to someone else they be like " I texted this chick, we went out, had a great time, had sex. I contacted this next day and we went to dinner etc. etc. " but the fact that you feel a need to express with such dramatic detail as if its going to make a difference suggest to the reader that you're in way over your head.

This is honestly a no brainer. You're attaching, and she's detaching. Its happened to all of us and I'm sure this isn't your first time running into this issue. So, what are you going to do this time around?

If you're not willing to walk.. she will. Its as simple as that. The door has a pull sign on it, so stop pushing. Its not going to open. You've gotten all she can give you already. And you got hooked on affection. Seductive girls know this game all to well. What we as men crave more than sex is affection.. Its like a drug. You give it away for free, and give it relentlessly. Then you begin giving less and eventually you take it away turning the user into a fiend. She'll never be able to get you this high ever again. You can chase the high all you want.. A woman doesn't get a man hooked on her sex, she gets him hooked on her affection.

She's only acting the way you're treating her.. She's responding to the energy and frame you're projecting. And since you're excellent at subcommuncating your emotions without having to directly say them, I have no doubt in my mind that she picked on it with ease. You've placed her above you, and as a result she's making you climb up to get her.

Understand that a woman only dates a man that she feels is capable of elevating her. She only dates the guy who she thinks is better than her. So somewhere you lost site of that. You're still better than her and you're still capable of elevating her. You just have to get yourself back to that place. Take a break..

Leave the drug alone for a bit. It ain't nothing special about her. Someone else could probably sleep with her and think nothing of her.

You're addicted to the amounts of dopamine your body secretes when she touches you. I get it. But understand thats a chemical reaction taking place in you and only you. It has a lot less to do with her than you think.
Author:  Playboi_ [ Fri May 29, 2015 12:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
Fucking Eddie. You da man.
Author:  R.C [ Fri May 29, 2015 7:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
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I don't see your question here bro..

And i think you know as well as I do that if you just pull back and stop poisoning yourself with these pedestal like thoughts of her that she will be crawling right back and throwing herself into your position. You're great at communicating your feelings without trying.. I can thoroughly see how into this girl you are. You painting a utopian picture of this story.

Had this happened to someone else they be like " I texted this chick, we went out, had a great time, had sex. I contacted this next day and we went to dinner etc. etc. " but the fact that you feel a need to express with such dramatic detail as if its going to make a difference suggest to the reader that you're in way over your head.

This is honestly a no brainer. You're attaching, and she's detaching. Its happened to all of us and I'm sure this isn't your first time running into this issue. So, what are you going to do this time around?

If you're not willing to walk.. she will. Its as simple as that. The door has a pull sign on it, so stop pushing. Its not going to open. You've gotten all she can give you already. And you got hooked on affection. Seductive girls know this game all to well. What we as men crave more than sex is affection.. Its like a drug. You give it away for free, and give it relentlessly. Then you begin giving less and eventually you take it away turning the user into a fiend. She'll never be able to get you this high ever again. You can chase the high all you want.. A woman doesn't get a man hooked on her sex, she gets him hooked on her affection.

She's only acting the way you're treating her.. She's responding to the energy and frame you're projecting. And since you're excellent at subcommuncating your emotions without having to directly say them, I have no doubt in my mind that she picked on it with ease. You've placed her above you, and as a result she's making you climb up to get her.

Understand that a woman only dates a man that she feels is capable of elevating her. She only dates the guy who she thinks is better than her. So somewhere you lost site of that. You're still better than her and you're still capable of elevating her. You just have to get yourself back to that place. Take a break..

Leave the drug alone for a bit. It ain't nothing special about her. Someone else could probably sleep with her and think nothing of her.

You're addicted to the amounts of dopamine your body secretes when she touches you. I get it. But understand thats a chemical reaction taking place in you and only you. It has a lot less to do with her than you think.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Author:  Playboi_ [ Wed Jun 03, 2015 12:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
It's so funny to read your own content back to you sometimes. I quickly got over this situation and pulled a # from a very attractive waitress at a busy bar tonight, after a lot of initiation of touching on her part. phew, that was close. I'll call her tomorrow to see if she is down to grab a bite. I'm back, thanks dudes.
Author:  Playboi_ [ Wed Jun 03, 2015 10:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
Just a p.s.

This girl hit me up today after just chilling out and doing me. Probably been about a week. I made plans to go see the Entourage release though so if she wants to f*** after that, then word. If not, deuce.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Jun 03, 2015 11:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
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Just a p.s.

This girl hit me up today after just chilling out and doing me. Probably been about a week. I made plans to go see the Entourage release though so if she wants to f*** after that, then word. If not, deuce.
To me it sounds like you're using you "ego" to rationalize a decision that's below you.

You know better man.

Every decision brings you closer or further away. You have to ask yourself which does this do. And I think you know.
Author:  Playboi_ [ Thu Jun 04, 2015 2:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How To Regain Her Attraction
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Just a p.s.

This girl hit me up today after just chilling out and doing me. Probably been about a week. I made plans to go see the Entourage release though so if she wants to f*** after that, then word. If not, deuce.
To me it sounds like you're using you "ego" to rationalize a decision that's below you.

You know better man.

Every decision brings you closer or further away. You have to ask yourself which does this do. And I think you know.
What do you mean?
Edit: I think I get you, Eddie. Just because she came back around to texting me, don't act like some pig. I didn't. I ended up asking her if she was getting into anything last night and she just told me she had to be up early or something. I had to as well and just offered to FaceTime, no response on that text though. I'll just leave it there and continue with that abundance mentality ;)
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