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| Author: | DdOS [ Mon May 25, 2015 7:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | 5 Stages of grief. |
When i embarked on a jurney to rediscover my masculinity i went trough what may be equated to 5 stages of grief, my old me had to die for new me to rise, here is how it went: Stage one:Denial and isolation, when i first discovered what being a man entails i denied it, i could not bring myself to believe that is what i have to become, in this society of ours masculinity was so demonized i flat out refused to believe that is who i am. Stage two:Anger, i swore to myself i would never become that man, i believed it to be immoral and plain wrong. Stage three: Bargining, maybe i can adopt only portions that i like, maybe i can create a surogate personallity, i don't really have to change, i can just act very good. Stage four: Depression, failing to bargin i sunk into depression, i believed i will never become a real man, that masculinity was not for me, i hated the world for being made this way and myself for being stuck in it. Stage five: Acceptance, this is what i am convinced to have reached now, after running from it for so long in finally accepted that man has to be dominant, furthermore, i have accepted that, without reasonable doubt, women want, need a dominant man in their life. Many in this society would be appaled by the notion but i am now at peace with myself, i know who i am. I just wanted to share my way, if you went trough similar experience please share, thanks for your time. |
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| Author: | Sparton [ Wed May 27, 2015 2:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 5 Stages of grief. |
Interesting... I can actually relate a lot from this, this is actually dead on. I just transitioned into stage four. |
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| Author: | DdOS [ Fri May 29, 2015 5:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 5 Stages of grief. |
Quote: Interesting...
One interesting thing i noticed, i used to have a real problem with slouching, i practiced standing straight in front of a mirror but i had to put energy into maintaining that. Since a few days ago i noticed i started to default into "superman position" it was as though my body forgot how to slouch, i could replicate it after a few tries but my body would naturally return into that other "non slouching" position, was actually somewhat uncomfortable at first, like wearing a new pair of shoes with different soles, that is why i noticed it in the first place, really weird huh?
I can actually relate a lot from this, this is actually dead on. I just transitioned into stage four. |
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| Author: | Sparton [ Tue Jun 02, 2015 9:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 5 Stages of grief. |
yeah I'm still working on holding it naturally. I catch myself slouching at times though. Doing all this is a pretty big change. |
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| Author: | Sparton [ Wed Jun 03, 2015 9:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 5 Stages of grief. |
Quote: ^ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Systematic_desensitization
interesting. I think I've already done this. I think I've identified what's been causing my anxiety. Working on #2 on that.
Might find this to be a relevant and interesting read in over-coming your anxieties. |
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| Author: | Pajo [ Thu Jun 04, 2015 10:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 5 Stages of grief. |
I can rely on this so much, thank god I'm in the fifth fase. |
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