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Author:  ConfidenceMatters [ Fri Jul 04, 2014 10:08 pm ]
Post subject:  "You seem like you're trying to pick me up."
Last night I went to a party. After making out with a girl in the backyard I decided to spit some game in the living room. I started talking to this cutie, HBArchitect and her friends. HBArchitect instantly called me out saying that I was "Picking up on her" and that she had a husband. I thanked her for being direct and told her that she was being a bit presumptuous. She started squawking so I just ignored he and started to talk to everyone else. She got really indignant and left.

Any advice on how I could've better dealt with the situation?
Author:  southern_gentlemangq [ Fri Jul 04, 2014 11:28 pm ]
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thats the best you could have done lol...i would have made it into a joke, smiled and said something along the lines of "of course i am, what straight man wouldn't try" then walk away and ignored her for the rest of the night


can't get them all lol
Author:  hugge [ Sat Jul 05, 2014 5:18 am ]
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Only the most honest response is the right one. If you were indeed picking up on her, you could only respond with a "yes I am, and I will indeed try my best, how do you think I'm doing?". You can never say "no", because it will either tell her that you are lying or not interested. Both options are bad. But on the other hand, it all depends on what outcome you want (getting the girl is not always the best outcome, some girls are best avoided). Maybe this was for the best anyway.

I think this is what happened in your case:

1. You started talking to a girl and she (probably) enjoyed it. She felt wanted and liked it.

2. For some stupid reason she made the mistake to give you that comment that you were picking up on her. Girls who know game should never say such a thing. Blame on her! :)

3. When you denied it, her ego fell apart and she felt hurt. That's the reason she started squawking. What did she expect? She probably didn't know herself. That's why a "yes" would have been the "best" answer. Blame on you!

4. You made it even worse by ignoring her. But on the other hand, I would have ignored her as well. Maybe I would have told her "I'm sorry if I disappointed you, but... Get over it!", haha! A girl with such bad control over her feelings will most likely cause trouble in a relationship anyway.

:)
Author:  Chief [ Sat Jul 05, 2014 7:24 am ]
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Only the most honest response is the right one.
quoted for truth
Author:  Cool Hand Luke [ Sat Jul 05, 2014 10:26 pm ]
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It would seem that she has HIGH control issues and attempted to take control by calliing you out at a party in front of everyone.
I would guess she left the party because no one came to her aid in her attempt to control the situation and was embarrassed that you kept your frame and she didn't have an effect on you. You were uncontrollable.
Author:  ConfidenceMatters [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 3:34 am ]
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OOOOH!


I forgot one important detail to the story.

This girl claimed she had a husband, which is why I just ignored her shit test.
Author:  RunTheNumbers [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 5:37 am ]
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did you try whipping out your cock and telling her "I bet you can't fit this whole thing in your mouth" ?
Author:  Twisted soul [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 7:26 am ]
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say "im not trying to pick you up but i could if i wanted to...... (grab her and lift her into the air) see there i picked you up, anymore silly questions?"
Author:  CESARE [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 8:51 am ]
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OOOOH!


I forgot one important detail to the story.

This girl claimed she had a husband, which is why I just ignored her shit test.
Did she have the wedding ring?
I would have said "I can see it from the ring. Good for you!" if she had the ring and "oh, really? It must not be a really good marriage if you don't even wear your wedding ring".

Anyway, I would have ignored her as well.
Author:  Don Horneone [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 11:47 am ]
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If she says "you seem like you're trying to pick me up", just feign shock, put your hand over your mouth and say "oh no!" continue laying it on thick by saying something like "you must feel so objectified as a woman by that kind of behaviour, I can't imagine how hard that must be for you". Continue being a piss-taking prick until she smiles i.e. the shit test is passed.

Also an opportunity for some kino, put a hand on her shoulder or arm while you are "sympathising" with her predicament
Author:  Don Horneone [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 11:54 am ]
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Quote:
Only the most honest response is the right one.
quoted for truth
Honesty may have its place, but why be honest because someone else has forced your hand? A response like the one I'm suggesting tacitly admits that he IS trying to pick her up, but with deniability i.e. "well, you said it, I was just playing along with your silly idea". Fessing up to your actual intentions is something you should only do on your own terms.
Author:  Chief [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 1:14 am ]
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Quote:
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Only the most honest response is the right one.
quoted for truth
Honesty may have its place, but why be honest because someone else has forced your hand? A response like the one I'm suggesting tacitly admits that he IS trying to pick her up, but with deniability i.e. "well, you said it, I was just playing along with your silly idea". Fessing up to your actual intentions is something you should only do on your own terms.
There is no "fessing up" involved when you've been honest and direct the whole time, even if you were being indirectly honest. A rawer level of honesty will also pass any "shit test" with a reframe from "what you're trying to do is bad" to "I'm doing this and so what?"

Balls.

Masculine polarity attracts the feminine.
Author:  NaughtyNapoleon [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 6:25 am ]
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"Am I doing a good job here?" is what you can respond to her.

No matter what she's respond, please do know that you actually intent to hookup with you.

The reason she call you out and tell her that she has husband because she want to put all the responsibility to you. So if she end up hookup with you, it's your fault for seducing her, not her (as she already told you upfront that she has a husband).

Yes, she's also testing you here to see if you had hookup with a young wife before and if you know how to hook up with a married woman.

Well, from your respond, it's obviously not, that's why she left and look for someone who do.


Hope this help,
Naughty Napoleon
Author:  ConfidenceMatters [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 6:35 pm ]
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"Am I doing a good job here?" is what you can respond to her.

No matter what she's respond, please do know that you actually intent to hookup with you.

The reason she call you out and tell her that she has husband because she want to put all the responsibility to you. So if she end up hookup with you, it's your fault for seducing her, not her (as she already told you upfront that she has a husband).

Yes, she's also testing you here to see if you had hookup with a young wife before and if you know how to hook up with a married woman.

Well, from your respond, it's obviously not, that's why she left and look for someone who do.


Hope this help,
Naughty Napoleon

I would agree but I don't think you're taking the bigger context in mind. She was with her friends. Having witnesses to one's infidelity is a liability, one that she probably couldn't afford for any number of reasons. If there was one mistake I made was that I might've been too aggressive instead of following the flow. I believe you wrote in a different post that this could've been a case where I should "accidentally" meet her again somewhere else.

But my suspicions are simply that she wanted a little ego boost and that she has a beta husband.

However this does open up room for a different discussion: Ethics when gaming girls in relationships. Is it really worth being "the other man"?
Author:  Corey [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 9:43 pm ]
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did you try whipping out your cock and telling her "I bet you can't fit this whole thing in your mouth" ?
In a way I have a feeling you can get in some legal trouble for doing shit like that.
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