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Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 12:32 am ]
Post subject:  What is the general consensus when girl is telling problems
I am aware that you shouldn't really care when it's a girl you are picking up at a bar or if you barely know the girl. What if it is your girlfriend.


Your girlfriend is telling you about her problems with school, work, life, and all the stress that comes with that. Personally, it is draining to hear the negative energy when it comes to things like that. Do I just spin the thread into a positive direction, or acknowledge it and move on to another thread, because that is all I learned to do when it came to pick-up. Not sure where that plays in a relationship. I can't really tell my girlfriend of 6 months that I don't care...thoughts?

So far I have just been short with responses.
Author:  forumuser [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 12:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
relationships and seduction are unrelated in may ways.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 2:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
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relationships and seduction are unrelated in may ways.

How so?
Author:  skills360 [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 5:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
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I am aware that you shouldn't really care when it's a girl you are picking up at a bar or if you barely know the girl. What if it is your girlfriend.


Your girlfriend is telling you about her problems with school, work, life, and all the stress that comes with that. Personally, it is draining to hear the negative energy when it comes to things like that. Do I just spin the thread into a positive direction, or acknowledge it and move on to another thread, because that is all I learned to do when it came to pick-up. Not sure where that plays in a relationship. I can't really tell my girlfriend of 6 months that I don't care...thoughts?

So far I have just been short with responses.
Some women want just to vent, not looking for a solution, some women are looking for help and advice...Who told you, you should not care, horrible advice.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 6:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
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I am aware that you shouldn't really care when it's a girl you are picking up at a bar or if you barely know the girl. What if it is your girlfriend.


Your girlfriend is telling you about her problems with school, work, life, and all the stress that comes with that. Personally, it is draining to hear the negative energy when it comes to things like that. Do I just spin the thread into a positive direction, or acknowledge it and move on to another thread, because that is all I learned to do when it came to pick-up. Not sure where that plays in a relationship. I can't really tell my girlfriend of 6 months that I don't care...thoughts?

So far I have just been short with responses.
Some women want just to vent, not looking for a solution, some women are looking for help and advice...Who told you, you should not care, horrible advice.
Alright,

I always thought women were just vent machines, not really looking for advice. I heard men are problem solvers, hearing a problem and right away going for the solution. Maybe it isn't as black and white...

The person who told me not to care was a person who likes the one-night stand. Not surprisingly, they don't hold on to girls too long, but then again, they like the one night stands. Yeah, not good advice for my particular situation.
Author:  forumuser [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 7:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
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relationships and seduction are unrelated in may ways.

How so?
not sure if i need to explain, think about it and tell me
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Wed Feb 26, 2014 2:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
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relationships and seduction are unrelated in may ways.

How so?
not sure if i need to explain, think about it and tell me
I did. Still not seeing the distinction.
Author:  JackZero [ Wed Feb 26, 2014 2:54 am ]
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I did. Still not seeing the distinction.
Seduction is an art for attracting someone and at times it may go against that person's belief system. A relationship is in this aspect is a emotional and sexual connection between two people.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Wed Feb 26, 2014 3:38 am ]
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I did. Still not seeing the distinction.
Seduction is an art for attracting someone and at times it may go against that person's belief system. A relationship is in this aspect is a emotional and sexual connection between two people.
In my opinion you never stop seducing your woman even if you are in a relationship. The seduction never stops, if it stops that is the end of the relationship.

Seduction is still between a man and a woman. I am not going to stop being a man, and my woman won't stop being a woman.

I still have to maintain myself and keep my seduction skills in-tact to secure longetivity. I never stop going to the gym, never stop improving, I am always looking for ways to make myself look good and desirable to other women and my woman. In relationships, this can work wonders, keeps things fresh, keeps the girl on her toes. Attraction still plays a part in relationships.

Still have to keep the sex fresh, still have to learn how to rock her world in different ways, so I disagree that seduction and relationships aren't that much different.

Mr. A
Author:  forumuser [ Thu Feb 27, 2014 12:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
relationship is leading up to marriage. in seduction you can meet many women at the same time, and you can leave a woman if she is annoying with some pointless crap. in relationship you cant. it is like having a pet and making sure they have a good life.
Author:  peiper [ Thu Feb 27, 2014 8:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
On the point of whether or not seduction is similar/dissimilar to a relationship... We should all realize that an exclusive relationship or marriage is a human construct and is not an evolutionary factor in behavior. It is simply an agreement which can easily, or not so easily, be taken back by who ever is unsatisfied. Relationships are not based in subconscious desire like seduction is, they are a cognitive decision and can be decided against at any point that the attraction/seduction is no longer there.


As far as your girlfriend discussing her problems goes, i generally just sympathize with whatever issue it is since most of the time shes just venting. Obviously you can gage if its serious or not, and if it is then act accordingly. Just don't be a dick if shes feeling sensitive. Also, if she complains a lot then you should start to show some dissinterest when she complains about something genuinely stupid, that behavior is obnoxious and theres no point in being with someone like that.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Thu Feb 27, 2014 8:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What is the general consensus when girl is telling probl
Girls love to tell their problems after sex, usually. Sometimes, even when you know that you're just there to listen and not give any solutions, the venting just gets too long and you doze off.

Girls get mad and pull all kinds of crazy stuff when your eyes get drowsy and you mouth off that unmistakable half sleep - half awake words of empathy and affirmation: zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

If you get into that situation, you'll usually get away with your 'relationship crime' by simply eating her pussy and when your cock is hard again, bang her senseless.

Girls are very benevolent creatures if you bang them good. They'll usually let you get away when you commit those little relationship crimes of dozing off while they're mouthing off their litanies and epiphanies.

Sometimes, you can cut off the negative stuff with something like this: "I'm starving. Come on babe, get us some bacon cheeseburger so we can enjoy this story some more. I would love to hear later how xxx, blah, blah, blah (paraphrase some of the things that she said)."

When she complies, get a quick shuteye so you're energized once again to listen to part 2. Most of the time, girls forget about the continuation. And yeah, let her spend some of her money on you. Girls love to take care of men who bang them good. They get more emotionally invested in you this way.
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