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Author:  Xoved [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 10:10 am ]
Post subject:  Things You Should Know
These are the most important things you should ALWAYS keep in mind when gaming:


1. Good Body Posture:
*Shoulders back
*Head straight
*Legs spread apart with the same width as your shoulders
*Eye contact while you are speaking, lower eye contact when you are listening
*If you have a drink, hold it in your left hand between hip level (prevents wet hand when shaking)

2. Clear Voice
*Adjust volume slightly higher than that of the set
*Speak at a normal rate, don't go too fast or too slow (PS: going slow bores people out).

3. Become the center of attention
*Take pictures with your friends (with flash on)
*Learn some street magic, it's easy
*Dress FIT (Whatever fits your body looks good on you)
*Give compliments, but don't overdo it

4. Flirt
*Flirt with every single woman, they like it.

5. It's OK to pay
*Don't make a big deal out of it. I don't know why PUA stuff plants this idea in your mind of "not paying for a woman"...It's ok to pay for a drink or two, it shows that you are interested in the conversation, plus it's respectful. If she insists to pay, let her, but if she doesn't, don't just stand there looking at the receipt, pay.
*Of course don't take women out to fancy expensive restaurants unless you got laid and you wanted to reward them. A coffee/drink or two is enough.

6. Don't ask questions, use statements
*Don't make dates/going out/sarging look like interviews, instead of using questions use statements. Clearly, telling a girl "You look Canadian to me with those fluffy headphones of yours" is way much better than asking her "Where are you from?". If your guess is wrong, she'll start opening up to you and telling you about her life, it always works for me.

7. Don't curse/swear too much
*Only curse when you want to make a STRONG impression for something you are saying, maybe a joke or a statement. Don't often use curse/swear words in your conversations, it's disrespectful and gets old.

8. Just go for it
*You want her phone number? Ask her. Don't make an excuse to get her phone number. Seriously...most people I see are like "Hey, I wanted to copy those notes on your copybook, can you give me your phone number?". Seriously? Don't ask for validation, just tell her "We should hang out sometimes, give me your phone number". It's simple, easy and straight to the point. Always send your clear intentions, don't hide them.

9. Learn how to keep conversations going
*Read books, fiction or non-fiction, it doesn't matter
*Go out more often
*Speak to more people
*Have hobbies
*Recall your best memories and let them out
*If you have no great memories, talk about your crazy dreams for the future

10. Touch
*This is like the magic card to pick up. From the moment I started touching girls when speaking to them, I started getting decent numbers of positive feedback. Girls started flirting more with me, teasing me and liked hanging around me. They were more comfortable because the barrier between us was broken. Touching also comes effective in your career, you need it. It's like a superpower.

11. Just call
*Pick up your phone and call a girl, no one is going to come to you if you don't initiate. People are lazyass creatures nowadays, you have to know that, no one feels like hitting up someone these days.

I'll keep adding more to the list and editing it for a better guide. These were just the main points that came into my mind right now. Overall, don't use rules or follow ones. These are not rules, they are just a help guide to break you out of the "canned material" and "don't do this and don't do that" routines that people post. Empty your head and make your own guidelines, rules are a fail for pick up and I talk from experience.

I appreciate any type of feedback (positive and negative).

Thanks in advance
Author:  Xoved [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 10:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
I'll keep one post reserved here (Just in case I wanted to elongate the list)
Author:  LeoTheory [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 2:32 pm ]
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To me this is spot on, I've bookmarked this and will definately be coming back again before I go out on a sarge just to freshen my mind with the key points you've made in your post :D

Keep up the good work Xoved!
Author:  alwaysbe learning [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 2:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
Excellent post, especially regarding the issues of touch and making statements. Since this is such a great list, I have to add something I am sure you just forgot to add.

Eye contact. Unflinching and unapologetic. Maintain eye contact when talking to both men and women. It shows women you are a confident male and men will have more respect for what you have to say. It actually took me two years of reading about eye contact in books and forums until I finally started doing it and it changed my world.

Be Positive - I have found women love being around people who are positive and improve their mood. Do not be negative - don't complain about anything when you are talking to a woman. You are giving off negative vibes and . she might argue with you for the sake of it. This has happened to me on multiple occasions. I used to think a complaint about our joint environment would be an easy topic to start talking about, however if a women felt differently or was looking to test me, she would tell me I was wrong and it would pretty much go downhill from there.
Author:  Xoved [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 4:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
Quote:
To me this is spot on, I've bookmarked this and will definately be coming back again before I go out on a sarge just to freshen my mind with the key points you've made in your post :D

Keep up the good work Xoved!
Thank you, I appreciate the support!
Author:  Xoved [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 5:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
Quote:
Excellent post, especially regarding the issues of touch and making statements. Since this is such a great list, I have to add something I am sure you just forgot to add.

Eye contact. Unflinching and unapologetic. Maintain eye contact when talking to both men and women. It shows women you are a confident male and men will have more respect for what you have to say. It actually took me two years of reading about eye contact in books and forums until I finally started doing it and it changed my world.

Be Positive - I have found women love being around people who are positive and improve their mood. Do not be negative - don't complain about anything when you are talking to a woman. You are giving off negative vibes and . she might argue with you for the sake of it. This has happened to me on multiple occasions. I used to think a complaint about our joint environment would be an easy topic to start talking about, however if a women felt differently or was looking to test me, she would tell me I was wrong and it would pretty much go downhill from there.
Thanks a lot for the feedback, appreciated.
What can I say, I'll keep adding to the list until it is the perfect guideline to review before gaming.
I'll add eye contact under the body posture section.
Being positive is part of keeping the conversation going, I'll find a place for it.

Thanks again
Author:  Xoved [ Mon Nov 04, 2013 5:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
Can anyone help out a bit?
I wanted to update this thread today but there seems to be no "edit" button at the bottom of my posts.
I can edit any post anywhere, but not on this thread, why is this happening?
Author:  Cloud7 [ Wed Nov 06, 2013 6:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
That's actually not a bad list. For 1 and 2......as far as body language and tonality goes.....I've found that if your inner state is right....all of those outer things happen naturally and don't need to be consciously thought of. It's possible to fake body language well but it's not as powerful as actually having it naturally....that all comes from how you feel on the inside. That's my personal take on it, less shit I gotta think about ya know?

Eye contact though, I constantly make sure I keep good eye contact. It's so under-rated....both in society in general and the seduction community.
Author:  Xoved [ Wed Nov 06, 2013 9:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things You Should Know
Quote:
That's actually not a bad list. For 1 and 2......as far as body language and tonality goes.....I've found that if your inner state is right....all of those outer things happen naturally and don't need to be consciously thought of. It's possible to fake body language well but it's not as powerful as actually having it naturally....that all comes from how you feel on the inside. That's my personal take on it, less shit I gotta think about ya know?

Eye contact though, I constantly make sure I keep good eye contact. It's so under-rated....both in society in general and the seduction community.
Thanks for the feedback.

Body language and tonality can both be negatively altered when you are in a bad mood, I agree. But you can always make the best out of it by having an attractive lifestyle. The more happy you are, the more your inner state will reflect on your body language unconsciously. It's simple, be happy with who you are and people will be more than happy to stick around you, especially girls. They like it when guys are positive about themselves and their surroundings.

Eye contact is an important tool, but speaking from experience, it's only great as long as you are talking. When you're listening, you should sometimes avoid TOO much eye contact, it stresses the person who is talking.
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