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Author:  A Good Person [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 3:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Talking Too Much
PUA's get the woman to work for them. AFC's work for the woman. Talking to much about yourself probably is the greatest flaw most men have. It's something even the experienced have to remember.

1.) Loose lips sink ships.

2.) when you're talking you're not learning.

When you talk too much you invest all your attention in the woman, she's not working for you. Secondly you reveal your insecurities and lose value when you talk to much. Third, you lose your mysterious quality and woman can't project. All you have to do to get women is to get them to talk about there must intimate feelings and keep your mouth shut. Ask her how she feels then shut up!

How do you comeback from talking too much??? I don't know, maybe y'all know.
Author:  DonMontana [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
Talking too much may seem like you are overcompensating for something. Common listening skills go far in any interaction.
Author:  hugge [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 7:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
To be able to listen is good. But you need to be able to keep the conversation going, and you should take that burden from the girl, to make her feel relaxed. So talking a lot is key, as long as the girl doesn't have anything to say. But avoid talking about facts (like where you live, what you do for a living etc) at all cost. Only talk about experiences!
Author:  A Good Person [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 7:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
A lot of guys have the goal of impressing the girl with their words. All that is unnecessary.
If you relax the girl she will talk and all you need to do that is maybe humor or a compliment. I feel guys talk to much because they just can't control their feelings. They are afraid she won't like you if you don't impress her, they get too excited because they are getting her attention, you get angry because she's giving you shit or she just makes you nervous. Your emotions get in your way and you lose sight of what to do. All you have to do is a.) relax her b.) ask her how she feels c.) let her talk. She'll start projecting fantasies onto you and feel intimately connected to you.

It's about her, it's not about you. It's about how she feels, not how you feel. Most people don't know how to be selfless like this.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 7:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
Quote:
To be able to listen is good. But you need to be able to keep the conversation going, and you should take that burden from the girl, to make her feel relaxed. So talking a lot is key, as long as the girl doesn't have anything to say. But avoid talking about facts (like where you live, what you do for a living etc) at all cost. Only talk about experiences!
We all know I've gotten into a fair amount of disagreements with Return but I'm going to take his side on this one.

Talking too much is awful... When I talk a lot it's not about myself though. I tend of have read lots of interesting stuff, have some story, or just learned about things. So when I talk it's not about me very often in conversations... which is good adds an element of mystery.

You eventually need to answer the qualification questions... why? Because that is a part of courtship no answer can give you a weird vibe and lose you potential sexual opportunities.

You want to talk as little as possible and keep the conversation going... there is an old statement "You have two ears and one mouth, use them accordingly." That is very true when it comes to women... they like to talk so let em... might as well let em do all the work for you.

To come back from over talking it's simple... make an apology and admit you were rude and ask her something in relation to what you said... through out my stories I always ask them to identify with the moment or experience a little with looking for small compliances like body language or statements they make in agreement. This will give her room to talk when you're done with your story or whatever.

Peace and Love,

Vic
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 7:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
Quote:
A lot of guys have the goal of impressing the girl with their words. All that is unnecessary.
If you relax the girl she will talk and all you need to do that is maybe humor or a compliment. I feel guys talk to much because they just can't control their feelings. They are afraid she won't like you if you don't impress her, they get too excited because they are getting her attention, you get angry because she's giving you shit or she just makes you nervous. Your emotions get in your way and you lose sight of what to do. All you have to do is a.) relax her b.) ask her how she feels c.) let her talk. She'll start projecting fantasies onto you and feel intimately connected to you.

It's about her, it's not about you. It's about how she feels, not how you feel. Most people don't know how to be selfless like this.
Co-Sign, too many dudes spend way too much time trying to impress. Ultimately trying to impress or DHV is actually unimpressive or low value.

This is why inner game is so important that type of "high value" radiates outward. No need to try and impress if you're impressive... no need to demonstrate high value if you have it.

Peace and Love,

Vic
Author:  A Good Person [ Tue Oct 22, 2013 10:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
Quote:
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To be able to listen is good. But you need to be able to keep the conversation going, and you should take that burden from the girl, to make her feel relaxed. So talking a lot is key, as long as the girl doesn't have anything to say. But avoid talking about facts (like where you live, what you do for a living etc) at all cost. Only talk about experiences!
We all know I've gotten into a fair amount of disagreements with Return but I'm going to take his side on this one.

Talking too much is awful... When I talk a lot it's not about myself though. I tend of have read lots of interesting stuff, have some story, or just learned about things. So when I talk it's not about me very often in conversations... which is good adds an element of mystery.

You eventually need to answer the qualification questions... why? Because that is a part of courtship no answer can give you a weird vibe and lose you potential sexual opportunities.

You want to talk as little as possible and keep the conversation going... there is an old statement "You have two ears and one mouth, use them accordingly." That is very true when it comes to women... they like to talk so let em... might as well let em do all the work for you.

To come back from over talking it's simple... make an apology and admit you were rude and ask her something in relation to what you said... through out my stories I always ask them to identify with the moment or experience a little with looking for small compliances like body language or statements they make in agreement. This will give her room to talk when you're done with your story or whatever.

Peace and Love,

Vic


A lot of times when guys over talk they "spill their guts" and start expressing all the feelings they have for the girl, how much they want her or like her. Or they reveal deeply personal info like getting bullied, or failing a class or their first girlfriend. The girl becomes your therapist and you look weak and ordinary. Also, these things are hard to forget. This is a very easy way to get friend zoned.
Author:  jettiger [ Fri Oct 25, 2013 11:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Talking Too Much
Talking Game is for guys who don't have the balls to use KINO and escalate game quickly and for those who think that girls need to be talked into sex...

A lot of girls will have sex with you just because of your looks - if you don't spoil her impression with too much routines and shit. I know this cause since I stopped using canned techniques and shit I got even better results. Cause after you go natural - you focus more on a result, than on techniques. But don't fall into a neediness. Be like a fisher - wait till the fish is ready, then pull :)

Talkative guys can say what they want to say, but without looks your talking skills will get you only those girls who care more about your personality, than your looks. And they are rare. Otherwise Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp and other hollywood stars wouldn't have so many fans.
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