You want to talk to someone and they don't answer your phone calls.
You want to text someone and they take hours to respond.
You want someone's attention and they ignore you.
You are talking to someone and they tune you out.
You want sex but your partner refuses to give it.
Your partner refuses to talk to you.
Withholding affection occurs when you really want something until it starts to hurt not to have it and your partner holds it back from you. This can be a game that can break someone down. It can literally make someone desperate for affection. I do not recommend this as a game tactic because it can ruin someone's self-confidence and esteem, but it creates power attraction. The other person just can't deal with the suspense.
This is particularly a useful tactic for a flirt. She gives you her attention. She gets you fired up then. YOu expect to hear from her soon and to get more affection, but then you hear from her much later and she gives you very little affection. Then its just a continuous cycle of you feeling like shit all the time.
#1 This can kill your confidence
#2 This can make you believe you should bow down to every women and put her on a pedestal.
This is not fair. This not fair. This is not how she would want to be treated, why does she treat you this way? Why does this happen? You have no leverage. She has what you want. You don't have what she wants so much. Its humiliating and makes you feel helpless. At this point some men resort to verbal abuse and even physical abuse, other men resort to begging and crying, other men resort to trying really hard and being desperate.
