5 things never to do when you are trying to seduce a woman in a bar or club.
-1 Never give another girl your number nor ask for hers.
This has happened to me quite a few times and it took me awhile to get over my ego and realize that I can't have every girl. Sometimes you have to sacrifice the girl that's throwing herself at you for the girl that you already have.
One time I was hanging out with this awkward Brazilian girl who was very cute. She was a little on the chubby side but still sexy. We were making out and everything was good but as I ordered a Corona from the bartender I managed to strike up some banter with another girl who was a little bit cuter.
I continued to hang out with the Brazilian girl and her gay friend. I kept them satisfied socially and made out with the Brazilian girl here and there, so she got the emotional SPAM she needed.
Later, like 30 mins before the bar closed the cuter girl approaches me and starts to rap about how adorable she thinks I am and how she wants to hang out.
I give her my number and not even 3 seconds after that I have the Brazilian girl storming out of the bar with her gay friend.
-2 Never wait for a woman to make the move first.
I heard a basketball proverb that I believe Michael Jordan said, "You miss 100% of the shots that you don't take." Sound familiar?
This is directed at the majority of you morons who expect women to just fall in your lap like you are God's gift to women. I have a thing or two to tell you. You are never going to fuck the girls that you want if you expect that and if you do then you either resemble someone like Ian Somerhalder or have money like Warren Buffett.
Don't be afraid to approach hot girls. In fact only approach hot girls. No point waisting your time on something that is going to give you ugly kids if you accidentally knock her up either way.
-3 Learn the fundamentals of game.
If you are new to game then I suggest reading material such as The Tao of Bad Ass by Josh Pellicer, The Game by Neil Strauss, The Attraction Formula by Paul Janka and maybe dive into The Domino Effect by Justin Wayne for building a Romantic Connection.
All this material covers concepts such as openers, extremely applicable routines, escalation, relationships and much more.
Openers are what initiate the conversation with the girl.
Routines are for a variety of purposes. I personally use a few for getting a girl's number quickly. I also have others for getting her to hold hands with me. I have others that I use for kissing her and more for the intimate moments. Routines are what allow you to always have something unique to say that aid you in achieving whatever goals that you desire.
Escalation is the act of seducing a woman. Whether it be physical or mental. It is important to have an effective method or routine for escalation if you ever plan to have sex with her.
-4 Never give a girl more than 2 dates.
I firmly believe that if I am not getting sex by the second date then I am not getting sex ever. If you allow the interaction to progress beyond 2 dates then you are falling into a trap where the girl is going to bait you with sex in order to get you to jump through hoops. If you allow this then you will become no more to her than a dancing monkey.
The most satisfying relationships come when you have total control over your needs, whether they be sexual or mental. If she isn't able to give that to you then she is not compatible with you.
The act of telling her on date 2 that you are not going to continue seeing her if she doesn't give in, will show that you know what you want. If she is right for you then she will want it also. If she was trying to play you then she won't, it isn't worth dilly dallying. After 2 days you should know if you have chemistry enough to have sex. If she still isn't sure then she will never be sure and is wasting your time.
-5 When starting out you should view every date as a numbers game.
Although the art of seducing is not a numbers game, I truly think that if you view it as this in the beginning then it will help you accomplish a few important things with ease.
Among some of these things is sex. You will get sex because you view it this way. You will eventually come acrossed a damsel who is willing to fuck you. The more time you put in to meeting new women then the more sex you get out of it.
Another thing is comfort. You will feel more comfortable around women when you play it by numbers. This is because you will not worry that much when you get rejection because you know that eventually you will get what you want. The more successes that you encounter then the less rejection will bother you. You will eventually realize that women are disposable and not as hard to get as you once thought.
The last thing is fear of approach. The idea that it is just about numbers will allow you to get over that fear of approach. You will initiate your approach and realize that she is either interested or she is not.
It won't be earth shattering. It won't be embarrassing. It will just be part of the process. Nothing more and nothing less.
If a girl wants to give you a hard time then just flip her the bird and get on with your life because you will be fucking a chick just as hot or hotter in less than a week regardless.
So that's all I have to share with you guys today. Hope I was of help and enjoy the prowl.
-PUA Redsky
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