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| Author: | havegunwilltravel [ Sat Sep 14, 2013 9:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Letting girl down gently |
Went out the other night with a friend of a friend. Didn't feel it at all. She was nice and and somewhat cute, but talking to her was like talking to a child. I kept it brief, didn't kino, hug, or anything just thanked her afterward. She then texted me telling me what a great time she had? Anyway I'm not sure what to do as she is a friends with a friend and I will without a doubt see her again down the road somewhere. Usually I just wouldn't respond or tell her straight I just see her more as a friend, but this is slightly more trick. How can I let her down gently? |
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| Author: | 7000 [ Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
I wouldn't "do" anything as such. If she texts you, be polite, not really even going as far as friendly and certainly not flirty. Just respond as you would if your Mum was texting you. But don't text back too quickly. Then if she tries to instigate a date or meet up, just say you're busy. After a while, she'll get the hint or just get bored of trying. You won't have offended her, you won't have "used" her, you won't have led her on or and you won't have "rejected" her outright and you have maintained a degree of decorum and politeness which should avoid any great awkwardness when you bump into her through your friend. For the record, I would only even reply with polite messages because you say she's a friend of a friend and you will probably bump into her again. If you aren't going to bump into her in your friendship group, I would go down the "let's just be friends" route and then stop contact. |
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| Author: | havegunwilltravel [ Sun Sep 15, 2013 1:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
This is exactly what I have been doing thus far. She texted she had a great time...I said thanks for coming. She asked what I was up to next weekend I replied going out of town. I will just continue. Thanks |
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| Author: | A Good Person [ Sun Sep 15, 2013 9:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
This cowardly. Don't avoid the issue. Just be polite and gentle. Tactful but honest. She's not your taste but someone that she likes better than you may be her tastes. Okay playa? |
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| Author: | havegunwilltravel [ Sun Sep 15, 2013 9:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
You are right its cowardly and if she continues to contact me...which she hasn't yet, I will just tell her straight and hope she understands. |
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| Author: | A Good Person [ Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
It's cowardly to lie and to avoid her, but don't go out of your way to say you don't like her. Just if she pushes for an answer tell y'all aren't vining. It's all in how you say it. You tell the truth with the right spin on it. |
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| Author: | 7000 [ Tue Sep 17, 2013 12:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
I don't even think it's "cowardly". I was thinking about the girl more than your feelings. If she is going to have to see you again in your friendship group, she will feel far more uncomfortable if you outright rejected her than if she just sort of gets the hint and it fades away with nothing happening. It's not cowardly to think of a girl's feelings. Yes, if she doesn't get the hint and starts coming on strongly then the best thing for her is to tell her outright you're not interested. But at the moment, it will be a lot better for her in the long run if she doesn't have to spend time with a guy who rejected her outright whenever you and your other friend meet up or whatever. |
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| Author: | Natty [ Tue Sep 17, 2013 1:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
Just friend zone her man. Use her to get chicks u are into. |
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| Author: | havegunwilltravel [ Tue Sep 17, 2013 1:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting girl down gently |
No worries she hasn't contacted me again after a few short messages. If she for some reason hits me up again, I'm just going to tell her. I've been on the other end of the slow fade and wouldn't put her through it so I'll just tell her I just wasn't into it. Thanks again |
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