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Author:  DdOS [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 11:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
Some girls we try to sarge genuinely have serious relationships, but there are just as much(if not more) ones who just want to lay you off easily, i taught it would be a good idea to "give her just enough rope to hang herself" ie, ask her a few questions about her supposed boyfriend that will make it blatantly obvious if she is making it up, this idea is based on the assumption that she will never expect you to stick around, so she will not preplan, and as she will have to think things up on the fly she will make mistakes(kinda like detectives in various shows do with suspects), now of course you must make it so it looks like you are rely interested, and you would need to get it out of her before it turns into interrogation and she tells you to leave. I need a little brainstorming here, i which questions you could ask that give mutually exclusive answers, so that it does not seem like they are mutually exclusive at the first glance?
Author:  SexAddict911 [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 11:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
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Some girls we try to sarge genuinely have serious relationships, but there are just as much(if not more) ones who just want to lay you off easily, i taught it would be a good idea to "give her just enough rope to hang herself" ie, ask her a few questions about her supposed boyfriend that will make it blatantly obvious if she is making it up, this idea is based on the assumption that she will never expect you to stick around, so she will not preplan, and as she will have to think things up on the fly she will make mistakes(kinda like detectives in various shows do with suspects), now of course you must make it so it looks like you are rely interested, and you would need to get it out of her before it turns into interrogation and she tells you to leave. I need a little brainstorming here, i which questions you could ask that give mutually exclusive answers, so that it does not seem like they are mutually exclusive at the first glance?
If you think a girl is full of shit you can say quick questions like this?

Oh nice, what's his name?
Do you love him? or Are you in love?

Pay attention to her response and mannerisms, you should be able to get a good idea if she is being honest or not. Generally when you ask a woman in a relationship if she loves her man it will trigger more of an emotional and delayed response of "yes" as opposed to a quick "yes" from the one who is being dishonest.

The opposite happens in the case of the question "what is his name". ( minus the emotional response)
Author:  UmpteenDee [ Mon Jul 08, 2013 1:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
If she's given you good IOIs before hand, you stand a better chance of her not having a legit BF. If you made a move that brought out that pre-programmed defense from her, just tease her about it and say something like, "I bet that works on most guys huh? I usually tell the girls that hit on me I have a GF just so I can get to know them first a lil before I decided if I should flirt with them or not"

If she laughs and says something like "oh do you" then be like, "yeah, I was thinking of telling you that too but you seem like a fun chick"

If she gets defensive about the fact that she really has one, then I would say move on. The real key is to cause enough initial attraction in a girl so that she doesn't drop that line on you. It's usually hard to recover from it once it does happen, but is possible using the technique I just told you about.
Author:  pumpington [ Wed Jul 10, 2013 11:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
if she says she has a boyfriend, she's probably either telling the truth, not interested in you, or too uncomfortable with the situation currently cause she just met you and feels you are coming on too strong for her

so

why do you want to take this statement apart?

lets say she is telling the truth
if she is unavailable then logistically you are shooting yourself in the foot, you run the chance of ruining a relationship for two people, getting into a pointless fight with some random jealous guy and dealing with more objections then you have to from a girl who feels guilty

lets say she is not interested in you
you are now wasting your time, trying to fight a battle you can't win that at most will turn into a flaky phone number to get rid of you, or a flat out angry rejection, or if you are extreme possibly a harassment charge

lets say she is just uncomfortable
if you just pay attention to her in the first place this should be easily solvable just by being congruent and honest with where you are going with this, that doesn't mean be some sort of psychopath that has no empathy and just bombard her with over the top sexual statements and soi's, just understand where she is coming from and don't lie to her about what you are on about, if she isn't down with the same thing then there are other girls but letting a girl know you are not crazy or mentally ill or super desperate or any other means of some sort of social burden on her can help put her at ease

you have to be able to bring some value for her to actually want to speak with you or see you again, you shouldn't leave having her think... well thank god I got rid of that guy with my number, thought he would never leave, you want to leave with her thinking... WOW that was so amazing, what a guy

the benefits for her should always outweigh the risks

if you are ok with bad logistics because you have a fetish for cheating, then it is the same concept, you have to pay attention to how she is feeling and bring value for her, if you want her to cheat, then make it easier for her and take the responsibility off her hands, be honest about liking her regardless of her being with a guy, be ok with her cheating, be willing to keep it discrete, don't be trying to own/control her to turn her into your girlfriend or be super in love with her, be willing to help her get away with it and be ok with the fact that not every girl is willing to just drop a relationship at the drop of a hat for some stranger, some of these girls just plain and simple, actually have a boyfriend and do not want to sleep with some other guy
Author:  DdOS [ Thu Jul 11, 2013 7:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
I did not mean girls who have boyfriends, i meant those who lie they got one. I meant something along the lines of "insert a question here" and then 2-3 random questions here then "insert the question that is in very close opposition to your first question" and when she answers it you say" but i thought you said ****" and as she tries to spin some insane story to connect this two you say"you do not have a boyfriend do you" and she has to either admit or bury herself further. The part i still have trouble with is making up a set of questions that would go against each other without it being obvious.
Author:  skills360 [ Fri Jul 12, 2013 3:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
I don't understand your last entry in the post, if a girl brings up the bf very early in the interaction she is not interested... If she says her female friend is her lesbian lover for example she is just not interested... There is nothing you can say or do, even if she is lying i have a bf is the polite way to say fuck off...

Now i have been with tons of women married and with bf, they do bring it up once they have been invested in the interaction and there is vibe, chemistry and escalation.... So if the timing is after a while of she being with you, sometimes is that she is into you, then is a different strategy, which is to be cool, say awesome, ignore and cont. escalation or whatever. But usually when they bring it up in those instances they talk about how they are not happy because________ which is nothing more than a way to rationalize their being with you.


So in your case they are just not interested, next.
Author:  kiwilad26 [ Fri Jul 12, 2013 6:24 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Taking apart "i have a boyfriend" excuse
Ive had that quite a few times, its as soon as you properly introduce yourself ( shake their hand long pause and hold while leaning in close to hear their name then asking them again " sorry what was it " even if I have heard them) its abit of fun and if its a different name you havnt heard before you could say " so how do you pronounce that?" Or " are you latin ?".
They then bring up the " yeah ive got a boyfriend sorry just to let you know " now at this point ive taught myself not to drop the vibe of the conversation or my expressions, I just carry on as if I don't care.
I might say " ohh right hes a lucky man how long have you been together ".
And its those questions as poster 1 says are the ones that catch them off guard because normally a guy would have reacted by now and slowly slinked off across the room or back to the dance floor.
Girls love testing and seeing your reactions and they also don't want to come across as being easy out there on the market, they want some form of hard work but be respected at the same time.
The few times ive had that happen ive had one girl who actually didn't have a partner and the other did because she had photographic evidence on her phone screensaver and answered really quickly or confidently.
Another thing you can look for are the reactions or IOI's, something I did with a situation where she was sitting next to me with her 2 other hot mates on her right so when I leaned in to chat to them I put my hand gently on her leg, its so subtle but you can get away with it if she flinches.
If she doesn't she likes it and its giving her a small course of sexual tension rushing through her body, and I am pleased to say I hooked up with her that night and I am still in contact with her too.
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