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Author:  Colosus [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 2:03 pm ]
Post subject:  General Problem about Girls always wanting something serious
Dear all,

i am going to describe the general situation concisely as possible. Please don't interpret the following as bragging, like you guys i have faced a lot of challenges in this journey that we all share to increasing our success with women and becoming better Men. I'm 27, I was blessed with good genetics and come from a wealthy family. I have a very good degree, have lived in several countries, have done many exiting and interesting things in my life. I have a managing position at my own company. I am leading an exiting Startup. In general i have a lot going for me.

I live in a Midsize city and generally socialize within a relatively small social group. My first impression on Women is generally good (superficially speaking). I've had a couple of GFs from several countries.
The challenge i am facing right now is that i want to expand my social network, meet many attractive women and really choosing from a large group the one that i like the most. When i start dating and there is chemistry with a girl, we end up having sex and its fun for 1-2 weeks. Then i always find that the girls have the expectation that we are going to be a couple, Boyfriend-Girlfriend.
The problem is that our social circle is so small that after some time, a lot of people know who i hooked up with. This is generally not good because the girls that i want to date do not want to look like bitches. And i myself do not want to be stigmatized.
One solution would be to trave more to other cities for the weekends (which i do ones a month) but thats not very practical.

For all the privileges in life that i enjoy which help my success with women i am extremely greatful. However, i feel limited in my seduction practice by this situation and limited in regards to achieving my ultimate goal to find my personal HB10.

I would immensly thank our experienced PUAs for some advice on this!!!!

Regards from Colombia,

-Colosus
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 3:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
What kind of advice are you looking for.......?
Author:  Colosus [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 3:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
Hello, thanks for the reply.
I need advice on how to make it clear from an early point when i start dating that i am not looking for a long term relationship while at the same time not driving them away with this. When i have tried this in the past girls think im a player and they start distrusting me. They also don't want to be seen as "easy" and are afraid to loose their reputation. And if i lead them on for a couple of weeks or months, then they get hurt when i tell them that i am not looking for anything serious. I have done this in the past and i really really dont want to hurt them.

Thanks again!
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 4:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
Quote:
Hello, thanks for the reply.
I need advice on how to make it clear from an early point when i start dating that i am not looking for a long term relationship while at the same time not driving them away with this. When i have tried this in the past girls think im a player and they start distrusting me. They also don't want to be seen as "easy" and are afraid to loose their reputation. And if i lead them on for a couple of weeks or months, then they get hurt when i tell them that i am not looking for anything serious. I have done this in the past and i really really dont want to hurt them.

Thanks again!
I honestly don't even know how many girls I've told "You're my girlfriend now..."

Thing is, they know they aren't the only one. :)

Girls like a guy who is a player... They say they don't. But they like the challenge of trying to lock you down. I've always been a guy who isn't a "one night stand" type person but I will admit I have had them. Most times when a girl sleeps with me, there is some type of relationship that follows it. It may not be a long relationship or even one that is really worth mentioning... But none the less, still a relationship. They always know that they are competing with 2 or 3 other girls to get that #1 spot. I never let them go hard... I always "soft next" and now I have an arsenal of women built up. That's how its done lol
Author:  Colosus [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 5:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
Awesome! Many thanks, i really need to work on my mindset.
See, i should know that i am worth a lot and that it is only natural for women to compete for me! I guess i need to unleash the player within me without fear of rejection HAHA :-). A lot of times i get that "You must hookup with a lot of girls..." speech at some point, usually messing up the Closing (taking phone#, setting up a date, taking them home etc). I have to work hard on making women feel less mistrust. Thats why direct approaches are not so good for me usually. I have to be more situational.
The "soft next" part i am going to have to be creative about to approach the subject more strategically, without hurting them, without lying. It must be possible!!
Author:  Amadieus [ Tue Jun 04, 2013 7:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
You can let them casually know you are not looking for something serious and just to have a fun time with fun people. ;)
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Wed Jun 05, 2013 8:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
You need to be sincere that you just want to fuck. There's no need to verbalize this. You can express it non-verbally.

One technique is scarcity. You don't hook up with a girl everyday or once a week. Hook up once every two weeks or once a month if you haven't fucked her yet. Just make sure that you give her the best possible fun that she can have when she's with you. This basically means that you shouldn't be reactive to any drama from her or from your environment.

When you've already fucked her, keep the fuck marathons and hangouts to once a week only. Do NOT bring her to movies or fancy restaurants.

Remember: You just want to fuck her. You shouldn't treat her like a girlfriend. Be sincere. Do not hold her hand or claw your arm around her shoulder when you two are hanging out. Do not mix up your libido with cheesy actions that you see in movies.

When you two are together, keep the topics to sex only. Do not talk about goals, your job, your problems, your family, or your friends.

Another technique is implication. When she's hanging out in your place, make sure that you have some supplies of girlie things like pink toothbrushes, some disposable panties, face powder, girlie lotions, make up and so on. After fucking a girl for the first time, take out your supplies and offer it to her.

If she asks why are you keeping those things, say "I have close friends who sleepover." Then cut. Do not explain anything or elaborate furthermore. If she tries to sleepover again, it's on. She'll know.

There are more tricks in the bag but I'll give the stage to other PUAs who specialize in multiple long term sexual relationships.

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Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 11:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
Quote:
The problem is that our social circle is so small that after some time, a lot of people know who i hooked up with. This is generally not good because the girls that i want to date do not want to look like bitches. And i myself do not want to be stigmatized.
One solution would be to trave more to other cities for the weekends (which i do ones a month) but thats not very practical.
This thread shouldn't really be in the PUA Lounge but rather in the Sticking Points section.

At any rate, try a Geographic Sarging Strategy. For example, your city will have several banks. Instead of letting your accountant handle all of your weekly banking chores, handle some of the check and cash deposits yourself. Breakdown your cash into small chunks. Say, one chunk is for leases, another chunk is for electricity, another chunk is for petty cash, another chunk is for marketing expenses, and so on.

Next, open several accounts in 3 or 5 banks. Sarge for around 30 minutes per bank. Start building propinquity with the tellers and bank managers so you can easily f-close the women depositors once they see that the beautiful tellers are comfortable around you.

Rotate your sarges as time will allow. Never stay too long in one bank for more than 3 weeks straight. You'll need to build propinquity (to expand your social circle) as well as establish scarcity (to build the frame for multiple long term sexual relationships.)

You can also do the same with sports clubs (buy shares in multiple sports clubs), hospitals for those general check ups (you can sarge nurses and doctors as long as you have a good reason to go to the hospital or clinics at least once or twice a month) and hair salons.

Manage your sarging time well and more efficiently and you'll be laying a lot of high quality girls once you get into the groove of things.

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Author:  Colosus [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 11:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: General Problem about Girls always wanting something ser
Salve!

That is definitely some enriching insight!, I do tend to send mixed signals by being cheesy when i actually want something casual.
I also appreciate your ideas on having a more methodic approach, specially regarding Sarging-Time-Management...

Going to practice some more ;-) , this weekend its on!

Again, awesome help!
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