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Author:  Strangerj2013 [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 12:48 am ]
Post subject:  I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

I have a job and I am a musician, but I don't really live in a huge town so not too many cabs and if they are they charge $2 for 0.1 miles its ridiculous . How can I over come not getting my car until September and living with the folks? I'm 23
I have to get a ride from a friend when I go to the city, so it sucks being dependent on the mood of my pals.

Author:  Prophet'sOracle [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 9:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

Hang tight until you get a car. Until then you'll have to game in stores and malls. It's not optimum, but it beats doing nothing. I was in the same situation for years. Once you get the car though, logistics improve tremendously. Like literally over night. Once you find a few good spots to game and have a vehicle to go to them, it makes gaming at least once a week a real possibility.

Author:  ronniek [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 11:23 am ]
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Move out and get a car as soon as possible, trying to bring girls home with your parents can be tough (especially if they are nosy).

Not being held back by logistics is very liberating.

Author:  Strangerj2013 [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 6:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

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Hang tight until you get a car. Until then you'll have to game in stores and malls. It's not optimum, but it beats doing nothing. I was in the same situation for years. Once you get the car though, logistics improve tremendously. Like literally over night. Once you find a few good spots to game and have a vehicle to go to them, it makes gaming at least once a week a real possibility.
Yea just trying to keep the momentum going. Thanks for the comments fellas.

Author:  Playboi_ [ Wed Jul 17, 2013 1:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

The car issue is a little tougher, I hope you have a buddy who is just as into picking up woman. That being said, I am still currently with parents as well and have no issue bringing woman to my home. My father lives close to a bustling little town and he is very "encouraging." If you want it, you can do it.

Author:  Bond-007 [ Wed Jul 17, 2013 3:18 pm ]
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I`m in the exact same situation and even worse: because it`s gonna take years for me to get the car. I live with my mom and sister, both give me shit about bringing women to my place; so imagine how hard logistics are for me.

Still you can find a way to get laid, for a simple reason: when you are determined to do something it doesn`t really matter how hard it is or how many problems you have to solve; you just do so in order to get what you want.

Author:  In$tinct [ Wed Jul 17, 2013 3:57 pm ]
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I used to live in a smaller town too without a car so I know this problem. I solved it by going mainly to nearby clubs and hitting on women who were not wearing inconvenient shoes(very high heels). That way they wouldn't mind a 10 min walk... Of course this reduced my opportunities but it's better than nothing, and in dance clubs many women don't wear heels because it gets uncomfortable after a while.

Author:  Pickwick [ Wed Jul 17, 2013 4:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

Take a bus
Bike
Walk

Hit on girls close to you.
You don't need to take the girl home to seduce her.

Stop making excuse for why you shouldn't do something.

Author:  TheFury [ Wed Jul 17, 2013 5:22 pm ]
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online dating; get her to pick you up etc...

Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Wed Jul 17, 2013 7:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

Get the fuck out of your parents house. Whether you can afford it or not... Fucking do it. Screw yourself over by forcing yourself into an uncomfortable situation. (i.e. not knowing what is going to happen next) You will find a way to survive and become more. The most successful people stay successful because they know what it is like to be at the bottom. This is what is attractive to women...

You might like this article... Check it out

http://themajikalmethod.com/rock-star-lifestyle/

Author:  Prophet'sOracle [ Thu Jul 18, 2013 4:23 pm ]
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The people who are saying find a way to do it at home are correct. You don't have to have sex at home. There are so many ways to have sex when you live at home with you're folks. This really shouldn't be much of a problem. You have the option of hotels, having sex in public, or coordinating when no one will be home. There's also the options of going back to her place. Point being, there are tons of ways to have sex that don't involve going home or having heated discussions with you're folks.

As for the people who say "leave now", I would be leery about listening to them. These individuals are probably the impulsive types who are financially struggling. Not every successful person has had to struggle in their life. In fact most marginally successful people have had a lot of support and guidance from their parents and loved ones. This support is a gift, not a crutch. Always know when you have an advantage. It's so important to make good decisions and put yourself in a good position. Right now, if you're living with your folks, the primary goal is to get you're life and finances together. Take your ass back to school and get a degree. Stack up some money to get a car. Pay off your debts, and stack some money up for a condo. No reason to be impulsive and live a bad life. Pussy is not that important. Learn how to prioritize. You may not be able to talk to women right now because life takes precedent, and that's ok. I know it's tough to resist four million years of evolution, but it may be in your best interest right now. If you do this, by the time you hit 25 or 26 you'll be in an awesome position to get tons of women.

Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jul 18, 2013 4:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

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The people who are saying find a way to do it at home are correct. You don't have to have sex at home. There are so many ways to have sex when you live at home with you're folks. This really shouldn't be much of a problem. You have the option of hotels, having sex in public, or coordinating when no one will be home. There's also the options of going back to her place. Point being, there are tons of ways to have sex that don't involve going home or having heated discussions with you're folks.

As for the people who say "leave now", I would be leery about listening to them. These individuals are probably the impulsive types who are financially struggling. Not every successful person has had to struggle in their life. In fact most marginally successful people have had a lot of support and guidance from their parents and loved ones. This support is a gift, not a crutch. Always know when you have an advantage. It's so important to make good decisions and put yourself in a good position. Right now, if you're living with your folks, the primary goal is to get you're life and finances together. Take your ass back to school and get a degree. Stack up some money to get a car. Pay off your debts, and stack some money up for a condo. No reason to be impulsive and live a bad life. Pussy is not that important. Learn how to prioritize. You may not be able to talk to women right now because life takes precedent, and that's ok. I know it's tough to resist four million years of evolution, but it may be in your best interest right now. If you do this, by the time you hit 25 or 26 you'll be in an awesome position to get tons of women.

Girls don't like "average" or "marginally successful." Strive to be something more than that...

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Author:  Prophet'sOracle [ Thu Jul 18, 2013 5:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

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The people who are saying find a way to do it at home are correct. You don't have to have sex at home. There are so many ways to have sex when you live at home with you're folks. This really shouldn't be much of a problem. You have the option of hotels, having sex in public, or coordinating when no one will be home. There's also the options of going back to her place. Point being, there are tons of ways to have sex that don't involve going home or having heated discussions with you're folks.

As for the people who say "leave now", I would be leery about listening to them. These individuals are probably the impulsive types who are financially struggling. Not every successful person has had to struggle in their life. In fact most marginally successful people have had a lot of support and guidance from their parents and loved ones. This support is a gift, not a crutch. Always know when you have an advantage. It's so important to make good decisions and put yourself in a good position. Right now, if you're living with your folks, the primary goal is to get you're life and finances together. Take your ass back to school and get a degree. Stack up some money to get a car. Pay off your debts, and stack some money up for a condo. No reason to be impulsive and live a bad life. Pussy is not that important. Learn how to prioritize. You may not be able to talk to women right now because life takes precedent, and that's ok. I know it's tough to resist four million years of evolution, but it may be in your best interest right now. If you do this, by the time you hit 25 or 26 you'll be in an awesome position to get tons of women.

Girls don't like "average" or "marginally successful." Strive to be something more than that...

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Who gives a hoot about what they think? This is a terrible mindset. In America there is a problem with credentialism and over working, but it's a tough reality that in maybe 2 decades or less most well paying jobs will require at least a bachelors degree. In fact, there is little prohibiting this fact. "Marginally successful" as defined by the United States Department of Labor and Statistics is an individual who makes roughly 65'000- 150,000 USD. Which in retrospect isn't bad pay. The happiest people in the US make about 80,000 USD a year, and the happiest people in the UK make about 50,000 pounds. More money means more problems. It may not be a terrible awesome and exciting life, but it's practical.

The goal is to eliminate financial worries and concerns so that he has enough money to do the things that he loves. Like going out and talking to women, traveling, or helping his local community. A man who talks loud shit but has little to show for it is actually the least attractive man. Your quippy picture is actually a recipe for brokenness and disaster.

Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jul 18, 2013 6:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

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The people who are saying find a way to do it at home are correct. You don't have to have sex at home. There are so many ways to have sex when you live at home with you're folks. This really shouldn't be much of a problem. You have the option of hotels, having sex in public, or coordinating when no one will be home. There's also the options of going back to her place. Point being, there are tons of ways to have sex that don't involve going home or having heated discussions with you're folks.

As for the people who say "leave now", I would be leery about listening to them. These individuals are probably the impulsive types who are financially struggling. Not every successful person has had to struggle in their life. In fact most marginally successful people have had a lot of support and guidance from their parents and loved ones. This support is a gift, not a crutch. Always know when you have an advantage. It's so important to make good decisions and put yourself in a good position. Right now, if you're living with your folks, the primary goal is to get you're life and finances together. Take your ass back to school and get a degree. Stack up some money to get a car. Pay off your debts, and stack some money up for a condo. No reason to be impulsive and live a bad life. Pussy is not that important. Learn how to prioritize. You may not be able to talk to women right now because life takes precedent, and that's ok. I know it's tough to resist four million years of evolution, but it may be in your best interest right now. If you do this, by the time you hit 25 or 26 you'll be in an awesome position to get tons of women.

Girls don't like "average" or "marginally successful." Strive to be something more than that...

Image
Who gives a hoot about what they think? This is a terrible mindset. In America there is a problem with credentialism and over working, but it's a tough reality that in maybe 2 decades or less most well paying jobs will require at least a bachelors degree. In fact, there is little prohibiting this fact. "Marginally successful" as defined by the United States Department of Labor and Statistics is an individual who makes roughly 65'000- 150,000 USD. Which in retrospect isn't bad pay. The happiest people in the US make about 80,000 USD a year, and the happiest people in the UK make about 50,000 pounds. More money means more problems. It may not be a terrible awesome and exciting life, but it's practical.

The goal is to eliminate financial worries and concerns so that he has enough money to do the things that he loves. Like going out and talking to women, traveling, or helping his local community. A man who talks loud shit but has little to show for it is actually the least attractive man. Your quippy picture is actually a recipe for brokenness and disaster.
Your problem is you are attaching a dollar sign to success. Being a "successful person" is more doing what you love with your entire life. Not just working to make "average money" and doing things that the "average guy" does. You live in a world and were born into a society where you were made to stand out... do it. Don't blend in. Fuck comfort and security. Throw yourself into the fire. It will add depth to your life and character to your personality. It will help you become a stronger person. Fuck being practical. Being practical is BORING. Eventually, we will all die. Do some cool shit with your time here. Truly LIVE your life. Do things where you will be able to look back at when you are 75-80 years old and say "Fuck yeah! I did that! That was some crazy shit!"

What's really cool about learning pick up is this... As you become more and more successful with women and you look back at how you were scared and timid before, you will realize that you accomplished one of the hardest things for a man to do... Talk to and relate with women. You did it without any natural talent. (or so you think) You did it by really putting your fears of damaged emotions and failure aside and said "fuck it! I'm gonna do it!" Did you know that most guys biggest fear is talking to a girl who is a complete stranger? I had a student who I worked with that fought in Iraq for 3 years AND COULDN'T EVEN APPROACH A 120 POUND GIRL!!! Talk about fear, right?

So here is what happens... A little bit about male psychology... When you start to meet better quality women and you get chewed up, eaten, shat out, and spit on by them... You start to wonder "Why?" and "What do I have to do to have these higher quality women in my life?" and the same way you learned pick up... You say "FUCK IT! I'M GONNA DO IT!!" because you have already overcome your huge fear of talking to women you stop fearing other things... You break out of your comfort zone and start doing things that you never would have done before because you aren't afraid of SHIT any more. You naturally become a better man. More of a risk taker. More of a leader and warrior vs a order taker and a follower. A guy FINDS HIS OWN PATH instead to taking the life path that society wants him to take. There's a saying out there that goes something like this.... "In order to live a life that most people don't, you have to do things that most people won't."

.... I don't even know how many girls have told me how attracted to me they are simply because of the fact that I am completely fearless with everything I do in life. I wasn't like that before... However, I also thought I would never be able to be good with women... Once I realized that I could do that, I realized that as long as I worked hard and kept my mind to it, I could accomplish anything.

You don't know my story but I threw myself out onto the streets of Chicago because I had a dream of truly accomplishing something. I launched my company out of a Starbucks using their wifi. I would sneak into foreclosed homes to do seminars. I would pull girls simply for the fact that I wanted somewhere warm to sleep that wasn't on the street or on the train and to maybe get a free meal. I put myself through the fire just because I really wanted to accomplish something.

And personally, I don't know about anyone else... But I would much rather die trying to accomplish something and be more than "average" vs. die as a person who lived an "average" life and really accomplished NOTHING. My goal in saying that is to simply motivate you and anyone else to really do the same thing. I am noone special. I don't have an MBA or a PHD in business. Fuck, I didn't even go to school. I've had to support myself since the age of 16. I didn't have time for school because I had to work. I'm just a guy who realized that I have some big fuckin testicles and I am going to sack the fuck up and do something with my life that I want. Regardless of the outcome. Find a way or make one.

Now, once you overcome the fear of interacting with women because you really put in the hard work and you start to realize that you can do ANYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO with hard work... You start to get better and better women. You do more things that will get you even better quality women... And you put yourself into this vicious upward spiral of complete self improvement.

Success= Ambition and Passion

Author:  Prophet'sOracle [ Fri Jul 19, 2013 9:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I don't have a car and I live with my parents.

As suspected you've completely missed the point. Your job as a person and your life with women are completely separate. You can still be a good person, and a well rounded person with a job. A job or career is just something you do to pay bills. It isn't who you are. You do your job and move the fuck on. You go out and live a normal life. It's not much more complicated than that.

At any rate, to the OP. Get your life together. Get yourself together financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically, and I guarantee in 5 or 6 years you'll have your fair share of women. Take this time to get yourself together. Women can seriously wait.

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