I've ignored the majority of your posts recently, paramount, but I can't help but break this one down, I'll try and keep it civil 
Quote: I have read that college is the easiest time in life for a man to get laid (UH NOT TRUE IMO, maybe because I am a college transfer).
How can you say it's not the easiest time in life for a man to get laid when you haven't experienced life after college? If you're struggling now, it's not suddenly going to get better (or necessarily worse) when you leave college, or at any particular time in your life. It will only get better or worse if you make it better or worse. Thinking that things will or might change in the future almost randomly is an excuse not to do anything about it now. Hard cold truth here, nothing falls into your lap easily, you have to make it happen.
Quote: Then again I have also read that college is heavily dependent on social circle game and cold approaches do not function as well. Problem is, I am so big on cold approaches and approaching random strangers (who are women).
It can be about social game, but at the same time it is so easy to meet random college girls in bars and clubs that it doesn't need to be. Yeah, if you're living in student accommodation and you're in with the party crowd, then you're going to find it easier to attract chicks. I never was in with the party crowd so much. Truth be told, I found most of them to be douchebags. I had a fairly small group just within my block of about 15/20 people, plus a few extras off my course. But in clubs I just used basically normal club game. Just chat and dance with random girls. Luckily, with most university/college club nights being student-only club nights, it just makes club game easier. Firstly, you've got a hook to start a conversation if you're chatting in the smoking area or whatever (although asking what course she does etc. needs to be moved on from quickly, but it's a decent "ice breaker") and also because college girls tend to be freer than girls after college. It's probably the first time they're out away from their parents drinking, and they haven't got any responsibilities or family that they may have after college.
Quote: There are so many good looking girls at the current university I have transferred to but I have pretty much accepted that I am not going to score with them since I am not involved with Greek Life (too late to be) and since I am a transfer.
Like I said above, this is just an excuse. If you really want to get into "Greek Life" (I've got no idea what this is by the way), then do it. How long will it take? 1) A couple of random conversations with people who can get you in, become their acquaintances - takes say 10 minutes per conversation. 2) Get invited to a party or something - may require a little bit of ground work, probably not, but let's say a couple of days of being active on social media with your new acquaintances or meeting them for drinks etc. 3) You're in with the crowd and can continue to build from there. So it will take a few days, maybe a couple of weeks, to get in with a new crowd. You're just making excuses to cover the fact that you are a bit worried about putting yourself out there. Grab your balls in one hand and just get on with it. As I said above, things don't just fall into your lap. The only reason you're not in with "Greek Life" already is that you didn't have the balls to get yourself involved in it in the first place. Now you're making the same excuses to stop you from getting involved in it now.
Quote: I have three or four more semesters left of college and honestly I cannot wait until I am out of here. Another issue (hate to bring race into it) for me is that I am a Brown guy at an SEC school and most good looking girls I run into are White.
I've said all I have to about race to you in the past so I won't dwell on this. I will leave it just by re-iterating what I've said above. Excuses. Things don't just happen. You have to make the improvements.
Quote: Anyways after college I plan on going to a major city, what is going to make it harder? I just don't get why people say college is the easiest time for a man to get laid.
In practice, there doesn't have to be any difference. The only thing is that at college you've got a huge selection of decent-to-hot girls, all away from their families for the first time (so being a bit wild), all perhaps feeling a bit peer pressured into being wild, and there are plenty of club nights, social activities etc to meet all these girls at, all at the tip of your fingers. When you go out into the real world, people go out less, it's harder to meet people, there are less girls easily accessible to you, more girls start to have work responsibilities that stop them from being as social/wild as they are at college, they get older and start to have boyfriends, families etc. which means there are less single girls around. Etc. etc.
All of these things can be easily got around; but there isn't such an easy abundance in the real world as there is in cities etc. But that doesn't mean it needs to be hard in a city; it can still be extremely easy - there are still plenty of hot girls out there.
But like I said, don't even focus on after college. Three or four semesters? That's what, a year or so still to go?! Transfer student or not, just stop making excuses and get on with it. That's the only way you're going to succeed. I'm trying not to be harsh here, I don't want this to turn into another thread just slagging you off, but really you need to face reality. You're constantly making excuses to cover up for your own insecurities. Let's not even go down the race route (even though that is the most prominent example); let's look at this semester/greek life thing. Why is it too late to get involved in it? Plenty of time, you're just afraid of making the contacts you would need to make to get into it. And if for some reason you can't, then make a social group some other way, you can still have a party lifestyle without being in a particular social circle, just get into another one. But again, you're too afraid to do that and so are making up excuses to justify your lack of action.
Lack of action and excuses will get you nowhere. Just man up and get it done!
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