PUA Forum
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/

How PUAs Get into a Relationship and Fuck up Their Life...
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=25&t=15896		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  JamesDS [ Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:11 am ]
Post subject:  How PUAs Get into a Relationship and Fuck up Their Life...
Post redacted by request --870
Author:  xfman [ Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:28 am ]
Post subject: 
Great Post... :D


But I will like to add my opinion; I have seen the same reaction in average guys. When they are in a relationship, they start loosing contact even with their friends.

And this happens because they are going into the girl circle (this is good, to expand your social circle) but this guys just go out to the places she want, they go out only with her friends, etc... letting the guy's social circle die...

I have met people that after they broke up with a LTR they don't even had friends because they stop going out together when he had a GF etc...
Author:  SexDrive [ Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:49 am ]
Post subject: 
I can say that unfortunatly this happened to me. Stopped chilling with my buddies cuz I was with my girl alot, and wen i wasnt i just needed time for myself and neglected my friends. They pulled sorta an intervention on me but it was too late, they dont wanna room with me next year (well hey do now, but its a bit late).

So my girl ended up breaking up with me and I was crushed. But Im soooo glad it happened. It made me realize that life needs to be balanced. you can have a g/f but and have friends and a life of your own. And i figured out that if she isnt cool with it, then she isnt for me. I also look at gamin as much more than seducing women. Im a businessman, or student SPAM. But I do alot networking and basically sarging for contacts that my help me when I graduate. The applications for the game can go along with any social situation.

Obviously Im not going to seduce someone who is inerviewing me (maybe if its a she) but ive learned just better social interaction skills that make dealing with people alot easier.

Ive made huge steps in the past month with the game and with my life. And I know the next time I enter a LTR I wont be putting her as number 1 priority all the time. Balance is key, you will be happy if you are balanced.

And as far as still building up a social circle while in a relationship, if I had done that, I probably wouldnt have felt so alone when it ended.
Author:  JamesDS [ Thu Jan 31, 2008 6:00 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
I can say that unfortunatly this happened to me. Stopped chilling with my buddies cuz I was with my girl alot, and wen i wasnt i just needed time for myself and neglected my friends. They pulled sorta an intervention on me but it was too late, they dont wanna room with me next year (well hey do now, but its a bit late).
Yeah the only reason I decided to write this was be most of it happened to me first hand...a few time too for that matter.
Author:  Jay Wa [ Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:45 pm ]
Post subject: 
First, I want to say great job to the OP for making this thread.

I have been studying this subject for a number of years. In fact, I am in the process of writing a book about it (see the link below). It is the reason why I joined this PUA forum in the first place.
Quote:
There are a few hotdogs...but who still eats hot dogs anyways?
Sometimes, it's good to go back and reminisce on the old times. Kind of like seeing an ex-girlfriend after a long while :)
Quote:
Also I have been looking over my notes, and journal entries from when I have been dating different girls, over the past few years.
This is a very good idea if you're interested in basic relationship psychology. Nothing beats first-hand experience, and upon reflection, it's amazing to see how you felt during those times.
Quote:
When a PUA gets into a relationship he may create bad habits, and begin to revert back into his old belief set. This can hurt attraction, and build a dependent relationship.
This usually occurs because he doesn't know how to handle a "serious relationship".
Quote:
It is like saying my goal is to be married by the time I am 24. It just doesn't make sense.
Women have a tendency to do this more so than men. That is why they tend to "settle" after a while. They eventualy realize how unhappy they are and eventually get a divorce (that's what we do in America at least).
Quote:
When a Natural gets into a relationship it is fuel for his good habits, and belief set. A relationship is a means for them to improve their life.
Could not have said it any better!
Quote:
Do you know people that this has happened to?
People who fall into this category do not view Pick-Up as a networking skill, but rather a means to find a relationship, or find sex (once they reach their objective, they lose sight of everything else.)
Quote:
The girls options are expanding while yours are becoming limited.
I see how you can make an argument for this, but it is not necessarily true. Women who "hang out with the guys" also have a tendency to view them as off-limits, even if her own relationship falls apart. Most guys respect their friends enough to back off as well. Having morals and boundaries really sucks sometimes!
Quote:
Most PUAs probably had more options before they got into the relationship. This is a wrong, natural guys have more options when they are in the relationship.
I don't really see the coherence in this. I think you're meaning to say that Natural guys who are in a relationship have more options than PUAs who are single. . .And I could definitely agree with you.

As for the following poster:
Quote:
Balance is key, you will be happy if you are balanced.
I think this is the foundation of all successful relationships. Those who can balance their 'work, social, girlfriend, etc.' life are usually the most satisfied in a relationship.

This is a great thread! Feel free to PM me if either of you want to talk about this some more.

All the best,

Jay Wa
Author:  JamesDS [ Tue Feb 05, 2008 9:21 am ]
Post subject: 
Shit thanks for the feedback...
Quote:
The girls options are expanding while yours are becoming limited.

I see how you can make an argument for this, but it is not necessarily true. Women who "hang out with the guys" also have a tendency to view them as off-limits, even if her own relationship falls apart. Most guys respect their friends enough to back off as well. Having morals and boundaries really sucks sometimes!
I think the "friendzone" isn't as black and white as some people think it is. From my own experience there has been girls with boyfriends, that I have been "friends" with for years....and then ended up hooking up with. I think another example of this is in high school, it happens all the time. But overall I think it depends mostly on the girl.

Quote:
Quote:
Most PUAs probably had more options before they got into the relationship. This is a wrong, natural guys have more options when they are in the relationship.


I don't really see the coherence in this. I think you're meaning to say that Natural guys who are in a relationship have more options than PUAs who are single. . .And I could definitely agree with you.
Yeah that is what I was getting at, maybe I just miscommunicated it.

Thanks again for the input!
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/