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| Author: | Anivia [ Wed Jan 02, 2013 9:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I'm too hard to get? |
What does this mean? I get this a lot from women that are attracted to me. Am I not qualifying and showing enough interest or..? |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Wed Jan 02, 2013 11:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm too hard to get? |
means you don't share. Not enough vulnerability. You are making them chase too much. |
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| Author: | CodeVeroby [ Fri Jan 04, 2013 5:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm too hard to get? |
Try opening up to women a bit more |
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| Author: | enesta [ Sun Jan 06, 2013 5:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm too hard to get? |
I get the same thing, it's a tough one. I'll open up more, then they pull away. There's a healthy balance somewhere in there that I struggle to find sometimes. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jan 06, 2013 10:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm too hard to get? |
Quote: I get the same thing, it's a tough one. I'll open up more, then they pull away. There's a healthy balance somewhere in there that I struggle to find sometimes.
There is. It comes with experience and you will know when the time comes to open and when there are times to be quiet. Just have to be in more relationships to find out really. |
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| Author: | steviepua [ Mon Jan 07, 2013 6:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm too hard to get? |
You need to calibrate more accurately. You are coming across as too remote or perhaps too cocky. Are you running a lot of attraction game with busting? I've had that before. Some joking around and busting on her is fine for a while but once she is attracted, you need to move into the next phase of your game. Are you moving into qualifying her e.g. finding out why she is special/what she has to offer? And from there are you connecting and building comfort with her in a more genuine person to person way? |
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| Author: | poeticlyskuac [ Mon Jan 07, 2013 8:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm too hard to get? |
Quote: You need to calibrate more accurately. You are coming across as too remote or perhaps too cocky. Are you running a lot of attraction game with busting? I've had that before. Some joking around and busting on her is fine for a while but once she is attracted, you need to move into the next phase of your game.
This^^^^Are you moving into qualifying her e.g. finding out why she is special/what she has to offer? And from there are you connecting and building comfort with her in a more genuine person to person way? With the courtship process I've written an article on the three keys to getting laid (<<<here is the article) and included in it is three phases, Attraction, Connection, and Sexual Tension. You can get good at any one of these and get laid, but really you'll just be getting lucky, if you gain talent at being attractive, connecting/building rapport, and building/allowing sexual tension you will be able to close with consistency. That said becoming a properly responsive man (<<<<here is an article I wrote on the responsive man) is very key. Reading her body language and responding to her and what she needs accordingly. Too many people focus on just doing things, but the reality is doing things in reaction to her is really what is necessary to closing women, not just being attractive or building a connection. Respond to her and the energy that is happening is the key to having a high close rate. Sexual Tension is the most important part, you can be attractive and be a friend (have a connection), but if you build sexual tension you will always be looked at as a possible sexual mate rather than a friend. Learn to be a sexual male at all times rather than just an attractive male. It's the simplest things that push your game forward like taking a genuine interest in HER, rather than you! It takes time but you need to learn to build that connection as well if you are coming across as "untouchable" you need to be more vulnerable, open up more, show some nonthreatening body language, and take interest in her and she'll do the same. Peace and Love, Vic |
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