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Author:  MrMatt [ Wed Dec 05, 2012 2:53 am ]
Post subject:  Egoist, narcissist, mean and aggresive.
I would describe myself as someone who is fairly good looking, smart and quite successful in every aspect of my life. I have a promising future, with great friends and amazing girls around me. However, I could also describe myself as someone who is egoist, narcissist, mean (most of the time) and aggressive.

For some reason that I am not aware of, I have very little patience and it is incredibly easy for me to dislike people. It can be because of the way they carry themselves, the way they talk or look but also for simple things like talking with a group of friends in the stairs on a venue where many people pass by.

When using the metro, I walk in a direction and if I see someone comming in my direction, I will do absolutely no effort to avoid running into that person. If these people, who are always smaller, see me and don't try to avoid running into me, I don't see why I should. Natural selection. I am also rude and blunt with most people I meet, and sometimes secretly wishing to pick fights. Thanks god I train 5 times a week to get rid of some aggressiveness.. Or it would be worst.

I am also a closed-minded person. I don't like to interract with stangers and I don't if I don't have an end goal. I don't see why I should listen to people I don't care about talk about themselves If I don't have anything to gain from this situation. Of course, I cold approach girls but I have a goal in mind, I do it to fuck them or gain experience.

I don't help strangers, and if I do, I usually do it in order to get reconnaissance from other people, which still makes me an egoist.

I realize that I am a bad person, most of you would probably call me an asshole. Worse part is that I probably woulnt give a shit and tell you to fuck off.

Still, I am wondering if ready a book on inner game could be beneficial for me since I am aware that my view on the rest of the world is messed up.
Author:  puaninja [ Wed Dec 05, 2012 3:24 pm ]
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No worries bro, you're just a typical alpha. I have a lot of the same tendencies but I'm a little more conscientious of them. I try to be a self-actualized person and I have to fight my inner demons when it comes to a lot of that negative stuff.

Btw, per chance were you that fucker at the movie theatre that one time who thought he could walk right thru me like I wasn't even standing there? If so, I hate you.
Author:  .Chaos. [ Wed Dec 05, 2012 9:52 pm ]
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I would consider myself mildly narcissistic, I frequently see myself as better than other people. This is speculation but I wouldn't be surprised if the seduction community had a much higher proportion of narcissists than the general population. The techniques and lifestyle are just something that seems attractive to our personality type.

I don't see it as a bad thing either, if anything it gives us an advantage. Our natural confidence means we can deal with rejection a lot better.

Of course there are degrees of narcissism. I'm pretty self-aware and I can reign it in whenever I see it's not going to get me further to my goals. A more extreme narcissist might not be able to do this.

I don't think you need to change - just calibrate appropriately for the situation you find yourself in.
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 1:37 am ]
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Meditation, and start complimenting 5 people a day(good genuine compliments).

Meditation will teach you to control your mind and it will make you more aware.

Complimenting 5 people a day will force you to look for the good in people, so start looking for what's good about them rather than what is wrong with them. This is an exercise I never see mentioned but it helped me immensely.

I'd also recommend Tony Robbins 10 day positive thought challenge which is hard as hell but worth the results.

You can even try ego-awareness, it is a great exercise in helping you control the ego, but most of us have to do quite a bit of work before we are ready to start with ego-awareness.

We all have a little bit of that aggressiveness in us. It takes time to mature and get past it. I used to be very aggressive, I still am if you drag it out of me I'll fly off the handle and probably be the scariest guy you've ever met...we all have a little bit of sociopath in us just let your emotions own you.

It's natural to be a narcissist in a lot of perspectives it is how we are supposed to be (natural selection), but in our now communal world it is impossible to function that way in society. It takes a minute to get past it, some never do.

I had all these same issues.... I was super aggressive, one time I told this fool that had over 100 lbs on me(and I was 220 at the time) I'll fuck you up if you don't leave me alone.... LOL thank god his friends were my friends and were like leave em alone Vic's a cool cat. You start to realize at some point why does it matter? Who cares? Do I really need to be the domineering guy? I read a recent poster who wrote this "Giving out all power is true power." I think it applies to this situation very well.

The one thing I will disagree with(the above poster) is having a huge ego or being a narcissist isn't having confidence, it's representing it. You can't learn many lessons if you are never the problem, remember at some point it can't be everyone else making mistakes. You don't need to be hurt by rejection, in fact you shouldn't be, but you do need to learn from it.

Peace and Love,

Vic
Author:  MrMatt [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 4:39 am ]
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Thing is, I don't even look forward to being a nicer person. I just think that it's not normal that I will instantly discover something that pisses me off about someone, 9 times out of 10.

However, I started reading the book "How to make friends and influence people".
Author:  AFC AzA [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 5:34 am ]
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our world, our society is just fucked up I guess... thats why most of us are aggresive.
let the fire out. watch fight club. but dont mess with innocent peoples... thats just low.
I'm really calm person in every situation. but sometimes I dont know why but I really
wanna just FIGHT you know... maybe its in our blood. maybe we need violence time to time.

box, mma , football(american), rugby... look at this all violent sport we love. my advice fight with your
friend in the ring.
Author:  MrMatt [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 4:23 am ]
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our world, our society is just fucked up I guess... thats why most of us are aggresive.
let the fire out. watch fight club. but dont mess with innocent peoples... thats just low.
I'm really calm person in every situation. but sometimes I dont know why but I really
wanna just FIGHT you know... maybe its in our blood. maybe we need violence time to time.

box, mma , football(american), rugby... look at this all violent sport we love. my advice fight with your
friend in the ring.
Like I said, I already train martial arts (Brazilian Jiu jitsu and Muy thai) at least 4 times a week and this is probably the only thing that is preventing me sane.

However, I totally agrees that our society has became fucked up and maybe it is a reason why I get mad that easily against people. When I travel to Hawaii or Africa, I am totally another person. I am kind, helpful and relaxed...
Author:  GeorgePH [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 8:00 am ]
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If it works for you, do you. Everyone's different. However, being the way you are right now came back to bite me in the ass at one point in my life.

I used to be judgmental and look down on people too, which was easy for me because - like you - I realistically have a lot going for me. At some point, I realized I wasn't being strong - I was being a weak little boy.

Being an alpha male isn't just about being mean and aggressive (sorry puaninja but I'm gonna disagree with you here). Truly strong men are generous; open; warm. Do you think a real alpha male is going to be rude to other people? A real alpha has NOTHING TO PROVE, and trying to dominate people he doesn't know through RUDENESS, BEING DISMISSIVE etc is NOT ALPHA BEHAVIOR.

It sounds like you might have some inner issues or insecurities - and most likely aren't fully aware of them yet. You might read this and think "damn, this guy is an idiot," but if you made this post you probably feel like something's wrong on some level. Somewhere deep inside, a small part of you doesn't like the way you're living right now.

You can handle your problem now or you can wait for it to spiral out of control and fuck you HARD later down the line. Listen to what "poeticlyskuac" said - read up on meditation, read some Eckhart Tolle, compliment people, etc...

Trust me bro, the light side of the force is infinitely more powerful than the dark side ;)
Author:  Bond-007 [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 5:02 pm ]
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Forget about books.

What you`ve just wrote here is actually more important. For start: you are thinking! Thinking it`s the first step and the most important, couse you will end up at the last step thinking too.

So there, fuck books. Now that you have your questions and having a hard time answering; I`d refocus my mindset to something more deep, phylosophical if you want. The message I`m getting from your post is that you are asking yourself if you are trully happy.

I see a man with a goal, one of the ultimates; but for some reason a promising future and very positive things won`t do fully. Well, it`s that reason you need to find and the answer to it you need to become. I don`t wanna sound all wise and shit, but I`m also at your point.

There is a thinkg called emotional intelligence, we need that. The more I accept and meet people without an agenda, the more of the human nature I learn; therefore: the more me I get to know.

The outside world is a big place, you are not here to sit on a room and not get yourself out there, you came here to hace some really good experiences. It`s called living.

You say you don`t want to meet new people without an agenda; I`d say you already have your goal deep down, maybe you just won`t admit it yet.
Author:  GeorgePH [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 11:14 pm ]
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fuck books.

:lol:
Author:  Bond-007 [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 5:24 pm ]
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fuck books.

:lol:
Of course you can`t make this a rule. Books are great, I myself love to read. What I mean by fuck books is that don`t rely too much on them. I did it and that hindered my results.
Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 8:05 pm ]
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If you want to read a book, try the Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle. It applies to you and your situation.
Author:  GeorgePH [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 9:58 pm ]
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If you want to read a book, try the Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle. It applies to you and your situation.
This is a great first book to read. It expresses most of the main ideas in Eastern philosophy in a comprehensive way, I'll pos rep you if you tell me how to do it on these forums :).
Author:  peiper [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 2:23 am ]
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I read this and literally thought it was about me. You have just described exactly who i am.

Over the past year i have spent a lot of time learning about myself, and i have come to the conclusion that i am either a psychopath or complete narcissist. I tried being nice for about 2 weeks because my actions kinda fucked a real good bro of mine, but the only resolution i came to was to have his back at all times, but to still be a completely irresistible demon to everyone else.

No real growth from my experience though. I really enjoy being me, and until that changes, neither will I.

If you like who you are, don't fuck with it. If you want to be more "nice" then google that shit. Ghandi had a quote: "It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence."

While your focus here isn't entirely about violence, Ghandi's point still remains that one shouldn't deny who he is. If your one asshole alpha motherfucker, then leave it alone.

my 2 cents
Author:  andyredsox [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 9:01 am ]
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It would all be nonsense giving you advice if you don't want to change for good. If you're happy with your personality right now then go ahead. If people are not avoiding because of who you are then why go for a change? Everybody can't be at your standard and you can't please all of them too. Expect nothing less than what you deserve for your actions.
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