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Author:  Junglepimp [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 10:04 pm ]
Post subject:  How far should you let the woman invest in you?
Sometimes it so happens that a chick wants to go out of the way to "invest" in you.

For example, this chick wanted to come all the way from a far-off place to my hometown to meet me, which I wouldn't have done honestly.

Or, for example, a chick willing to spend a lot of money on something which you would ideally not do yourself/suggest someone else to do so.

Or even the small things like the chick wanting to keep talking to you on the phone despite not having enough credit in the phone, and stuff like that.

Basically whenever she puts herself at a substantial risk/loss to invest in you/your relationship, should you let her do it or should you be the "practical" one and ask her to not do it because there could be a better alternative or because what she's doing is just stupid?

There are certain times when I feel I might not be able to give them back what I'm making them invest.

(The question is strictly NOT in the context of a LTR).
Author:  Asif [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 10:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Easy answer
If you like the girl and want her, definitely you should let her invest in you. The more she invests and the harder she works to get your attention, the more she will be in love with you. However, if you dont like her, dont let her invest too much. And always worry about making the girl invest more, not on whether you can give back a lot.
Author:  Junglepimp [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 8:30 am ]
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Right. :)

Any other opinions?
Author:  Ezo [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 9:48 am ]
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Its really up to your own judgement. Leave her better than you left her.

If you think she is expecting too much, better make sure she doesnt get hurt.
Author:  Junglepimp [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 12:44 pm ]
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Its really up to your own judgement. Leave her better than you left her.
It is my better judgement that I'm finding hard to reach. Should I be the "ideal fatherly figure" and tell her what's right or is it okay to be selfish and let her invest till she wants to invest?
Author:  puaninja [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 1:05 pm ]
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First of all, if I want the girl, she can drive from Mozambique all the way to my house for all I care. There's nothing wrong with her being eager and willing to do whatever it takes to fuck you, since you want to do the same to her.

On the flipside, you need to be leery of ANYONE who over-extends themselves for your benefit. Because that means they want something in return or there is some underlying issue going on there that you might not be aware of. My main concern would be that the girl has attachment issues and will latch on to me if given the chance.
Author:  pumpington [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 5:55 pm ]
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really depends on preference man,

if she meets your standards, she meets your standards,

if she doesn't, she doesn't
Author:  nobelsito [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 10:04 pm ]
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She should know that you're a busy guy. Manage the clock. Give her time constraints so you can go on with your day. Tell her to save her $$$ for when she comes to see you. Have you met her yet? How old is she?
Author:  Junglepimp [ Wed Oct 17, 2012 2:14 pm ]
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The situations I had given were hypothetical.
Author:  garthy [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 3:57 am ]
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Investment is good and the amount of it varies with the need , in your case i wouldn't let her invest too much , you can easily fuck without much investment since you arent looking for an LTR , my advice is keep it to a limit.
Author:  skills360 [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 3:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How far should you let the woman invest in you?
Quote:
Sometimes it so happens that a chick wants to go out of the way to "invest" in you.

For example, this chick wanted to come all the way from a far-off place to my hometown to meet me, which I wouldn't have done honestly.

Or, for example, a chick willing to spend a lot of money on something which you would ideally not do yourself/suggest someone else to do so.

Or even the small things like the chick wanting to keep talking to you on the phone despite not having enough credit in the phone, and stuff like that.

Basically whenever she puts herself at a substantial risk/loss to invest in you/your relationship, should you let her do it or should you be the "practical" one and ask her to not do it because there could be a better alternative or because what she's doing is just stupid?

There are certain times when I feel I might not be able to give them back what I'm making them invest.

(The question is strictly NOT in the context of a LTR).

^ Investment is one of the most important parts of seduction in my opinion, you have to make the girl invest which also could be translated into compliance since you meet her. Sometimes simple things like when she ask you what is your name? and you give her a nickname, and make her work to get your real name is investment, making her write her phone in your cell or in a napking investment, make her walk to you or get you stuff investment... The more investment the stronger the seduction... Make the girl invest.... The more invested the girl the less probability of cheating or going for some other dude.... Learning how to get the girl invested is also the beginning of what i call "pimpin game" which is when you have the girl pay for your stuff, like rent, gas, food etc.... More advance subject...
Author:  xZEROx [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 12:36 am ]
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You don't need investment to lay a chick, it obviously helps and is a positive sign things are going well. Posters saying let her invest that much obviously are coming from a place where they think that would he awesome, a shit load of validation, they probably have not experienced it before.

The fact is that if you only want to fuck her a couple of times and she invests a lot, it can be uncomfortable for you, as you feel you owe her more, usually a higher level of commitment. You end up feeling guilty.

Personally, I only let them invest an equal amount or a bit above, so they don't get the wrong idea. More importantly you need to be clear about the situation eg. Is it just sex a few times and nothing more. If you are clear and she still overly invests, if you fuck her ,she may get hurt emotional

having said this, I have rarely come across this dilemma.
Author:  skills360 [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 6:40 pm ]
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Quote:
You don't need investment to lay a chick, it obviously helps and is a positive sign things are going well. Posters saying let her invest that much obviously are coming from a place where they think that would he awesome, a shit load of validation, they probably have not experienced it before.

The fact is that if you only want to fuck her a couple of times and she invests a lot, it can be uncomfortable for you, as you feel you owe her more, usually a higher level of commitment. You end up feeling guilty.

Personally, I only let them invest an equal amount or a bit above, so they don't get the wrong idea. More importantly you need to be clear about the situation eg. Is it just sex a few times and nothing more. If you are clear and she still overly invests, if you fuck her ,she may get hurt emotional

having said this, I have rarely come across this dilemma.


:roll: Investment has nothing to do with validation, or being awesome or whatever none sense you posted, it is part of the seduction process the more invested the girl is the stronger the seduction... Dude seduction 101 women like challenge, and people like the thing they have to work hard for. Not only does this apply in seduction but in biz, sports etc... It is not the same you going to the clients house and begging for biz. Than having your client set an appt. and come to you and drive an hour and bring you documents etc... Xerox how about you sit back and learn considering that according you this is happening:

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Author:  Br3ezy [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 7:40 pm ]
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Its basically like a compliance ladder over the span of the relationship
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 9:09 pm ]
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Zero,

Getting laid without investment is the equivalent of "getting lucky", it is not the equivalent of being good with women. Can it happen? Yeah right place right time happens but should you rely on it to get laid? Compliance and trust are key, this happens through investment after all you don't have compliance without investment. The simple truth is one major corner stone to seduction and courtship is her:

Investment->Trust->Compliance->Escalation->Sex

Note:We like people we do favors for more than people who do favors for us with the exception of the extremely gracious individuals.

Of course to me this is very similar to my thoughts on getting laid:

Attraction->Connection->Sexual Tension/Escalation ->Sex

-Attraction can get you laid but it still requires her to invest. Likewise you don't have to be attractive to her to nail her(RARE). Important to note that attraction is not just physical. Her attraction to you will make her invest in you.
-Connection happens through investment which also gives you Trust and Compliance.
-Sexual Tension is the key, escalating things non-verbally and verbally alike towards the topic of sex. If you build enough tension it will topple the scales toward sex more than either the attraction or connection. Investment happens because of her Arousal by you.

Using all three will get you laid the most consistency, it's important to gain each skill set when it comes to getting laid with consistency.

Investment is key to consistent seduction, without investment you are just "getting lucky".


Just my thoughts....


Peace and Love,

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