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| Author: | redzone [ Wed Jan 09, 2008 2:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | goal setting and frist principles |
In some respects, I feel like I've put the cart before the horse in some of this. I've taken a step back and tried to assess some goals and for what it's worth, here's what I've found: 1. Get your house in order (First Principles) - physical home (clean it up!) - back to good rest cycles - exercise - study / meditate on one affirmation a day - honestly inspect my "weaknesses" and work on them - build the lifestyle that women want to be part of - socialize with more women (willing to be friends in cases, increase those numbers, helps to understand them) - project happiness (and BE happy) - do more things that are interesting - be a bit more unpredictable and have fun with it - be truly different from "most guys" (as I truly am!) - make none of this "fake" in any way: it's just me 2. Have Fun - go out do more things again - try to socialize in more settings - build wider networks - sarge - practice basics / fundamentals ALL THE TIME - it's ALL PRACTICE until you're at a mastery level! (so don't worry about single interactions) - see the PLENTY of the world, reap it! 3. Do not forward-imagine ANY outcomes - not with a specific woman (more general) - don't allow self to be deluded into what may or may not be going on in others' heads - treat everything as a learning experience (regardless of outcome) - don't lose sight of the "big picture" - don't lose focus on YOURSELF first and foremost - if catch yourself imagining forward, go through affirmation list Affirmations of Successful People: Don’t waste time analyzing other people’s motives or actions. Don't over-inflate the importance of any one person or issue. Don’t try to change other people. Believe in abundance and are grateful for the many blessings they already have in their lives. Strive for integrity in all areas of their lives. See all “mistakes” as learning experiences. Are conscious of how present actions effect future outcomes. Don’t try and force it to happen, they let it happen. "Act as if" when feeling less than powerful at points in time - radiate happiness and positive life energy. Associate with like-minded people. Surround themselves with people who can help them get what they want. Ask for what they want and believe it is OK to get it. Give from the overflow. Keep it simple. Eliminate chaos and clutter. Dwell in reality. Make decisions based on reality. Act in timely ways. They do it NOW rather than later. Know that inaction tends to make things worse, not better. Finish what they start. Are “good enders.” No-one is allowed to steal their power / happiness. Learn from past experiences (and tend not to repeat the same mistakes). Consciously replace ineffective habits with effective ones. Visualize success and believe they can achieve it. Become aware of, confront and overcome self-limiting beliefs. Are not judgmental, critical or perfectionistic. Understand that the key to any successful endeavor is CONSISTENCY OVER TIME. Have a plan. Are flexible. Walk through open doors. Know that “luck” favors the prepared mind. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Even on a down day, find a way to think positively. Perceived Weak Areas: - Opening (mainly since I've not done it much but maybe I am good, I need to find out!) - Qualification - Eliciting deeper values - Kino escalation - Phone game Perceived Strength Areas: - Teasing / C&F - DHV - Body Language Learning Experiences: #1 Good - DID generate plenty of attraction / IOI early on (up till pretty much second-last interaction) - very good response from her, very good DHV's Bad - did not pull the trigger / escalate - waited far too long, over-thought it Bad - did not qualify / complement her enough to make escalation seem natural Bad - I got some one-itis (clouded my game, big lesson) Better Outcome - could have done much better A3, more kino Conclusion - will have to keep interacting with her professionally - opportunity to experiment a bit and have some fun but no expectations and that's ok #2 Good - she did answer when I called after she flaked and had a good convo (shows that persistence is sometimes ok) Good - when I busted her over flaking she seemed to genuinely respond Bad - I had a generally bad phone game with her - too boring / perdictable, I think Better Outcome - needed to "inspire" a meeting sooner (let it drag too long) Conclusion - she was a bad match, anyhow #3 Good - initial longer call was positive (she texted that she had a good time), had some DHV going on (improved phone game!) Conclusion - still in progress |
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