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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 5:38 am ] |
| Post subject: | The Power of Emotional Connections |
If I had to pick one thing that I would consider a great equalizer I would say that its a powerful emotional connection. Seriously... How do you get women hotter than you? Emotional Connection How do you get women if your extremely ugly? Emotional Connection How do you beat out other guys who have a better lifestyle than you? Emotional Connection How do you get women if your "low value?" Emotional Connection You get the point. Think of a beautiful woman. Not only beautiful but also a "high value" woman with a huge social circle, lots of money, and a crazy awesome lifestyle full of fun and adventure. Now think of you. Probably not as hot, not as rich, your social circle isn't nowhere as cool, and you hardly know what fun is. How do you get a woman like the one above? Emotional Connection. If you develop a strong emotional connection with a woman then maybe your not hot but dammit... you sure get her! She feels a stronger connection to you than she does with any of her hunky guy friends! She really feels that you get her and that you two vibe extremely well. This creates super strong emotions in a woman! Women, as most of us know, are emotional creatures. They are led by their emotions, think in emotions, and process most of their life in emotional terms. Most men, however, are the exact opposite. We men are logical creatures and because of this it can be super hard for a woman to find a man that she truly, honest to goodness, vibes with. A man that just seems to get her like no other man ever has. Some woman, no, most woman, never find a guy that connects with them on such a deep level. You may not be as good looking as her, have less money than her, even live a shittier lifestyle than her but if you really, truly, form a connection with her she won't care about that other stuff. She will be addicted to you. Okay, thats all good and shit but how does one actually create an emotional connection with a woman? It starts from the second you approach. If you come across as a fun guy then she will start having fun too. How you look can also effect her emotions. maybe your dressed like a rocker and she has a thing for rockers. Sexual escalation is also a good way to establish an emotional connection with. Exposing her to extreme amounts of sexual tension is something that rarely happens to her. If your the guy who can do that it will cause an emotional reaction in her. These things are all good but they are simply surface level emotional connections. If you really want to form the type of powerful, and deep, connections I harped about in the beginning of the article then you must go deeper... The best way to start forming this deep connection to to vibe with her and get to know her. Must guys do this on a surface level but they never go deep enough. "Where do you work?" "Where do you live?" "how do you like the crazy weather lately?" The ask surface level questions like the ones above. Everyone she meets ask these same silly questions to her. They are logical questions and provoke no emotional response. I'm not saying that you can never ask logical questions but you must strive to start going deeper as soon as you can... and you can much sooner than you think. The best type of questions to ask are ones that invoke emotional responses. For example, instead of asking her what she does, its better to ask her what he biggest passion is. The first one is a boring logical question whereas the second one makes her open up and express herself in an emotional way. Its best to get a woman to open herself up emotionally on her own rather than you asking her a series of questions. The best way to accomplish this is to open yourself up emotionally first. Open up and make yourself vulnerable. Truly express yourself, your dreams, and your passions without a filter. Be real and authentic but don't try to impress her... simply express yourself. If you do this, and she has any interest in you at all, she will reciprocate and start opening up herself. At first he may be a bit hesitant and only open herself up a little bit. This is where asking a few emotional questions can help her dig deeper and express herself even further. Honestly, how often do you think a chick meets a guy in a bar/club/middle of the day and within 30 - 45 minutes she has shared with him her passions, her dreams, her fears, her desires, and other deep emotions? Probably never. She could backward rationalize that she must be attracted to you a lot sense she has opened up so much to a stranger but honestly, she will probably be to busy trying to figure out how to get you to fuck her to be thinking about that. The fact is, when you can go from being a stranger to being a person taht knows and understands her better than most of her friends, she will fall for you and she will fall hard. Just a few tips: - Stay away from negative emotional topics. If the conversation flows into this area then quickly change the subject. - Don't be judgmental. - Make sure that while your developing a connection with her that your also sexually escalating with her and keeping the sexual tension high. For more information on that you can check out my escalation guide. The link is right below in my sig. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 7:35 am ] |
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Awesome man! |
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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 2:52 pm ] |
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Thanks ezo |
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| Author: | 870 [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 8:11 pm ] |
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I like this post. What goes unsaid is that if you share a little bit of yourself, too, you may just find you are falling for her the same way she is falling for you. Your boy, 870 |
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| Author: | Popay69 [ Sat Apr 28, 2012 10:25 am ] |
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Great post! I'm using this technique alot but there is something that I don't understand. If a woman telling me about "bad emotions" stuff, like her parents getting devorce or about her grandfather death. It suppose to be bad emotions but it's a high level of sharing and these are things that people don't share so easily. Should I talk to her about these topics or not? |
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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Sat Apr 28, 2012 4:45 pm ] |
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Quote: Great post!
I stay away from deeply negative emotions like that until after we have slept together once or twice.
I'm using this technique alot but there is something that I don't understand. If a woman telling me about "bad emotions" stuff, like her parents getting devorce or about her grandfather death. It suppose to be bad emotions but it's a high level of sharing and these are things that people don't share so easily. Should I talk to her about these topics or not? |
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| Author: | oo7 [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 7:06 am ] |
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Great post! |
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| Author: | K.Starling [ Fri Jun 01, 2012 10:04 pm ] |
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Excellent Post going to save i |
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| Author: | The Real Deal69 [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 9:32 pm ] |
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Hey WM, I don't post often on the forum but this topic got me really questioning some things. One of the most effective ways Ive found to keep a woman interested, at least for the first few interactions is undoubtedly mystery. I'll admit Im not all that experience but more so than the average dumbass, but anyway to the point. My previous statement strongly contradicts your suggestions about emotional connection in the first 30-45 minutes. How would you respond to that? I understand emotional connection is important at some point but is it always good to go for it that fast? Don't you find an aura of mystery is good when first interacting with a woman? Peace, Marky Mark |
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| Author: | Raiden2k2 [ Mon Jun 04, 2012 5:41 pm ] |
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You've created an excelent post, I was about to do one quite similar, but, I'll just comment on yours. I've written before about the four pillars to getting any woman, and you get the woman through creating that Emotional Connection. The four pillars are: Attention- you have to actually listen to her and make her feel felt Understanding- you needn't try and solve the problems before understanding what the real problem is. The five most powerful words a man can say to a woman are, "I really want to understand..." Acceptance- You must accept her for who she is, praise her strengths, ignore her weaknesses. Affection- This can be encouragement, a hug, hand holding, praise, good tidings, a kiss, cuddling, eye gazing, or more. Affection is the final key. If you engage in all five of those things, anyone will do just about anything for you if they can do it. I've been with 27 women this year alone. 27! Pretty damn good! It's through following those four pillars, and eliciting each of them. |
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| Author: | Stratocasterman [ Thu Mar 07, 2013 7:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Power of Emotional Connections |
Great post and great topic! Could not have said it better myself. Something so simple yet so misunderstood I guess, because in my experiences, most knuckleheads just don't get it! It makes for such a great connection between two people and that is what you strive for correct? Otherwise, you will be watching someone else do what you should have been doing and take your place... Stratocasterman |
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| Author: | DeathShredder23 [ Sun Oct 27, 2013 3:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Power of Emotional Connections |
Great shit man. I wish you an I were neighbors. I bet I could learn a lot. |
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| Author: | FlexBrah [ Tue Oct 29, 2013 4:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Power of Emotional Connections |
I'm glad you're not on 60's nuts anymore, warped!! Uppin' this thread! This is coke! |
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| Author: | vicparkguy83 [ Tue Oct 29, 2013 11:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Power of Emotional Connections |
Good post. When you're asking about her dreams etc she can spill the beans to you and she likes you more, but if you can analysis it well you might be able to be a step ahead of her, you might be able to teach her something about herself. So not only has she opened up emotionally to you, she now has more understanding of those emotions, thanks to you. So when a girl is pouring it out, pay close attention, look for blanks, and fill them in. Don't just listen, actually give a shit. |
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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Sat May 07, 2016 12:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Power of Emotional Connections |
Bump - I see a lot of guys constantly ask about conversations and building connection. Here is your answer. |
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