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I can't seem to get away from being labeled as a player.

I've been friends with this girl that I like for the past 3 months. She had a LDR so I was doing what I did best and talked to girls, flirted, and occasionally made out or took some home. I did this on purpose in front of my friend to make her jealous.

This worked, because 2 weeks ago she broke up with her bf. We have been very flirty, touchy and I know she was attracted to me so I know I factored into her decision.

Anyways, we have already made out once and we have vibbing each other for a while. However, now that she's single she's being acting a bit different. She knows I'm good with girls and has made a few references to this when we've hung out. She has kind of given me the feeling that she wants to take things slowly. I have restrained myself the past 2 weeks from kissing her again, but I know I could have made a move.

I feel like there are two schools of thought: 1) Be a man and just go for it 2) Play it a bit slower and aloof. Be mysterious so she doesn't know how you really feel about her. At 25, I've been single for a few years and have done well. I know what I want, and this is a girl I could potentially date. This is probably why I am overthinking this like a mofo.

I manned up and invited her over to my apt for dinner this week. We are both really sarcastic, but she texted me back "Are you trying to get in my pants?" I was def shocked at that response. In hindsight I would have said something different, but because I actually did want to sleep with her, I panicked. I responded something like "Really? I hope that was sarcasm" I know I f'd this up because I fell right into her trap. She knows I care. Anyways she replied that she was in fact being sarcastic and would like to do dinner.

However, I'm still trying to figure out what to do when she calls me a player. I think saying either yes or no would be a bad response. Also, I don't whether to man up more bc I know she likes me, or play it cool because she's newly single and knows that I like her.

Thanks for the help!

Author:	Risen [ Tue Apr 17, 2012 11:17 pm ]
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I can't seem to get away from being labeled as a player. I've been friends with this girl that I like for the past 3 months. She had a LDR so I was doing what I did best and talked to girls, flirted, and occasionally made out or took some home. I did this on purpose in front of my friend to make her jealous. This worked, because 2 weeks ago she broke up with her bf. We have been very flirty, touchy and I know she was attracted to me so I know I factored into her decision. Anyways, we have already made out once and we have vibbing each other for a while. However, now that she's single she's being acting a bit different. She knows I'm good with girls and has made a few references to this when we've hung out. She has kind of given me the feeling that she wants to take things slowly. I have restrained myself the past 2 weeks from kissing her again, but I know I could have made a move. I feel like there are two schools of thought: 1) Be a man and just go for it 2) Play it a bit slower and aloof. Be mysterious so she doesn't know how you really feel about her. At 25, I've been single for a few years and have done well. I know what I want, and this is a girl I could potentially date. This is probably why I am overthinking this like a mofo. I manned up and invited her over to my apt for dinner this week. We are both really sarcastic, but she texted me back "Are you trying to get in my pants?" I was def shocked at that response. In hindsight I would have said something different, but because I actually did want to sleep with her, I panicked. I responded something like "Really? I hope that was sarcasm" I know I f'd this up because I fell right into her trap. She knows I care. Anyways she replied that she was in fact being sarcastic and would like to do dinner. However, I'm still trying to figure out what to do when she calls me a player. I think saying either yes or no would be a bad response. Also, I don't whether to man up more bc I know she likes me, or play it cool because she's newly single and knows that I like her. Thanks for the help!

Author:	NahDudeFkThat [ Tue Apr 17, 2012 11:56 pm ]
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Forget and move on. When you're being called a player, say "Aren't you? Everyone is, some more some less."

Author:	skills360 [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:02 am ]
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here: handling-girls-that-hate-players-vt1332 ... highlight=

Author:	RetiredRodeo [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:06 am ]
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Throw it back on her. "I find it offensive, to be honest, when someone is labeled a "player" simply because they dress well, can talk articulately, and can carry on a conversation with more than one type of person... I'd rather eliminate the stupid titles compeltely and simply be myself" Leave her NO where to go. You DHV yourself in the process. Then game her and fuck her - if not, move on, close the set.

Author:	Stelar [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:24 am ]
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Quote: "Really? I hope that was sarcasm" EVERY TIME A WOMAN MAKES A SEXUAL REMARK ABOUT YOU AND HER = SEX INVITATION. I am going to be blunt , you are not a player.

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Author:	Risen [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:42 am ]
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Quote: Quote: "Really? I hope that was sarcasm" EVERY TIME A WOMAN MAKES A SEXUAL REMARK ABOUT YOU AND HER = SEX INVITATION. I am going to be blunt , you are not a player. Yea as soon as I sent that text, I realized that I f'd up and walked right into her trap. I should have said something like "Obviously" How do you suggest I try to bounce back from that?

Author:	RetiredRodeo [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:49 am ]
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Let it marinate for a few days.... Then retry. If she's not receptive - obviously - move on.

Author:	Stelar [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:58 am ]
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Quote: Let it marinate for a few days.... Then retry. If she's not receptive - obviously - move on. +1 Give space , invite her out and spice normal conversation with things like : "if there were no people here I would be all over you" Escalate and be creative. -------------------------------------------- The above is no magic bullet , sometimes 1 mistake is enough to lose.

Author:	CaptainJackHarkness [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 1:15 am ]
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Hrm...if a girl said something like I'm not sleeping with you or Are you trying to get in my pants...I would definitely be cocky funny about it. I wouldn't also respond with text I would have called her... I feel that message...I don't know. Sounded very much like a denial of possibility whatsoever....which makes no sense game-wise either lol. I would have said "Maybe, as long as you can unzip your pants" Or just "Better idea, lets skip dinner. " Haha

Author:	skills360 [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 2:59 am ]
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Quote: I can't seem to get away from being labeled as a player. I've been friends with this girl that I like for the past 3 months. She had a LDR so I was doing what I did best and talked to girls, flirted, and occasionally made out or took some home. I did this on purpose in front of my friend to make her jealous. This worked, because 2 weeks ago she broke up with her bf. We have been very flirty, touchy and I know she was attracted to me so I know I factored into her decision. Anyways, we have already made out once and we have vibbing each other for a while. However, now that she's single she's being acting a bit different. She knows I'm good with girls and has made a few references to this when we've hung out. She has kind of given me the feeling that she wants to take things slowly. I have restrained myself the past 2 weeks from kissing her again, but I know I could have made a move. I feel like there are two schools of thought: 1) Be a man and just go for it 2) Play it a bit slower and aloof. Be mysterious so she doesn't know how you really feel about her. At 25, I've been single for a few years and have done well. I know what I want, and this is a girl I could potentially date. This is probably why I am overthinking this like a mofo. I manned up and invited her over to my apt for dinner this week. We are both really sarcastic, but she texted me back "Are you trying to get in my pants?" I was def shocked at that response. In hindsight I would have said something different, but because I actually did want to sleep with her, I panicked. I responded something like "Really? I hope that was sarcasm" I know I f'd this up because I fell right into her trap. She knows I care. Anyways she replied that she was in fact being sarcastic and would like to do dinner. However, I'm still trying to figure out what to do when she calls me a player. I think saying either yes or no would be a bad response. Also, I don't whether to man up more bc I know she likes me, or play it cool because she's newly single and knows that I like her. Thanks for the help! if you want to date that girl, that is kind of an ioi, she is looking for security.. Do something like this: Having a player rep. is not that bad, it mean you get girls(abundance) with that being said, the girls is looking for (security), she does not want to get used or hurt, this is what you need to do, it works, i done it many times never a problem, since i have one of the worst reputations, even my gf questions me every once in a while, but that is another story here is what you do and what to say do not change the context: Listen i am not a player, i just date and i am 100% honest and upfront with every girl, i tell them that i am seeing other people... most people SETTLE(key word super important) they overlook wrongs and red flags just because they do not want to be alone, see you do not truly get to know somebody after minimum 6 months that you are with them, so in other for me to avoid wasting time, i just date and when i find the girl that i really like the real her, not the best foot forward at the beginning of dating,then i am 100% exclusive, But what i am not gonna do is spend 6 months to a year or more with the wrong person just to settle, do you see what i mean? hb: yes that is so true... The whole story is a dhv(community lingo whatever)... Now i really like______________(whatever you like about her) and i would like to get to know you now if you are the right person for me and we end up together, i am 100% exclusive... Also i want you to watch this: [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNovswAlmio[/youtube]

Author:	Risen [ Wed Apr 18, 2012 4:24 pm ]
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Thanks for that video skills360! It def helped out and put things in perspective.

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