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| Author: | Cornishman [ Sun Apr 08, 2012 3:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | AA - Straw Man |
Hey guys, more of a quick ramble before i set off. This is something i think is important for newer people BUT can relate to ANY stage of your game. Okay, so you go out day or night and you see a girl you want to approach. But you don't BUT you suuure do think about it. What happens when you think about it? You feel the fear like CRAZY or maybe you don't feel the fear too much but you just don't approach for some reason (not in the mood LOL) So what happens? You thought about approaching her in your head and your body then believes the big fear and nerves is 'real' to the situation. But you didnt actually approach!! SO your brain now believes that approaching is actually as big and scary as you imagined it. But the thing is, it isnt scary, when you speak to a girl the first thing you think is "Is this really it? THIS is what was stopping me!" BUT how can you actually apply this into real life and the field. Well maybe make real decisions to go out and approach what i mean is "Are you really ready to do this?" maybe you need to work on speaking to grannies and older women in your day-to-day to get used to speaking to strangers first Also give yourself slack, "I'll only count approaches between 10-3am on fri, sat and sun". Rather than beating yourself up for not approaching every, single girl you see in your day. Also don't see every girl as 'someone you should have approached', this is rather advanced. As a beginner when you're out and about, give yourself this FRAME/THOUGHT LOOP: I will approach 7 girls in the club, girls that are relatively easy to approach at the bar. All girls in groups on 10 or even 5 I will ignore. Girls outside having a cigarette or on the edge of the circle of friends are also approachable. The Main thing is to only truly think about approaching a girl when you THINK you actually can, if you see the 10HB walking 100mph down the street with 3 friends, you'd be a fool to think "She's going to count as a missed approach if i don't go up!", rather pick the girl sitting in a quiet. park who's reading a book by herself on the bench - Go out on days when you truly believe you're going open - make a set time when you will put the pressure on yourself - Know that by not approaching you will increase your AA - Make your criteria for success of approaching girls in easy situations then build up. Peace |
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| Author: | Slipps [ Sun Apr 08, 2012 6:46 pm ] |
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Random thoughts, see if you like them. When I was first into PU and was sarging and reading quite frequently the websites to read and the books being sold only briefly mentioned AA before moving on to discussing the actual gaming part of PU. At least that is how I remember. Nowadays the standard PUA speech is: "you MUST approach, you have to approach! FUCK FEAR! FUCK AA! Every-time you chicken out you miss out! You have NOTHING to lose!" It's become very approach centric and PUA's seem to be overly focused on quantity of approaches and never backing down. A lot of the discussion regarding sarging and self improvement has gone out the window in favour of "just approach". It's not wrong what a lot of them are saying about AA, but I wonder whether dedicating that much mental time to AA is worth it. My gut instinct tells me that we're making too big a deal out of approaching and possibly being counter-productive in doing so. I think you are partly right, in the fact that people need to stop giving themselves a hard time for not approaching someone. But I think we should also assess how focusing our time on AA pays off in the long run vs learning how to communicate effectively. |
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