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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 5:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Slept with a girl, now I don't know what's up - Please Help! |
Hey guys, it's been a while since I last came on here. I'm in a situation right now and could really use some help/advice as this has never happened to me before. A week ago Friday I met a girl at a get together of some friends, and she was quite drunk and was into me. Long story short we did it that night. The next day, she felt better and regretted nothing. We liked each other and cuddled, had sex, talked a lot, the whole thing. That whole day we were together, at her place most of the time, watching videos, cuddling, etc, having a ton of fun, and she was clearly enjoying it. However, she hadn't told me the night before that she was seeing someone for about 1-2 months now, she only ever talked about her ex boyfriend if we got into such a topic. She was quite an open honest girl apart from this. Anyway, the guy showed up at her door that morning, and she sent him away (he didn't see me). She felt really bad saying she felt like a slut and she's not the type of girl who sleeps around. After 5 minutes she felt better again and was having fun again. We went out, got something to eat, met with some friends, cuddled in public, etc. Went back to hers, spent a few more hours together, and then I left, saying we could meet up the next day if she wanted. She said yes. Next day I call, she says she feels really bad about "cheating" and wants to be alone for now, that she'll call me later. I left her alone for a day, called, didn't pick up and sent me a text saying "Thanks but just leave me alone, I feel bad and REALLY want to be by myself. Thanks for appreciating and have warm thoughts and feelings as you travel to your dad" - I went to London for 3 days. Now I don't know what the fuck is up. I know you guys will tell me to move on, but I'm not that type of guy who can just leave things like this. I don't know what she thinks of me anymore, probably the guy she cheated with. So I ask you guys for advice or anything you have to say, it has been bugging me all week. We have mutual friends, and I can't just "sleep with another girl" because I don't go out too much here in Vienna. Thanks guys. |
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| Author: | Cornflake [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 5:29 pm ] |
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She likes you, and you like her... be a man about it and next time your together cuddling and talking and having a good time, escalate. Makeout with her, take her to her room, and just do it.. It seems to me that she's putting you in the friend zone to make her feel better about herself sleeping around. Her conscience feels bad about sending that guy home, so as bad as it sounds, make her conscience feel bad about playing with your emotions and just keep going for it, your making it really easy on her to just pick the other guy "because he was there first" in her mind. |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 5:35 pm ] |
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The problem is, I don't even know if she wants to talk to or see me again. My last contact with her was on Tuesday, which was when she sent me the text. I have left her alone since then. |
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| Author: | Cornflake [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 5:39 pm ] |
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Then I guess you have to find out.. Send her a text asking her what she's up to and invite her over to do something or meet up for a coffee, and just focus on having a good time. Be fun on your date and if you happen to just go back to her place to "chill" again just take baby steps and try to get K-close or something small to figure out where you stand. At the end of the day, its not the worst thing in the world to move on. |
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| Author: | skills360 [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 6:02 pm ] |
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[quote]Next day I call, she says she feels really bad about "cheating" and wants to be alone for now, that she'll call me later. I left her alone for a day, called, didn't pick up and sent me a text saying "Thanks but just leave me alone, I feel bad and REALLY want to be by myself. Thanks for appreciating and have warm thoughts and feelings as you travel to your dad" - I went to London for 3 days. Here is were you fucked up, you are too needy borderline creepy... She told you she wants to be alone for now, that she will call you later... You as a desperate guy with a mild onitis called her, that is were you fucked up... You should have left her alone, and let her get back to you, she needed to initiate the CALL... Please move on... You are too needy, you need an abundance of girls and mentality. |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 6:07 pm ] |
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Alright, I thought I was too needy myself. It's fucked up how one only realizes after it's done.. Thanks for your points of views and opinions. |
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| Author: | skills360 [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 6:50 pm ] |
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Quote: Alright, I thought I was too needy myself. It's fucked up how one only realizes after it's done.. Thanks for your points of views and opinions.
Here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNovswAl ... kfeHzwSopm |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 7:57 pm ] |
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Wow man, thanks so much for that video. Exactly what I was looking for. Answered all my questions pretty much apart from one. Don't know if there is an answer to this really. Is there any amount of time you should wait after spending time closely with a girl for a few days to contact her again? Should she be the one calling you? (In my situation it should have, but if she doesn't say she will call you). |
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