Good sex is easy. Primarily because sex feels good, and having sex is relatively easy. Anyone can have good sex, all it takes is an open bond of attraction and comfort between two (or more) humans. But what makes sex great? You know...that toe-curling, back-scratching, ass-slapping, face in the pillow, wake your entire development up, not-sure-if-you-guys-hate-each-other or not-sex. There are a wide variety of different techniques, options, and ideas that will transform your sex life from "oooh yeah...." to "OH YEAH!" Let's explore some options. (Random List)
1) Lighting - Good lighting in a room will change the mood, set the tone, and charge up emotions of the people in there. Myself, I prefer candles. I've found that the majority of the women agree with me. There is something about being together, yet alone, in the candle-light that will energize a bond between two people who have established good rapport. I find that even by myself, when I sit at night with the candles in my room lit, that my thinking pattern changes to become much more relaxed and "in tune" with the flow of things. Perhaps natural lighting has some unknown benefits? I don't know, but regardless. This doesn't mean you have to have sex in the candle-light every time, but understand the importance of lighting. Usually, its a big no-no to have the lights on if its at night, and for good reason. The darker, dimmer, and more selectively lit a room is, the closer people will be drawn to each other. We are not creatures of solitude, even those who are loners, do subconsciously long to connect with others. We enjoy company, because we have the capacity to enjoy it. Utilize this universal truth.
2) Express yourself - Through our actions, we are actively expressing the art of living, the art of the human body. Everything we do is miraculous, we build, fight, laugh, cry, fuck, live and die. So remember, enjoy yourself. Don't be so excited that you're finally getting your dick wet, and enjoy the time you are spending with this (hopefully) gorgeous (shit happens!) woman you've met. Don't be afraid to stare into her eyes then kiss her with force, don't be afraid to scream how good it feels, don't be afraid to stretch out your fingers and lay a whipping on her ass! Stop kissing her for a second, and tell her exactly what you are feeling at that moment (EXCEPT I LOVE YOU) Make her laugh, go commando one day and surprise her! Be a dork, keep your shirt and socks on and pose for her, asking her how you look. Point being, just relax. So many people are so eager to get into bed with a chick that they think that success means they've penetrated a woman. Don't be that guy. That's the guy that is so happy he finally got some ass that he blows his load in 20 seconds. But the guy who is here to really have fun, to really make an intimate connection knows that life (sex) is not a destination, it's a journey.
3) Music = Good, TV = Bad - There is nothing like having some good tunes on in the background when you're alone with your lady friend. Notice I said good tunes. Don't play some bullshit music, you should know the distance. Not too subtle, loud enough to be heard clearly. Music is one of the fires that fuel the soul, like other forms of art and passion it invigorates the senses, changes moods, and creates a connection. I'm not going to recommend anything, because everyone has different tastes, including the women you meet. You should have a large selection and knowledge of music anyway, its a terrific aspect of human expression. Yet, the TV seems to have an opposite effect. The TV distances and isolates people from each other. Movies are fine, obviously, but if you're getting naughty, make sure the remote is close so you stop the DVD menu from playing over and over and over again. I can't tell you how crappy that makes the situation, one time I had the movie "Next Friday" playing and we left it on, after a while I had to stop because all I kept hearing was Ice Cube's dialog clips from the movie. It was horrendous. Point being, if you're gonna get intimate, the TV shouldn't be on. In fact, you two should be watching TV together anyway, there are better, more intelligent things you can be doing with your time.
4) Explore her body - Instead of spending 100% of your time fondling her ass and/or breasts, take some time to really enjoy her body. The human body is a playground of sensual touch, so explore it and have fun. Touch her face softly, grab her neck/head, squeeze her hands, caress her legs, lightly kiss her stomach, ribs, hips, and legs. Leave no part of her beauty unexplored. Seriously, touch/squeeze/caress/kiss/lick/bite your way from head to toe. Don't be afraid to wander away from just kissing her, it will do wonders. I've had long nights of just sensual kissing and touching that have delivered more intimacy and passion that resulted in multiple orgasms before we even had sex. Like I said, the human body is loaded with sensitive, sensual points, learn where these are (e.g. small of the back, rib cage region, hips, back of legs, shoulder blades, ears, etc etc) You'll thank me later, and so will she.
5) Think erotic, be erotic! - This kind of goes along the same lines as exploration. If you want HOT SEX, think HOT SEX. Stop thinking about just having sex, think about having mind-blowing sex. Watch a few fucking porno flicks if you need some ideas. Instead of doing the same old positions, lay her on her back, pick her up and throw her against the wall (that is unless your a weak ass bitch! ). Tell her what you want to do to her, make her dance for you! Get creative, take that candle next to your bed and pour some hot wax on her chest (make sure she knows your going to do this). Pull hair, scratch backs, and break shit. You should get the idea. Do it in the kitchen while wreaking havoc on anything in the area, make a fucking mess. Get wild with it, you're there to have fun, so go crazy. Be naughty, wild, creative, and passionate. Don't be afraid to be an animal, in fact, that's what you should be striving for. So many people these days have this watered down version of sex, its so lackluster and pathetic that I'd rather go beat off than bore my way through another run-of-the-mill sex session. If you want interesting sex, make it that way.
6) Location - If you wanna keep it hot, fresh, and interesting, you'd better make sure that every time it happens you're not always in the bedroom. There are some very fun places to have sex, and since sex should be a spontaneous thing, so should your locations. Outdoors is always a good time, showers, cars, kitchens, beaches, and wherever else you can pull it off without getting caught. An ex of mine and myself once had sex on the top level of the airport parking lot under the night sky watching the planes take off and land, it was absolutely insane. Not to mention one of the most fun times I've ever had. Keep it FRESH!
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And yes, it's still in my playlist.