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Author:  Warped Mindless [ Fri Dec 30, 2011 7:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Things that DONT matter
The following things don't matter and as such you shouldn't spend any time worrying about them...

1) A "gurus" lay count

His advice is either helpful or it isn't. A lay count doesn't always tell the full story. Maybe they fucked 1000 woman but their all fat and ugly. Maybe they fucked 30 but all of them have been good looking and has been in a LTR for the last two years. You get the point

2) Creating attraction

You will do much better if instead of focusing on attraction you focus on sexual tension and getting her mentally and physically aroused. Do those two things and attraction will take care of it self

3) "This one girl"

Don't give yourself a headache stressing over some chick that you have built up in your mind to be more awesome than she really is. Four billion women on this planet....

4) Worrying about your reputation

So many guys on here get worried about being known as a "player." Don't be worried about it, it will actually help you. I made a post about this a long time ago, do a search.

5) Looking "alpha"

The whole concept of the "alpha male" has become a joke in the community. Strive to become a MAN instead. I'll be making a post on this soon that goes into more detail.

6) Your ex

She yours ex for a reason. No, your not going to get her back. Yes, their are better women. Go meet them.

7) What people think about you

This is obvious but should be said anyways. While you shouldn't care what people think of you, you should strive to be keenly aware of how your making people feel. Read that again, its important.

8) Impressing women

This is a big no. Instead of trying to impress women, simply express yourself and who you are. Either she will like who you are, or she wont. If not, four billion other women on this planet.
Author:  skills360 [ Fri Dec 30, 2011 9:56 pm ]
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Nice wm, right on, also:


9.-Getting rejected or being scare/worried of getting rejected: the sooner the better so you don't waste your time....

10.- Opener: so many kids worried about some fancy opener.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Fri Dec 30, 2011 10:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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5) Looking "alpha"

The whole concept of the "alpha male" has become a joke in the community. Strive to become a MAN instead. I'll be making a post on this soon that goes into more detail.
but what about alpha facial hair?

or alpha shoes?

or alpha bet soup?
Author:  Jav [ Sat Dec 31, 2011 12:11 am ]
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Good post, you're making valid points.


But I don't believe in 'don't'. Energy put in doing the 'don't's (any action/behaviour costs energy) can't just be 'stopped', however it can be re-directed. In this format it would be a better choice in going about learning this stuff.

So let's make this a kind of exercise.

It's quite simple, what WM wrote is all true, however:

what would you do?
Author:  lolaskate [ Sat Dec 31, 2011 11:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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5) Looking "alpha"

The whole concept of the "alpha male" has become a joke in the community. Strive to become a MAN instead. I'll be making a post on this soon that goes into more detail.
but what about alpha facial hair?

or alpha shoes?

or alpha bet soup?
Sir you make me laugh :D
Author:  Jacob292 [ Sat Dec 31, 2011 1:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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5) Looking "alpha"

The whole concept of the "alpha male" has become a joke in the community. Strive to become a MAN instead. I'll be making a post on this soon that goes into more detail.
but what about alpha facial hair?

or alpha shoes?

or alpha bet soup?
Alpha bet soup is only important if you plant on doing a dusty rain shower later on in the night.
Author:  skills360 [ Sat Dec 31, 2011 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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5) Looking "alpha"

The whole concept of the "alpha male" has become a joke in the community. Strive to become a MAN instead. I'll be making a post on this soon that goes into more detail.
but what about alpha facial hair?

or alpha shoes?

or alpha bet soup?


lmao!
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Mon Jan 02, 2012 4:39 pm ]
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Alpha bet soup is the SECRET to fucking women :P
Author:  Defy [ Mon Jan 02, 2012 6:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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2) Creating attraction

You will do much better if instead of focusing on attraction you focus on sexual tension and getting her mentally and physically aroused. Do those two things and attraction will take care of it self
Others are fairly obvious, but I don't agree with this one. If you're just looking for a fast and easy lay, screening girls with rapid kino is ok. But I genuinely enjoy interacting with girls and I don't need to lay her the night we meet.
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Mon Jan 02, 2012 6:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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2) Creating attraction

You will do much better if instead of focusing on attraction you focus on sexual tension and getting her mentally and physically aroused. Do those two things and attraction will take care of it self
Others are fairly obvious, but I don't agree with this one. If you're just looking for a fast and easy lay, screening girls with rapid kino is ok. But I genuinely enjoy interacting with girls and I don't need to lay her the night we meet.
Arousal and sexual tension isn't just about getting fast lays. Though it can be used for that! :)

Attraction is an emotional process so its better to focus on the emotions. Getting her aroused (emotionally and physically) and creating sexual tension will amp up those important attraction creating emotions.

On a somewhat unrelated, there is nothing wrong with wanting to get to know a woman better and enjoying the interaction. However, if you REALLY want to get to know a woman, and what to keep her around, the best way to accomplish that is to have sex with her as soon as possible. Many women wont fully reveal their true self until they fuck a guy. After that they let their guard down and feel more comfortable being their real self.
Author:  Defy [ Mon Jan 02, 2012 6:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Things that DONT matter
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2) Creating attraction

You will do much better if instead of focusing on attraction you focus on sexual tension and getting her mentally and physically aroused. Do those two things and attraction will take care of it self
Others are fairly obvious, but I don't agree with this one. If you're just looking for a fast and easy lay, screening girls with rapid kino is ok. But I genuinely enjoy interacting with girls and I don't need to lay her the night we meet.
Arousal and sexual tension isn't just about getting fast lays. Though it can be used for that! :)

Attraction is an emotional process so its better to focus on the emotions. Getting her aroused (emotionally and physically) and creating sexual tension will amp up those important attraction creating emotions.

On a somewhat unrelated, there is nothing wrong with wanting to get to know a woman better and enjoying the interaction. However, if you REALLY want to get to know a woman, and what to keep her around, the best way to accomplish that is to have sex with her as soon as possible. Many women wont fully reveal their true self until they fuck a guy. After that they let their guard down and feel more comfortable being their real self.
I agree with everything you say, but recent experiences made me tweak that frame a little. In the past month I have lost 3 really high quality girls cause of that mindset. One of them was actually ready to go home with me and changed her mind in the last minute. Next day when she came her regular programming, she accused me of being way too sexual for her standards, although she was the one drooling over me the night before. I explained her that Sex first, affection second mindset, she said she understood that, but she just doesn't do that. Almost the same words I heard the other two times, and I was like Fuck 60. So from then, when I meet a girl I could see myself with, I'll calibrate and see what would be the best to do in that situation.
Author:  kasabi [ Mon Jan 02, 2012 7:13 pm ]
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2) Why separate the two? One feeds the other.

4) This often comes up as an excuse to 'not' ask a girl out or 'not' game. Not sure what type of rep it is that they're wanting to withhold . . .

8. Isn't this a confusion between desired end result and the method? If you're picking girls up, the idea is for them to think 'highly of you' rather than 'lowly of you'. We do this everyday for everything in life. We're always gauging which people are worth our time, which products are worth our money, and which projects are worth our energy. No need to turn yourself into a circus monkey because you think a girl is into circus monkies but a little bit of catering to the individual is an incredible gift from one person to another that seldom goes unnoticed.

9/10 Worry = no. Analysis = yes. No reason to clump the two together.
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