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| Author: | Marc [ Sun Dec 18, 2011 10:09 pm ] |
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Active Listening is something that I've observed in meetings with some Senior Managers, almost all of them do this. I've been practicing it for sometime now. Let me try to break it down. Listening is not just saying "yeah" or "Okay" - that is passive listening. But to keep a conversation going and learning more about the other person one listens for the underlying message or a key point and then chimes in with very few words on the topic. Example: Girl: Oh I've been Vegas, I love clubbing, I love the food, I love Casinos. Active Listener: yeah, what did you thing of Aria the newly opened Casino. Isnt that gorgeous (And then just Shut up let her talk about it) - This way you have given her something to talk about and also communicated that you have or atleast are well aware of the places she is talking about. If you want to scan her to see whether she is an avid traveler. You could also pick the topic of clubbing and say something like which other cities of the world would you think have similar clubs. You could also say something like - Thts right the food at Ceasers Place is delicious (Youve just conveyed to her that you are on the same page), wouldnt you like to take your family on a vacation there just for the food. (This is to scan how close is she with her family etc.. at this point they have either gone in a tangent talking about their family, how they grew up or have told me that they arent close but would take their friends instead and then blah blah) The point is people would give you enough clues on how they want to be treated or what matters for them. You just have to LISTEN v/s Hearing about what they are trying to convey and pick on the key points to create a transition or dig deeper into getting to know them. I've been using this for a few weeks now and the rapport building is gets really strong. Ofcourse you do all Kino and teasing in between to build that tension and sexual energy. |
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| Author: | Tasty [ Tue Dec 20, 2011 4:37 pm ] |
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i agree. It might feel forced at first, and same for when she tries to expand on something you just said. If you arent vibing at first, it is only a matter of a few exchanges of ideas before I believe the energy starts to become more fluid and you both just bounce your thoughts off of eachother. Once you get in that vibe, its easy to carry a multi-hour conversation...which is very rewarding |
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