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| Author: | Ziffer [ Wed Nov 16, 2011 6:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Breaking your PUA Hat |
I have been gaming for quite a while now and one thing I realized was that I started developing two personalities almost. The PUA side and the normal side. The PUA side was arrogant and never took a rejection personally. The normal side was just a typical AFC who just wanted to be happy. Soon I found myself putting on the PUA Hat and using it as a shield from breaking my own ego. What had really happened was I did not actually get rid of AA as I thought I did I only was pushing it off. The PUA hat allowed me to believe I wasn't getting rejected I just did not take the required steps. I soon found myself in a state of confusion wanting women to like the real me not the pua hat I put on. Then one day it happened I could not feel anything for women. I would see a women and see them as another number. Hey guess what zero AA and I just did what ever seemed right to keep the attention my way. Sounds good no? No it was the worst experience of my life I was going on dates all the time, and if they went sour I would not care and just move on to the next one. Then one day I realized I did not care about a single one of these girls. They were all just work in progress fucks. I would do what I believed would get me into their pants and nothing more or less, but by having this mentality i could never connect with any of them. I couldn't build comfort because I just saw it as a means to getting closer to my goal. Then one day I went and approached a girl who ruined my reputation for an entire sorority. Still I didn't feel anything for her. I just felt bad because of my reputation. All this is to say is that you can put on the the PUA hat, but in the long run you will learn to actually want to just be yourself. Whats the point of sleeping with a girl you don't care about. There is none really. Bragging rights will only get you so far. Learn to accept yourself and allow for you to put your normal side out there. Don't keep the hat on or else you will find yourself in depression that could make you feel worse than you did originally. Keep gaming remember you want a girl to genuinely want you not the fake personality you put up. |
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| Author: | Jacob292 [ Wed Nov 16, 2011 11:14 am ] |
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I understand you Ziffer, and at the same time, I partially disagree. When I was PUAing a lot (which I'll start to pick up again next week since I'm single again), I became indestructible by rejection. I'd hard next any girl who rejected me. However, once I was in the conversation, more so in the pick up moment, I would use PUA techniques for kino escalation, IOIs, SOI and some teasing, but never routines: I'm a natural gamer and at the same time, what I said was genuine, and it was my personality. PUAing, being alpha, being very social became me. I didn't have a PUA hat on, I was PUAing all the time: always on the look and thinking of how I could approach that girl or this one is that context. What I'm saying is that you shouldn't have a PUA hat on, you should transcend with PUAing, become one. That won't change your personality, it will barely alter it: you're still the same person, you simply more social and no longer an average frustrated chimp (AFC) who doesn't know how to approach. Back to my evolution, when I was PUAing a lot, I hooked up with that one girl once. We exchanged numbers, and a month or so later, hooked up again. We'd hook up every know and then, and I would still PU other girls. Until I came the realization that I genuinely like that girl I got used to hooking up with, and we then got into an exclusive relationship for a year and a half. She liked me for how I picked her up, and how we made up. And for another year and a half, she loved me for everything, even though I wasn't picking her up anymore, I teased her, seduced her, etc. but most of the time I was showing my original (pre-PUA) personality. To conclude, I'd say that you might think you should distinguish PUAing and "normal AFC life", but in the long run, you might become schizophrenic if you separate both. Also, you might desensitize yourself towards other girls, but the one day you find one you really like, you'll know it, and she will too. |
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| Author: | skills360 [ Wed Nov 16, 2011 4:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Breaking your PUA Hat |
Quote: I have been gaming for quite a while now and one thing I realized was that I started developing two personalities almost. The PUA side and the normal side. The PUA side was arrogant and never took a rejection personally. The normal side was just a typical AFC who just wanted to be happy. Soon I found myself putting on the PUA Hat and using it as a shield from breaking my own ego. What had really happened was I did not actually get rid of AA as I thought I did I only was pushing it off. The PUA hat allowed me to believe I wasn't getting rejected I just did not take the required steps. I soon found myself in a state of confusion wanting women to like the real me not the pua hat I put on. Then one day it happened I could not feel anything for women. I would see a women and see them as another number. Hey guess what zero AA and I just did what ever seemed right to keep the attention my way. Sounds good no? No it was the worst experience of my life I was going on dates all the time, and if they went sour I would not care and just move on to the next one. Then one day I realized I did not care about a single one of these girls. They were all just work in progress fucks. I would do what I believed would get me into their pants and nothing more or less, but by having this mentality i could never connect with any of them. I couldn't build comfort because I just saw it as a means to getting closer to my goal. Then one day I went and approached a girl who ruined my reputation for an entire sorority. Still I didn't feel anything for her. I just felt bad because of my reputation. All this is to say is that you can put on the the PUA hat, but in the long run you will learn to actually want to just be yourself. Whats the point of sleeping with a girl you don't care about. There is none really. Bragging rights will only get you so far. Learn to accept yourself and allow for you to put your normal side out there. Don't keep the hat on or else you will find yourself in depression that could make you feel worse than you did originally. Keep gaming remember you want a girl to genuinely want you not the fake personality you put up.
Bro, the problem is you did it all wrong, first you adapt whatever game, tactics to you and your personality no the other way around, second you leave the woman better than you found them, if i do not like a girl as a person and we do not get along i do not sleep with her, nor if the girl will get to attached, hurt or be a clinger..Is just not worth it... Pua is about being the best you, you can be, is not only about sleeping with a girl, part of being the best you, you can be is being the best man with SKILLS(a plug to me lol) for the woman you are perusing... I bet you were doing mm or one of those routine games... Anyways that is good it happen to you, you learn from your mistakes.. |
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