Are you on good terms with your ex girlfriends? Would it be weird if you called them up right now and asked to hang out? Would they laugh in your face?
Not that it really matters, but these are people you spent time and have memories with, good and bad. They may even know some things about you that nobody else does. For this reason, it could be argued that it's more desirable to be on good terms with these types of people. On the other hand, maybe it's better to break connections with them completely and only worry about new connections you will make. I suppose much of it depends on a case-by-case basis, and the type of person you are. Your thoughts and opinions?
Not many of you know me, but I'm a short, but not unattractive computer programmer. Due to my mental perception of myself, I've always portrayed myself as beta and therefore it's been harder for me to land a woman, and when I would have somebody interested in me, I'd become completely needy. When she would inevitably leave me due to my neediness, I would become resentful, the relationships would always end badly, and because of this I am not on good terms with any of my exes.
On one hand, who cares. They're exes for a reason. On the other hand, I think it's always good to be on good terms with people, if possible.
One quote from The Social Network sticks with me. "How do you do this thing where you manage to get all the girls to hate us". Being a somewhat nerdy and introverted computer programmer myself, I can relate. I can't think of a single one of my exes that I can call up and have a conversation with at any time. It's not something I like very much about me. I give all of my power to the woman, and needlessly create negative vibes. In the future I am going to handle relationships differently and retain control.
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