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| Author: | do80 [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 9:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | FR girl very attracted to me but I messed it up |
I'm re-posting this with some corrections and updates since I really need some opinions on this. I had one very frustrating experience: We went out one or two times, I could generate the right moods, the right feelings with this girl, it was very clear that she is interested in me... only I somehow broke it at one point and I don't know how or if I can repair it: The crash happened when I met her after I had a really bad day at work, I couldn't be so natural, confident, cocky and talky like usual. Everything went bad... I was hesitating... couldn't initiate appropriate kino (we went out and for some stupid reason we just sat at a big table me in front of her (she looked like she wanted another table where we could be closer but STUPID ME I just hurried to take the worst place)... it was difficult reaching her hands, no way I could be intimate and close to her) she usually is very kino-close to me and receptive, almost like a mirror, she likes it when I touch her, she touches back and the eye contact is very strong and sensual... I could say that most of the communication between us is non-verbal... But that night was an absolute disaster. And after some more awkward talk for the first time I started to talk about myself (I never do that, especially with her, I don't know why I did it.... so stupid) and after more out-of-sync interaction, at the end of the night it was really weird and I almost got a LJBF. After this she posted something on facebook like "...and things can be otherwise" so I could see clearly she was expecting something more from me, but I obviously failed. I just feel so frustrated that after one f****d up night I just messed-up that attraction and now it's all in a little weird situation. I don't know if I can save something or it's worth continuing. I am a really stubborn person, I can't live with the fact that I made a mistake, I am an absolute perfectionist, and I want to make it right at any cost! Anyways... i just hope I didn't look too "soft" compared to the image she had about me from the start. That night I started talking nonsense about how I am afraid of investing feelings in somebody right now so I just prefer to put them in my music, and this kind of bs... in other words I was unnecessarily honest to her when I shouldn't have. And more than this she kept on telling me that she doesn't want a new relationship because all of the guys she has been with before developed some kind of obsession for her, but I completely ignored this since she was giving me all the other non-verbal signs that she is interested in me, not only this but one time when she said this to me I just smiled to her and ask her "so I'm just like everybody else for you ?(in fact it's a little difficult to translate from my mother language but the meaning is very close)" and she said "noooo, it's not true, you're different" Now I think my biggest mistake was not going for the next step earlier with her (I had an occasion before, but I didn't do it) especially since I liked the fact that most of the real communication between us was non-verbal... we actually didn't get the chance to talk so much... So the update is that I met her again and acted like nothing happened, I was the same like before, a lot of kino and eye contact, flirting, jokes and all that, only we couldn't spend too much time together (she had a dancing class and I couldn't join her group since I was a beginner so I would have had to go to that class some other day, not together with her) so I told her I won't stay because I can't join the class so I'm gonna be really bored staying there (plus I had another place I had to go)... when I noticed she acted like she would've liked it if I stayed but she didn't say it (something like... "um.. okay, if you have to go... it's ok...") She went to her hometown for the weekend. I phoned her yesterday and she seemed ok, she invited me to go with her to some art exhibition tonight after she will come back in the city. Then after we hang up she called me again to tell me that she heard about another dance school and wants me to go together with her there later this week. What does this mean? It's some friendzone thing or she is giving me another chance? Anyways I decided I am gonna try one more time... if it doesn't work it's not worth trying anymore. P.S. This is not oneitis. I just don't want to let it go knowing that I didn't use everything on it. Meanwhile I went out with other girls, just this one is a little tricky. |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 5:36 pm ] |
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She's giving you another chance(s). Don't mess it up this time. May the Force be with you.
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| Author: | do80 [ Wed Mar 16, 2011 8:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Update |
Update: So after she invited me to that art exhibition she didn't call to confirm or say she can't come (witch was in fact a good thing for me because I was very busy that night) but I texted her saying something very simple like "are you gonna make it to that art show tonight?" but no reply. Next day I called her to ask her how about that salsa school she wanted we go to and I also asked her about that message. She said she arrived very late and she went to sleep and she didn't see the message until the next day blabla... The most annoying thing was about going to that salsa school. When she called me she said we can go Tuesday or Wensday, but I told her that Tuesday I'm busy so she said we can go wensday. So now when I talked to her she was talking a lot like she is very busy and she needs to do this and that and we can't go wensday because she has to be somewhere at 8 and we can just go friday. So I said ok but we can go wensday at 6 I'll be coming directly from work, at first she said it's ok, but after that I just said ok so see you tomorrow (since the day after was wensday) and then she said oh no, I can't make it tomorrow, I completely forgot I have to stay home and blablabla so i just said with a dissapointed tone "ok then... we talk later, bye" and hang up what the f is this? could it be because I said I'm busy tuesday and now she wants to punish me or play with me or what? or maybe she's just busy and she can't manage her time (she is really not the most organized person I've met) i'm really confused, what should I do now? call her? wait until friday and see if she calls me or what? |
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| Author: | TheFuckingItalian [ Wed Mar 16, 2011 12:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Update |
Quote: what the f is this? could it be because I said I'm busy tuesday and now she wants to punish me or play with me or what? or maybe she's just busy and she can't manage her time (she is really not the most organized person I've met)
She's a freak of time-organization. I hate those. They always want to do everything, so they take every sort of appointments, but they usually flake at the last minute. Some times they flake EVERY appointment and they just stay at home watching television because they're tired, lol... The best thing is to forget about her and start sarging other (less freaky) girls. If she changes her attitude and finds real time for you, give her an other shot. Anyway, this kind of girls is good for some ONS, but as soon as you get in some sort of relationship with them, they are a nightmare to deal with... So, clear your goals with this girl... if is a ONS go for it, I don't see a healthy thing that you chase her for some kind of relationship... |
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| Author: | do80 [ Wed Mar 16, 2011 12:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | hm... |
Hehe... I'm already going out with other girls... I just did it all along, I was never sure about this one. I just took contact with a hb8 with amazing eyes, with whom I realized I've been in the same class during college and I was preparing to write a new FR The thing with this one though is that she never did this before (I mean before that f---d up night I posted this message about), she used to be very punctual and she NEVER flaked, and now suddenly she's doing this... made me suspicious and made me wonder if it's still worth to try some other things. I liked this girl, we share many common things and she looks great... I thought it's worth trying everything before giving up. And one more thing I just realized. Before it was I who used to decide the time and place for a meeting, this time it was her proposal. Maybe she just messed up the time or maybe she wants to take control somehow.... Or maybe I'm thinking too much about it and I should just be busy doing other things and if she calls I'm just gonna give her another chance |
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