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| Author: | nightbreeze [ Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | 1st time(need a bit of encouragement :( ) |
hey guys so last night was the new year's eve and i used this as an opportunity to try my PUA skills in field for the first time! need i say more,i was a MESS!my goal was to kiss close any chick but i couldn't do that(you'll see that i had the oportunity)...it's like i couldn't push myself over the edge and thinking back not i feel very dumb :\ anyways my courage improved 200% since the last year's party...because last year i couldn't approach even a damn set and stayed like an AFC all night and looking how others had fun this time no more of that...i went in opened every set i could find in that house(a house party it was) and i had fun...on overall here's what happened: the first set that i opened was a one set...and i'm a crazy mofo since she was a clear HB10! but ASAP i realised that i couldn't follow any rules,i was like forgetting every routine...i knew them but i forgot where should i do what,so it was a clear mess...this happened with every set i opened... so i got with this HB10 miracolously into C1!and i was like CLOSE to kissing her,but the damn new year came and i missed the opportunity...this was the best i managed to do last night since she was a 24 yr old HB10 WTF lol afterwards it kinda went from itself,i had no problem approaching but i couldn't kiss close!i had chances with: a 16yr old HB9---cockblocked by her friends...god damn it two 15 yr olds HB9 and HB8...i just couldn't play them both...again i couldn't found the damn routines...i was like "do a spin boohoo bravo"...i couldn't isolate or change location... the HB8 later came to me as i was sitting and initiated a conversation...i could tell she was really into me,massive IOIs and stuff but i couldn't pull the damn trigger...awkward silence and BYE i also didn't approach a HB10 that was sending me IOIs and a HB7... my pivot(yeah i kinda had one) can also count as being into me in the beggining(HB8) but i suck Please guys i need some encouraging...i'm really confused! On one side I am proud with myself since i managed to open so many sets and actually have fun and open some really hot girls...but on the other side my game was a complete mess,i think my peacocking kinda saved me and the fact that i am not bad looking(+ i used negs and stories...but deffinetely not when needed),and the most important thing,i couldn't Kiss close!maybe if i would've set a higher goal here's what i'm sure i did wrong: *failed to Kino escalate with the HB10 and the HB8 that was sitting next to me(where were my testicles in all this!?!?!?!?) *failed to multithread with the HB8 *failed to neg the HB8 *failed to neg harder the HB10 *my energy levels were pretty low in the end Is it always so hard?I feel really discouraged now :\,like...i don't fill fulfilled and when i knew i could kiss close...damn it,it would've been a huge step for me and by a HB10 It's really like you're throwing yourself into a lion den and trying to entertain them so they're not gonna eat you EDIT:i almost forgot at about 3am me and my "pivot" decided to check out one of her places(this was mine) and i got there and stayed like an AFC...i was "sick"...yeah my ass i had aproach anxiety god damn it,and i knew it wtf is this about? they all were paired up anyway but i still could've opened some guy sets and had fun..they actually approached me and i started dancing with them but i was abit upset for some reason that my pivot was making out with one of the guys and i was like lol what a whore I got called gay by the drunk host...was it because i was sitting down with my pivot and not making a move...as i said AA got me oh yeah and also when i was clearly feeling bad because I drank alot and the HB 9 that was into the 2 set i presented earlier(the one i couldn't handle) asked me if i was on drugs...lol wut?is this some kind of IOI striking a convo like that? i was really pale i must admit |
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| Author: | Tubbly [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 12:42 am ] |
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Dude, i was in the exact same position as you where in.. (im new also), except i didnt open as many as you did but i managed to K-Close! |
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| Author: | stuckupcurlyguy [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 2:05 pm ] |
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You're overthinking things, man. Of course you're going to fail first time! Why worry about all this "Phases of Attraction" crap and memorising routines, kiss gambits, hoo hah... What you say is only 20% of communication anyway! Just learn the skills, keep approaching, keep going. THAT is the difference between a PUA and a regular guy. Persistence, forgetting about social rejection, no fear. The willingness to crash and burn 49 times and get the girl on the 50th. |
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| Author: | MyNameIsCanada [ Sun Jan 02, 2011 2:54 pm ] |
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Yeah dude, even after I had picked up a thing or two about PUA, I spent orientation week in my 1st year of university solo-approaching girls non stop. I didn't know anybody so I spent the entire week by myself. I'd say I got rejected at least 50 times that week, with nothing to show for it, until at 11pm on the last night of O-week I met an HB8 where everything went right. Admittedly I dated her for 3 years, then straight into another year long relationship, so my skills were pretty much gone after all that. But at least I'd proved to myself that it was possible. And a lesson from that first relationship - telling a girl that you like her for her personality, but you've dated hotter girls, is a surefire way to make her obsessed with you in a bad way, and you half lose interest. It was a rocky three years! |
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